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writes:Hello, I'm new here and I need help, I'm gay and I have a bunch of problems now, I feel really stressed and lost, first of all my boyfriend broke up with me in a very very mean way, he told me really mean things that destroyed my heart, I really miss him and I'm dealing with all those good memories we shared and I wonder how could he do that to me, I gave him my all and now I feel so empty, now he's been trying to reach me with a friend of him who sent me a message a few days ago, I havent replied cuz I dont trust that guy, I really really want to talk to him, send him a text or simply call him, but it's really hard for me because he might just be rude to me, I don't really know what to expect to be honest, but I would feel so bad if he hurts me again, my love for him still strong, it's been a month already and this is being so hard for me, I don't know what to do in this situation, I need him, I miss him, I love him but what if he doesn't feel the same, I'm so afraid to take the risk of calling him or sending him a text, what should I do? :'(I also have family problems, my mom found out that I was gay and she's not accepting it which hurts me a lot, cuz i need her so much in this moment and on top of these things I don't have a job, I feel like my life is falling appart, I feel really desperate cuz I'm dealing with all these emotions at once and I can't really take it anymore, help please!
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reader, philipgifts +, writes (16 August 2009):
 I would say try to get a job maybe through the school district if you have your deploma or GED.Go for PARA-PRO or substitute. If you're not in school, go to a local community college, its cheap. easily get fafsa, financhal asistance for student aid,go to the college for the web site. ApPly now get in January,it takes 3 months to proCCes the papers. Day you can work and evening classes, Go for your AA Then switch to a four yr college for the final two yrs. This is my plan personally. It will take time to get over the crush/love a yr maybe, but if you meet another person then less than a yr. Your mom loves you but she just feels angery, and your sad, give her time. And stay strong, put goals in front of you and do them as fast as you can go.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 You are overwhelmed because there are lots of things going on at the moment. You need to see a counsellor - not because you are mentally ill but because you need someone 'objective' to speak to and unload all these problems onto. There are lots of free community services available so search around to see what is available locally to you. You may end up feeling so much better! They can teach you some constructive problem-solving techniques to make you feel better about yourself, more confident and more resilient to emotional problems.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (5 August 2009):
 Awww sweetheart, I'm really sorry that you're going through all this right now. It's a lot to deal with at once. Let's take it a bit at a time.
I don't know why your boyfriend was so cruel to you, except perhaps he wasn't the guy he pretended to be. In the end he could not hide his cruel self from you any longer. I think that if he really wanted to get in touch with you he would call you, not go through someone else. You are better off without someone like that, you need someone who is true and honest. Be patient and have faith, and someone like that will enter your life soon enough.
As for your mom, it sounds like she is having a hard time accepting your sexuality. Give her a bit of time to come around. You're still her son and I'm sure she still loves you, she may be trying to figure out things for herself. Make the best relationship with her that you can, and be patient with yourself and her.
In the meantime, take care of yourself. We all go through hard times and you can bounce back from this. Life will not always be this way and good times will come again...just keep putting one foot in front of the other and things will look up eventually.
*hug* Good luck honey.
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reader, LEPETITPRINCE +, writes (5 August 2009):
LEPETITPRINCE is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes, but she doesn't understand, our relationship is not the same anymore and I need her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): Your mom is not accepting your sexuality...in what way? Have you discussed it with her?
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (5 August 2009):
Honey first of all you need to toughen up, you cannot let others bring you down like this. I tell you what all of the energy you are putting in to missing that man and trying to get your moms attention you need to put that into finding a job. You miss him so much because you don't have much going on .Why would you want someone that has hurt you so badly he probably just wants a booty call and he knows you will take him back you don't want to be a doormat for anyone in life. I bet once you find a job and start getting out more you will forget about that loser, you are young and you have many more bf trust me. I am sure you can find someone that will treat you way better I hate when I hear of people letting themselves be abused mentally or physically. As for your mom she is probably hoping you will turn back give her sometime and she will come around but she is still your mother she may not want to hear about your bf's but I am sure she is still willing to be there for you, Just give her time and if she doesn't come around honey make the best of your life and have whatever kind of relationship she will let you have with her. Bring your self esteem back up get off your butt stop being depressed over a loser and get a job and buy some new clothes and re-event yourself honey that is the only way to roll this is 2009 there is nothing you can't do. Misery loves company dont fall for it...Good luck babe!!!!
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