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Should I ask her out again or should I take it as her not being interested?

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Question - (16 March 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 16 March 2016)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have the biggest crush on my coworker.

We hardly see each other or have alone time at work. When we do work together I feel a lot of tension and I get nervous around her.

I think she may sense that I like her because I do stare at her a lot. We have each others number which we exchanged for work communication but a few days ago I decided I couldn't take it any longer, I had to ask her out.

So I sent her a fake accidental text pretending I was texting my friend asking to go out for drinks. She was suprised at first but then she said it sounded like a good idea, so I told her she should come but she said she would have to take a raincheck and she told me the reason why and thanked me for the invite.

Should I ask her out again or should I take it as her not being interested?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (16 March 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntIs she in to females? I would just say to her if there is any time she would like to meet for a drink to let you know that it could be fun, and then just take it from there. Asking her out then pretending it was for someone else is just game playing. Just be up front and honest.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (16 March 2016):

Honeypie agony auntI would leave the ball in her court.

And I agree with Danielepew, dating co-workers is rarely a great idea.

And if she ISN'T into girls like you are, it's even worse. That is beyond awkward.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (16 March 2016):

Danielepew agony auntDating coworkers is a bad idea. If things go wrong, the person is there around you all day.

Trying to hit on a coworker who is not interested is even worse.

I think you should not do this. Besides, don't stare - that freaks people out.

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