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*ourelockedout
writes:I'm really hurt. My best friend C and I have been bffs for 5 years. We've had our share of ups and downs, but always managed to get through it and remain close as we were before. He'd been into me, like, majorly into me for 2 years. He said he was in love with me and he sure as hell proved it. I was always into someone else or whatever, but last fall I finally gave him a chance. We dated for 5 months or so and broke up because of distance / this girl near him had a crush on him. He told me he was lonely without me there so he gave the girl a try. They started hanging out and such. Keep in mind everyday he would still tell me he loved me and his actions proved it as well. He would say he'd never stop loving me, all the good stuff they say to reel you in. Then all of a sudden, he stopped. They started dating and our texts got shorter and farther apart. I was hurt because for one, I love him. I didn't wanna see him with someone else even if it was just for the meantime and 2, he was my best friend and I missed talking to him like we used to. His girlfriend was threatened by me and always sent me pics of herself using his phone. She would send bra pics, curse me out, the stuff you'd expect from an intimidated girl I guess. I would talk to him about it and ask if he would tell her to stop because it was pretty annoying. He said he knew she did that and he didn't even try to stop her. At this point I was just fed up because it had been too much to handle. Then we got in a fight and he sent me this long message about how I'm not important to him and things like that. I'm sure you can assume I was really offended and hurt and just.. sad. It was awful. I didn't reply for about a week and then I told him that we needed to talk. I sent him a message saying that we both have things to be sorry for. Me for trying to fight for him to stay in my life and be important to him when it obviously didn't work, and him for acting the way he's been. I'm just so upset and I want help. Do I try to revive our friendship? What do I do? :(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2017):
 No he will never just be a friend again you both crossed that barrier. Also he does not love you, maybe he thought he did in the past, but the communication died down because he was growing a relationship with his current girlfriend. I think its more she is trying to get across to you to leave her boyfriend alone more than her feeling intimidated. You need to stop contacting him now.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 June 2017):
 I say no, leave him be.
He is NO friend to you and sorry to burst your bubble OP, he doesn't love you either. The way he treated you when he met HER (while "trying" to be with you) that doesn't SHOW love. saying "ILY" doesn't MAKE it true. He KNEW exactly what buttons to push with you to get into your bed and have YOU be the one chasing him for a while.
He GAVE his GF access to his phone so SHE could harass you. And he KNEW she was doing it. Most likely ENJOYING the drama that HE was the center off. Having two girls "fight" over him. Now that is stuff to salivate over, isn't it?
If I were you I'd block HIM (and her) on EVERY social media and SET your privacy setting to high so NEITHER can go troll you anonymously either...
Then I would honestly suggest YOU get a new number. THAT way when those two are over and done with at some point in time HE won't start his "wooing" of you again. Because I can easily see him do that. You are his "go-to" girl for when he doesn't HAVE "better" (not that other girls are BETTER than you, but in his eyes, you are just the rebound/between girl and quite frankly you should want more for yourself).
He is good with words, you know that too.
Make new friends. Try female friends.
Let him and his drama-llama GF live in the past. Move on from this. Know that you are BETTER than this and deserve MUCH better treatment from friends.
He sounds like an immature twat so his new GF and he are well matched.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2017): Dont make any effort to revive the friendship because this guy is no friend to you.
He allows his girlfriend to harrass you so get yourself a new simm card for the phone and dont give him your number.
You will feel better when neither he or she can contact you.
You dont need friends like that.
Decent people dont behave like that. They sound very immature so dont even spit on them!
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reader, N91  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 No, because this isn't a friendship anymore. It stopped being that when you guys started dating. He is with someone else now and you obviously still have feelings for him.
It's not worth the hassle and heartache that it will cause. I know it sucks, you will miss him, but you will meet someone else that you can have that closeness with. Don't settle.
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