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writes:I have known this girl for about six weeks, she is 23 and im 25. When we first met she was in a failing relationship, her ex had cheated on her several times, he did it again and she split from him. In the next five weeks we have met three times and on two occasion we have almost had sex although both times she panicked and backed out at the last stage. When we talk she tells me she is besotted with me and I feel exactly the same, yet tonight I found out she is staying with him somewhere before a event tomorrow she brought him for his birthday before they split, what am I ment to think or do? She told me via text she was with him and that she was upset at the situation and didnt know what else to say or do. Since the day we met we have text every day and she gives me the indication she is on the same page as me. Should I run or should I wait it out for her to realise she shouldnt be with him? Thanks
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (8 July 2012):
It’s unlikely that she’s a complete liar. She probably is upset about the situation, but surely she could have tried to sell the tickets, offered them to a friend or if he had them told him to take some-one else? She’s not over the ex. You’re probably all the things she’d like him to be, but that’s no basis for a relationship. So soon in, you should wish her well and walk away before you get more hurt.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): Run dude, run now!
She's a rebound girl and you're her rebound, you're not going to win this one and you really shouldn't get anymore emotionally invested.
Or if you really want to learn what being a rebound is like then stick around, I can tell you if you do stick around, you'll never be caught out like that again because it will sting like a bitch.
So maybe it would be better if you stayed around just to learn that lesson for the future, maybe that's the only way you'll learn that these things never work, she's only barely out of a relationship and you were her rebound.
Some people never get that and are always hopeless romantics about the whole situation, hopefully for you, you're not that much of an idiot but if this is the first time you've come across this kind of thing then stick around and see how it works but guard your feelings carefully OP, I guarantee you 100% you won't get the girl.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (8 July 2012):
 This girl clearly doesn't know her own mind.
Or it sounds as if she wants to work it out with her ex boyfriend - by the sound of it he's not so "ex" after all - even though all indications are that this is not possible.
I would advise you to stop texting and talking on the phone to see if she can sort out once and for all whether she wants to be with him, you - or neither of you. You also need some space and time to figure out what YOU want.
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