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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of nearly two years has been texting his ex behind my back, I caught him at a glance by seeing her name on Facebook I said nothing but when he was sleeping I looked the messages are harmless when sober but some are when he was drunk and they are him saying he loves her and they could leave together etc this is the second time hes done it with her last time was when he was drunk and hes also said he loves another ex by messages while drunk again Im heartbroken and still haven't said anything to him. Hes always traeedt me right we talk about the future I couldn't ask for a better man really but now this has happened. Im also nearly 8 months pregnant with his baby so theres a lot on the line ive no idea what to do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 November 2013):
 if getting drunk and contacting ex partners is common (it's happened at least twice) then perhaps he has a drinking problem.
YOU cannot fix an alcoholic. And even if he does not drink daily he could still be an alcoholic. and as such you could never leave the baby alone with him.
I'm married to an active alcoholic and i would never let him near my children if they were small.
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reader, shna  +, writes (25 November 2013):
 Im sorry your going through a terrible experience when your pregnant its such a shame !! You need to confront him about this sit down and talk about it you shouldnt be under this much stress never mind argueing when in your condition!
What messages are the ex's sending back to his drunk txts?
Have you asked him about this before?
Your about to have a child with this man so you need to tell him to get his prioritys straight
Its all or nothing ! This is not a silly teenage love affair this is real life and he is hurting a lot of people and creating future tension and arguments for when the child arrives !? Im cant tell you what to decide its u and your babys future !
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 November 2013):
Before anything else, you need to speak to him and know where you stand. I think his treatment of you is vile, to be honest, but I don't think anyone can offer you truly great advice until you've spoken to him and you know where you stand. Once you know that, once you know what he really wants, whether he'd like to continue or end what you two have, then you'll get better advice.
You need to talk to him. And please also get some other support from friends and family if you can, as I'm sure that this must be very hard for you and you really don't need all this stress right now.
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