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We're trying to conceive but he can't ejaculate! What can I do?

Q.   Hi, I hope some of you will be able to help. This is probably going to be long but I need advice real bad. I don't know what else to do! OKay, so my partner has difficulty ejaculating for some reason. But the sex is good, at least I think so, so i...

A.   9 May 2008: OK first of all, has he been to a doctor to sort this out? I doubt that anybody on Dear Cupid can tell you exactly why your "partner" can't ejaculate, so him seeing a doctor is the best idea. On another note, if you're really ready for a baby ... (read in full...)

My husband displays no affection towards me whatsoever and I'm almost ready to leave! Help!

Q.   i get no affection from my husband, should I stay or go? I have been married for nearly 3 years now and imtiamy has always been an issue for us. My husband will not touch me, hug me or kiss me, occasionally he allows me to hug him but wont hug...

A.   7 September 2007: My sister was married to a guy like that. She would try & get affectionate with him & he would totally blow her off. Which made me wonder what the hell's she doing with him? She was 22 when they married, 25 when they divorced. She's pretty much any ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and wondering what i'm doing with my life! Any advice please?

Q.   Right..at the minute im at school..i dont really no what to put..i have just started year 11. im 15. my problem is, i dont think i have many good friends..i walk around school at break and dinner on my own, that makes me seem like the loner loserish ...

A.   5 September 2007: It's not as though if you come to America you are going to be Famous. There are millions of unsigned artists in this country. Why Eminem? He's not really a good role model and his sucess is one in a hundred million or more. I'm not judging you for ... (read in full...)

Is is too late to ask for a change?

Q.   Ok I've been seeing this guy for about 7 weeks. It started off being some casual fun, but has since developed into something more serious, calling and txting several times a day. We agreed to keep things 'open' when we started. We both enjoy snogg...

A.   5 September 2007: It's probably not going to happen the way you want it to. If this is what he wants from you, just casual open fun I don't see him wanting to give up threesomes and etc. to be in an exclusive relationship with you. I think that if deep down inside ... (read in full...)

My wedding is coming up soon and my fiancee's parents aren't offering to pay for anything (or even send invitations), while my parents are! Am I overreacting?

Q.   My wedding is coming up in a few days. My mom and step dad are having it at their home. They are paying for everything. My real dad bought my wedding gown and wedding cake. My mom's paying for the food, drinks, minister, photophragrapher, ...

A.   5 September 2007: Yes, I have been working since I was 17, and he has as well. I just left my job in April to have our first baby. I am expecting again, I am now a stay at home mother. We have only been together for about a year and a half, however we've been friends ... (read in full...)

Why would my ex call me for love advice?

Q.   Hello All, My ex byfriend, also the father of my son, recently called me to get advice. He claims he could not think of anyone else to call. He tells me he is leaving the current girlfriend for a new prospect he recently meet. But the weird th...

A.   4 September 2007: you asked this yesterday. who cares why he asked you. if you don't want him back, cut off contact.... (read in full...)

We plan on being together in the future, but I want her now, too!

Q.   My girlfriend and I are in a distance relationships, different colleges. Been together for 5 months. Been having some difficulties lately with school starting up again and not knowing when we are going to see each other next. Also, she is busy b/c ...

A.   4 September 2007: your question is too long.... (read in full...)

When I suggested dinner she said we 'need to start fresh in all aspects'

Q.   Hi all, Okay, here's the deal. My ex and I of 5 years broke up 3 mos ago. About 5 weeks ago, she sent me an e-mail saying "change is hard" and "we need to start fresh in all aspects" and "i hope you agree and understand"...this was in response ...

A.   4 September 2007: Well, the fact that you've done this before broken up and gotten back together, in my opinion is a sure sign that you're not meant to be together. And as far as the marriage comment she made to you: I have told a few men in my life that I wanted to ... (read in full...)

My friend has been in rehab and doesn't seem to want to talk t me anymore. Is that normal?

Q.   Do people get depressed and not really want to interact with others when they are trying to sober up? My friend is an alcoholic and she went to rehab and she's trying to stay sober, but I haven't heard from her and she used to call me a lot. ...

A.   28 August 2007: No I do not drink b/c I am pregnant. I did used to drink but no where near as much as she did. And she knows I disapproved of her behavior very much.... (read in full...)

Can any of you relate to me?

