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writes:Well I was seeing a lad for 4 mouths, right then before we started going out, I told him I was moving to Scotland and he said it was fine. I fall in love with him and he fall in love with me. We was great together but then I said do u think it was be better if we ended coz it getting harder and he said yes. Then I was so down and missing him I ask him back out he said no. He said love you at 9.00 clock at night but by 12.00 clock at night he said he never loved me. We friends but everytime we talk I fall more in love with him and if I don’t talk to him I feel like shit and miss him more and more. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 You are 17.
What is it that you want when you are going in two separate directions to two separate countries at your age? You sure as hell don't want to be tied down to a relationship through the net and phone, and still be alone, while you are still young!
Marriage, children, job relocation and the other stresses of a normal life will separate you soon enough!!!! And you are too young to have a marriage or a true commitment. Neither of you can expect to keep a relationship at this age over a distance, so WHY are you agonizing over this and trying your best to keep this illusion that you are going to solve this and be together, when you KNOW that, mentally and physically, you aren't going to be together?
You are flogging a dead horse. Life does include breakups and heartaches. you need to recognize that you may have to give this lad up. Regardless of who loved who or broke up with who, you should be a lady and wish him well. There isn't any point in pursuing it.
AND, years from now, you will want to look back and remember that you did the right thing by taking both of your feelings into consideration and that you were wise to make a clean break of things, leaving him with a smile and a nice memory of your relationship.
That's a wise way to leave things, "How would I feel, years from now, if someone reminded me of what I had done and said, and how I acted?".
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (5 August 2009):
I think you both need to move on you both seem to be confused on your feelings. I can understand that you only broke up because you were moving, you could have tried to have a log distance relationship first to see how that would work out. Instead you just broke it off I am not saying you were wrong, but obviously he was hurt by this and now he is trying to punish you for leaving or breaking up. Try to find someone new that you can put your energy into instead of beating a dead horse.
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