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writes:i am extremely disappointed with my bf.we r in a comitted relationship and yeah its a ldr.its now 7.5 months.i am upset because he watches a lot of porn movies which irritates me.and if i say i don't like it he says so what,its so normal.this breaks my confidence.i am beautiful bt i am having small boobs.sometimes he says don't worry i will make it a basketball,right now its just a handball!i feel shattered when he says like that.and i don't know how to stop him to watch porn movies.moreover he forget our anniversary dates.doesn't msg me much,when he is alone then only calls,with his friends he completely forgets me,now a days he doesn't call and hardly messages.i am very very depressed,crying all the time.we both really love each other,but now i think its only me who love him,i don't want a break up,but don't know what to do,plz help.is he avoiding me?
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (18 February 2010):
 Oh dearling..you are so very young to be in a LDR! They are sooo difficult to maintain..I know, I'm in my 40's and have been in them. As for your boyfriend, if he's close to your age, then he's young, probably immature, and probably cannot handle the distance and that could explain what he is acting the way he is. LDR require so much work! Maybe he just isn't ready for all the work they require? You can talk to him, but I'm not sure if it will help. Many guys/men do watch porn, thats true. And if you push them on it, they'll just start being more secretive about it. If you are the only one trying to keep this relationship, then it isn't going to succeed. Talk to your guy, express your feelings, but be prepared that at your age, he just may not be able to commit to this kind of a relationship.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Hun, very sorry but I think that this guy is trying to tell you that you are no longer No. 1 in his life.
I dont believe that he loves you as much as you love him... he is more concerned with his own pleasures [porn] and his nasty comments about your boobs...
I know its going to hurt a lot, but its time for you to tell him that you are no longer going to put up with his lack of interest in the relationship and that it is over.
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reader, Angel1992  +, writes (18 February 2010):
Hi,
My fiance likes to look at other girls in magazines and on porn movies and i absolutly hate it, but there's nothing us girls can do. They're men and thats just something most of them do. I know how you feel, it makes you feel unattractive and unloved. But unfortunately, thats just the way some things go :( x
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