Q.   Some female advice please I'm a mid 30's guy and happily single. It's really great to have my own life and I'm really happy except for the lack of intimacy and female interaction. Right now its just not an option to be looking for a wife and I don...

A.   28 August 2007: Are you just looking for a woman who you can have sex with? I know you said you don't want a f-buddy. But you also said you want a woman who keeps her options open. You don't want a wife. You don't want someone who will want to live with you. And ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is pregnant but pushes me away. Should i just move on?

Q.   I will try and be as direct as possible. I dated a girl for 7 months. She had her own place but stayed at mine. I then sold my house and moved in with her on temporary basis. You could tell there was some tension after a month of the new ...

A.   27 August 2007: Some women resent the father of their baby after the man gets her pregnant. I really don't know why. Maybe you could ask a therapist... But I know a few women who were happy with thier boyfriends until they got pregnant. Then they wanted nothing to ... (read in full...)

Moving to a new town, I find myself in minority! How do I immerse in a society I dislike?

Q.   I just moved from NYC to a new town and I am really scared of trying to fit in here. I would love to have friends and have a life the problem is that people here are SO different to what I am used to. Please don't think I am a snob, but the only way ...

A.   27 August 2007: I live in Michigan... maybe you'd think I was a red neck?? Everyone is different, you see. You only have to be there a year. Don't worry about it. It isn't going to change who you are.... (read in full...)

Is it normal for boys to stare at other girls while out with their fiancees?

Q.   Is it normal for guys to stare at girls while out with their fiancees? I understand that looking or glancing at someone of the opposite sex once in a while is natural, but my fiance just stares at girl for more than a few seconds while he is right ...

A.   27 August 2007: No, not all guys do it. I have never dated a guy who did that! That is extremely rude and I believe that is a sign that he can't be trusted if he can't even stop his drooling over other women when you're standing right next to him. And he acts like ... (read in full...)

I don't have very much pubic hair, will this freak guys out?

Q.   Hi. I'm a fifteen year old girl. I was just wondering, I don't have very much pubic hair. Will guys get freaked out when they finger me? Or when they do any sexual activity with me?...

A.   24 August 2007: Why do men like women with shaved vaginas? I was told by a guy I knew in high school that the only reason is because men like to fantasize that the woman with a shaved vagina is a little pre-pubescent girl..I know that's wrong. But it makes sense. ... (read in full...)

I want to dump my friend and she is not taking the hint

Q.   Hey, I have this friend that I have known for a yearish. And I see her quite a bit but I don't want to keep seeing her because I have other friends that I prefer to hang around with. She keeps calling me up and asking me if I want to hang out, and I ...

A.   21 August 2007: Don't tell her you don't wanna see her. That is cruel & will scar her. Just quit answering her calls. Eventually, she will stop calling.... (read in full...)

My boyfriends sister wants to move in with us. He said ok, but I dont want her here!

Q.   I'm 2 months pregnant, and have a 4 month old at home. My boyfriend works, I am a stay at home mom. Last night, my b.f. got a call from his sister who lives 2 hours up north with her b.f. Something happened, she didn't say what but she was packing ...

A.   21 August 2007: The moderator put the headline wrong. My b.f. has not told her yes, and it's not that I don't want her here, I really can't afford it and I honestly wouldn't want anyone to move in b/c of privacy and financial reasons. I do like her as a person.... (read in full...)

I have fallen for someone else, do I dump my boyfriend of 5 years?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, he treats me pretty bad, he relies on me for everything! I told him that I had had enough and wanted him to go! So he did but then came back and kept telling me he would change but the thing is I have ...

A.   16 August 2007: I meant that after you tell him you want to break up, then do not talk to him anymore. He sounds like the kind of guy who will keep trying to get you to keep in contact with him like my ex did. If you answer his calls, email him back, etc. he wil ... (read in full...)

I gave the dog to my sis in the end, but i can't stop crying now.

Q.   I know this is madness but i guess i just wanted a moan. I posted a question a couple weeks ago about a 7 month old dog i had that trashed my home. She was only a puppy. Anyway my sis came to visit at the weekend and fell in love with her, my ...

A.   16 August 2007: Aww, that is so sweet. I love dogs too, and I had a basset hound and a corgi that I shared with an ex-boyfriend. I went through a lot with those dogs. Me and my ex broke up and because of where I moved to, I couldn't take the dogs. I never see them ... (read in full...)

