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My "best friend" intervened behind my back. My Bf believed her lies. How can I get him back?

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Question - (2 June 2014) 1 Answers - (Newest, 3 June 2014)
A female United States age 18-21, *allen-Angel667 writes:

My best friend broke me and my boyfriend up because she was jealous of our relationship.

We had dated for a while and we were happy and everyone knew it. I was his first real and his longest relationship. I was also the first girl he really loved. He told everyone that.

Then my "best friend" told him I was doing things she knew he did not like me doing that I had a history of doing this, knowing very ry well I was not.

Then she went to him saying it was all a joke which made him even more mad at me.

The next day at school he was still upset at me and would not speak to me. So I was giving him his space to calm down even though all of it was making me upset. But then my friend when and told him things again which pushed him over the edge and made him break up with me.

I found out later it was done purposely. I did not know it at the time because she was my best friend and she told me she was just trying to help me with me with even though I did not need help.

But then after our break up he said he was thinking about getting back together with me but was afraid of it ending the same way.

So I just gave him space to think about it but while I was giving him the space he needed to think about it all of my friends keep pushing it even when I told them not to and this pushed him away from me even more.

Then he said he was over me.

Then he started dating a girl who looked and acted a lot like me. This made me jealous and upset but I keep it in for a while.

We also got into an argument one night because he is a very hard headed and childish and controlling person who always has to be right and no one told him other wise until that night when I did but after the argument we got over it.

Then they broke up a week after dating because he said there was not connection between them. I then still did not like her and me and her got into a fight. People told him it was about him which at this point it was not true.

The reason why is because she was talking about me behind my back.

Then he stopped talking to me for a while. And when we started talking again it was nice we would talk a lot. Then one day out of no where he moved away to live with his uncle.

He stopped talking to me again but asks everyone else about me. I've also been told he likes a girl who had the same name as me and Looks like me. I don't know if this is true or not.

I know the girl is real and is friends with him but I don't know if he really dose likes her or not. But either way I miss him a lot and still want to be with him. I love him a lot.

When have been broken up for six months and I have done everything to try to move on myself. I've even datied other people myself but I don't feel anything with any of them and they don't usually last long. I really want him back and I don't know how to do it. Please help me.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 June 2014):

Honeypie agony auntHe takes the word of your friend over you. Which means he didn't TRUST you to tell the truth.

You can't be with someone you don't trust or don't WANT to trust.

Whether you want to hear this or not, YOU are better OFF not dating this guy. He is immature and somewhat of a drama-llama.

He basically didn't CARE enough for you to ask you to explain. And he replaced you pretty fast, because he WANTS to have to "cool points" of having a GF, doesn't matter WHO she is.

YOUR "friend" is NOT a friend. I'd drop her instantly. Who knows what other "tricks" she has up her sleeves.

In order to "get over" a guy you don't just date others. That isn't fair of those "others" because you are USING them to make YOU feel better. NOT nice.

So TAKE a break from dating. Hang out with your REAL friends, those who has your back and whom you can trust.

Chin up, there are MANY WAY better guys out there why settle for this twat?

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