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writes:Lots of people can not tell the difference between infatuation and love. The key difference is that infatuation (otherwise known as a "crush") only lasts for FOUR months. Only four. Then your feelings like do die out and you're free to look at other people. Love will last for more than 4 months and you should feel elated when you see that person. You should feel like your heart is outside of your body and like you can tackle the entire world. You want to do anything for this person, even if you are unhappy doing so. If they're happy, you're happy. Lust is a relationship based purely off of sex. You want to touch this person and look at them naked. This one is easy to tell from the others.You're welcome. Wait 4 months before you ask someone out. Please. Spare yourself the heartbreak. Reply to this Article
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 Infatuation period can last longer than 4 months, but I'm thinking that at 4-6 months it starts to decline.
People don't realize that infatuation has nothing at all to do with who the person is... I know that sounds so cynical, but it is true. You can get infatuated with a person you don't even know the name of! Or maybe you dislike their personality, and then you wind up in love/crushing on them anyway. It's got nothing at all to do with who the person actually is. It's just got to do with how much you want to be attracted to someone, anyone, and your brain playing you a trick.
Lust is sexual attraction, plain and simple.
The easiest way I found to differentiate between liking someone and actually loving them, was to look to my family. I love my mother and brother. Then I had a look at that feeling, and compared it to the feelings I developed for friends, or boyfriends. Love is not sexual in itself! Love can be combined with lust, which is what differentiates between a friendship and a romantic relationship, really. But love in itself is not sexual.
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