I want to make him feel appreciated without all that slushy romantic stuff

Q.   I am just wondering what can I do to make my b.f. know he's appreciated without actually telling him (he hates romantic crap and so do I) He has intimacy issues, and I do too. I am fine with this. But what can I do that isn't over the top? I am a ...

A.   9 August 2007: I have been in relationships where men have been romantic. But I don't feel like I need that, I've been there. Yes it'd be nice once in a while. But since he is nothing like that, why would I want to make him feel uncomfortable? Actions speak louder ... (read in full...)

Why am I thinking that my bf is cheating on me, when I know he hasn't?!

Q.   I have been thinking a lot lately about my boyfriend cheating on me, although he hasn't. I don't know why, if it's from reading the ?'s on this site all the time, and I just found out that my friend's boyfriend cheated on her with her best friend ...

A.   5 August 2007: No, he actually only goes to work & comes home. He never goes out w/o me. But if he's at the dentist or smth. my mind starts to wander for no reason at all. I've never had a reason to think it. I guess it's just from hearing abt. others doing it, it ... (read in full...)

What's the problem?

Q.   I had a baby 3 months ago. I just found out I am pregnant again. I am happy because I wanted my daughter to have a sibling close in age to play with etc. I feel that it will make her happier, I also really love being a mom. I am not married to t...

A.   23 July 2007: I agree with you 100% Eddie. My mom has been married three times, and my dad twice. I had a horrible upbringing. I don't want that for my babies..I want them to have two parents who are married, and together forever. That is why I am upset..I really ... (read in full...)

What's the problem?

Q.   I had a baby 3 months ago. I just found out I am pregnant again. I am happy because I wanted my daughter to have a sibling close in age to play with etc. I feel that it will make her happier, I also really love being a mom. I am not married to t...

A.   23 July 2007: I am a stay at home mom, that is why I don't have medical insurance (no job). I am sure I could afford to buy insurance, but why do that when I can get it free for the duration of my pregnancy? And no, he doesn't nag me for sex. I actually like to ... (read in full...)

What's the problem?

Q.   I had a baby 3 months ago. I just found out I am pregnant again. I am happy because I wanted my daughter to have a sibling close in age to play with etc. I feel that it will make her happier, I also really love being a mom. I am not married to t...

A.   23 July 2007: He isn't "waiting" to get married. We just don't talk about it. Like I said, I don't want to nag him & I feel that if he wanted to marry me he would talk about it, at least once. My family doesn't know my feelings, no one but I do b/c I keep these ... (read in full...)

I am sad when thinking about not being friends with her, but I can't watch her ruin her life.

Q.   A friend of mine for the last 10 years is a really bad alcoholic, she's got a 2 1/2 year old daughter, she's a single mom, the dad is nowhere to be found. The state gave up the dad's rights because they couldn't find him. She's neglecting her kid ...

A.   19 July 2007: I know people think that I should get her child into care, but that isn't my place. She has family that should be more concerned with the care of her daughter. I don't want to be the reason her child is taken away from her, and all her family live ... (read in full...)

He never pulls out before he ejacualtes and I don't want another child right now!

Q.   My boyfriend always ejaculates in me, unless I tell him specicfically every time "pull out" And it can be that we have sex and I tell him to pull out, and he does then 5 min. later he is ready again, and if I don't tell him to pull out that time ...

A.   29 June 2007: Actually, when I was pregnant, he did pull out every single time, wether I told him to or not, because I was afraid if infection. But now that I am not pregnant, I know he's prefectly able to and I am thinking that it has to do with the fact that he ... (read in full...)

I was a virgin and now he wants to be f*** buddies! I'm so confused, please help!

Q.   I just lost my virginity early yesterday morning roughly 4am (we were at a wedding before). I really liked him and I met him briefly before. It wasn't sore but I bled a little--I didn't tell him I was a virgin...do you think he might have known? ...

A.   24 June 2007: Don't let this b*stard use you. You're not pregnant though if he used a rubber and it didn't break. It is probably just the lube from the rubber. Or vaginal secretions from getting excited. If I were u, I also wouldn't give this guy the satisfaction ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is 17 years older than I--I worry about how other people see us!

Q.   I'm dating a man 17 years older than me. I really like this guy but sometimes I wonder how people view us as a couple. I think it personally doesn't matter but I would like to know what other peoples' views on this are? ...

