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My crush is being weird!

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Question - (10 September 2017) 9 Answers - (Newest, 14 September 2017)
A male United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

last week I ended pulling a gorgeous female while I was out with my friends, and we seem to have a lot in common with each other, she always liked me at school, but for some reason we didn't end up getting together, now we are, she sent me a friend request on facebook which I accepted, and now she's being completely weird with me, saying she doesn't want me to message her.

what could be wrong here?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (14 September 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntOkay so she got weird after Sex. So maybe she was just looking for one thing? Or maybe she is with someone or likes someone else? Honestly if it was me and someone was asking me to stop writing to them then I would unfriend them and move on.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2017):

pulling means you're successful in getting someone's number and you talk to them further, we slept together and then she became weird after that.

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A male reader, Riot2017 Mexico +, writes (11 September 2017):

She is dating someone else, and doesn't wants to get into trouble, but she wants to have you as a contact, just in case her plan A fails.

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A female reader, ALM12 United States + , writes (11 September 2017):

ALM12 agony auntYes I a agree with youcannotbeserious. Don't bother chasing her just let her be. Take the hints she's giving you about Facebook as she probably has a bf and she doesn't want to mess things up with him.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (11 September 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntIn your shoes, I would take her at her word and just not bother chasing. If she is messing you about right at the start, it does not bode well for the future. She may have some personal issues or even a boyfriend she conveniently "forgot" about in the excitement of reconnecting with you. Whatever the reason, she is acting like she is still at school instead of like the adult she now is. Stay with her and you will probably be posting on here a lot more. You deserve better.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (11 September 2017):

Maybe she was tipsy when you first met; and being sober she doesn't like you as much. Having a good chat in one night doesn't make for a romance, my friend.

Bear in-mind, a friend request on FB is not the same as asking for a date.

You just have to move on. Why waste any time even thinking about it? Man-up and shrug it off.

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A female reader, This_is_not_a_dress_rehearsal United States +, writes (10 September 2017):

This_is_not_a_dress_rehearsal agony aunt I'm wondering what pulling means, did you get her phone number or did you go to bed with her or somewhere in between? That comment you made "I ended up pulling a gorgeous female, " if that's the way you have been talking on social media about her, then I totally see why she's distancing herself from you. You sound like you are trying to be a pick up artist instead of reconnecting with an old friend that you really liked back in school.

Or she could put emphasis on good writing and communication skills, and doesn't like the way you present yourself on social media? Who knows? We need more info to help you

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 September 2017):

Honeypie agony auntSounds like she has a BF...

Honestly...? I'd unfriend her and move on. You are wasting your time on someone who wants "friends" or "likes" on Facebook, not an actual friend or more.

Her asking you not to message you on Facebook pretty much spells it out that she wants the "number" added to the total number of "friends" but to actually communicate? nope.

TOTALLY let this one go. She sounds like a drama-llama just waiting to start shit.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (10 September 2017):

N91 agony auntWouldn't even try to figure it out.

If she's confusing you before things have even begun it's not worth it.

Just forget about it

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