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Pregnant with another man's baby but wants me to be the father

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Question - (2 October 2010) 9 Answers - (Newest, 7 October 2010)
A male United States age 36-40, *axisfocused writes:

me and my ex girlfriend moved back in together, after breaking up pretty badly our first go around, i believe in my heart dearly that she cheated on me during our relationship, not even 24 hours of us breaking up she had another man in our apartment.during our breakup she slept with 8 other guys including some of her ex boyfriends that were married with children. we would get up for the holidays and then breakup again during our 10 month breakup, now that she is pregnant with some younger guys baby she wants me to the the father, we argue everyday she even called the cops and told them bold face lies that i threatrn to get violent, i find myself acting bipolar towards her when i begin to think about her laying down with other guys in this small town. do you think i should leave her or try to make it work

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010):

Great decision.

Run, and dont ever look back.

you deserve better. you should not settle for second best and man, she became used goods, over and over again. let some other sucker take care of here kid!!!

-LoveGirl

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A male reader, maxisfocused United States +, writes (5 October 2010):

maxisfocused is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you guys very much for your feedback. I needed the brutal truth. Im going take the advice and run.

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A female reader, followtheblackrabbit Cayman Islands +, writes (4 October 2010):

followtheblackrabbit agony auntRun and burn your tracks. This woman does not deserve you and she will make your life so miserable, hell will look like Heaven's pearly gates. She seems unstable, with little morals and little respect for herself. I feel bad for the child...But yes, run. She'll saddle you with ten more kids that aren't yours, run up bills, and if things don't her way, she'll probably pull another stunt like that one with the police. Find yourself a nice girl who will be an asset you. This one is a bundle of bad news. The kind of woman I'll warn my sons about if/when I have 'em :p best of luck!

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A male reader, Isee'mall Netherlands +, writes (3 October 2010):

What Cerberus said! :D

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010):

Pack your things and run as far and as fast as you can brother.

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A female reader, loveliee28 United States +, writes (2 October 2010):

Seriously? Leave her crazy ass before you end up on the Maury show. Calling the cops and lying on you, being pregnant and wanting YOU to be the father(because, after all, you must be a sucker)? That isn't enough for you to want to leave her? I'm going to bet that you're paying the rent in this household as well. She's going to bleed your ass dry, leave you with that kid, and go back to one of her married men. Is that what you want?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010):

I think you should keep trying.

This girl is a keeper!

She's mentally stable, emotionally stable, reliable, monogamous, deeply respectful, humble, caring, kind, affectionate, trustworthy, protective, pregnant with your child, reasonable, calm, logical, intelligent, friendly and above all she makes you happy all of the time.

Oh wait, she's none of those things.

You should keep her anyway, so that the next few years of your life are a living hell and you can wake up one day a broken man with no faith in humanity. That is the future we all dream of.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010):

Do you get off on the pain? Is that it?

Cause thats the only reason I can see you'd stick around and put up with this kind of crap.

Flynn 24

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (2 October 2010):

Please, PLEASE end this nightmare now.

Seriously look at the situation.

First of all, you believe she cheated. Within 24 hours of you initially breaking up, she had another guy over. During the break-up, she slept with married men who were ex's (so she's not over them). Now, she is pregnant with some other guy's baby and wants you. And when you argue, she suddenly claims you're violent and even went to the police.

Wake up - you're a cash cow/ATM card to her. You're acting like a total doormat here. She's behaved abysmally, and now expects you to pick up he pieces. All she will do is use your money, argue, threaten you with police action and make your life hell. And this is without the problem of taking on someone else's child.

For your own sake and mental health, end it.

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