A.   24 June 2007: You're in your 30's so honestly, it doesn't matter. You're both mature adults. If you were a teenager or in your early 20's, that would be a different story. I wouldn't judge you if you're 33 and dating a man who is 50. That is your choice. ... (read in full...)

I get chills from looking at him when I don't even know him!

Q.   I saw this guy at Six Flags, and when i saw him i got the chills and the way he looked at me gave me chills and I cant stop thinking about him or dreaming about him. How do I stop loving a guy I don't even know?...

A.   24 June 2007: Will you ever see him again? the odds are that you won't, so don't have unreasonable expectations. However, it is completly normal to feel lust for a stranger. It has happened to all of us. Some ppl call it love at first sight, but it is in reality, ... (read in full...)

Obsessed with taking my wife's 17 year old sister to bed!

Q.   I am happily married,,my wife is 26yrs old and I am 46.The problem is that I have this obsession with my wife's sister,,she is 17yrs old I want to take her to bed and she seems to have feelings for me as well.What do I do?...

A.   15 June 2007: Seriously, grow up. Your wife of 20 yrs. younger than you is still not young enough for you that you need to chase a teenage girl? Get a life..That is just sad. I hope you do take her to bed & your wife leaves you. You deserve misery. You don't ... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: Call for new volunteer moderators (please read carefully)

Q.   Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING! Moderators approve new questions, think up of interesting and accurate titles and approve/reject a...

A.   15 June 2007: I am a stay at home mom, I am on Dear Cupid all the time, all day pretty much. I have a great grasp of the English language, and have been using the site for at least 6 months now. If you're interested, I would love to be a moderator for the site. ... (read in full...)

He's a good dad, I guess but the thought of me spending the rest of my life with someone who can never be serious and who smokes, and who has no goals just makes me mad.

Q.   I feel really bad. I love my boyfriend a lot, but lately I have been having thoughts that I don't want to be having. We have a 2 month old daughter. He was working a lot of hours, and I stay home and take care of her and the house, bills, dinner, ...

A.   15 June 2007: we're not married, so a marriage counselor??? And we're not going bankrupt because we don't have a mortgage, which I said. People need to read a little closer..... (read in full...)

Should I get my boyfriend a gift for father's day (even though he isn't the daddy)... ?

Q.   I don't know if I should get my boyfriend a gift for father's day. i know he isn't my father. but we just had our 1st baby 2 months ago, and he is a really good daddy to her. He also works and supports us. I just want to let him know he's ...

A.   13 June 2007: He hates cake...lol. That's the 1 thing he hates. But the hand print idea is really good. Thanks!!... (read in full...)

He thinks he's not good enough for me because he's disabled! How do I prove to him that's not true??

Q.   what do you do when your fiance thinks he is never good enough for you, just because he is disabled? how do i prove to him that i really love him for who he is?...

A.   7 June 2007: Marry him.... (read in full...)

I love him, but when things get bad he always runs away! I'd like someone stronger than that...I think. I'm confused!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year, we moved in together 4 months ago and we have been bickering quite alot. When we are good together we are great. Anyway we had a row and he backed his bags and went to stay with his parents ...

A.   7 June 2007: Find someone with a backbone. He seems too much of a mommy's boy. You need a man to take care of you, not run away on you.... (read in full...)

What does it mean that she gave me her number and asked for mine??

Q.   This probably sounds rediculous, but what exactly does it mean when a girl gives you her phone number and asks for your's ... completely out of the blue? And, if she was perhaps interested in me, will she forget it because I was unable to give ...

A.   7 June 2007: No, you haven't blown it. I like guys that are really shy & i guess weird is the word for it. Some of my boyfriends though it was a joke when I asked them for their #. But it isn't, so don't be discouraged. And if you like her, find a way to show ... (read in full...)

I'm 18, virgin, and furious!

Q.   Hi, I'm quite a pathetic case really. I'm 18 and still a virgin. Being a bloke its not something that i've admitted - I even spun my best mates off with bullshit stories about how i got layed. I hate myself for it. I don't understand why t...

A.   24 May 2007: what is uni? I am in the usa, and it's fine if you're still a virgin at 18. I wish I would have waited. I was 12 when I had sex. Maybe you can "jokingly" suggest that you & your friend lose your virginity to each other..then see what she says. If ... (read in full...)

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