A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend broke up about a week ago. On Saturday he was kinda mean and said we argue and fight too much and he's just done. I am confused because he keeps calling me and says he wants to be friends. If he wants to break up don't they usually just stop all contact and are done with it. I have a daughter and he asked me today if he could still talk to her. See I am tired of not being able to move on like he wants if he's going to talk to me every day like everything is fine. I told him that we should stop talking because its confusing me and he keeps sending me text messages and asked if I could have my mom call him so he could talk to my daughter. On Monday he kept asking me what I did all weekend but than would pretend he didn't care. I am so confused what should I do, or what is going on that he won't say. He's a very stubborn man and won't admit that he was wrong but he sure is acting like it, or am I just wrong.
View related questions:
broke up, move on, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): For starters, if the two of you have broken up then i think it would probably be best if he didn't talk to your daughter, that would be confusing for her and he would always be in your lives so you would find it hard to move on if you still had feelings for him. In other words all or nothing is best in that case.Do you think you guys argue alot? What are they mostly about? Constant bickering can ware anybody down no matter how much you love the person. I do think he loves you and your daughter, but its always best to talk about these things. Find the root of your disagreements, ask him why he's not happy, what would improve the relationship for him and discuss it.If you both still fail to solve your issues then maybe some time apart might help you both.Good Luck.x
A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 It's hard to tell what he is thinking at the moment, if he was fed up with the arguing well then it could just be possible that he doesn't see you both having a future together but that he wants to be in your life as a friend. It sounds like he does care deeply about you and your daughter. But if you cannot deal with a friendship so soon after the break up well then talk to him and tell him no contact as it is hurting and confusing you. Tell him if he doesn't stop texting and calling you that you will change all your numbers. Just be firm to him and tell him it is all or nothing for you.
...............................
|
