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writes:Am I concerned for no reason? Its fairly early days for me and another guy I met online but we have now met up 3 times (have known each other now for a couple of months). Last night we slept together he stayed at mine. He left his mobile phone downstairs and his pre-set alarm went off at 6am so I got up to find his phone and turn the alarm off ...and I noticed he quickly followed me downstairs to get his phone off me. I thought he seemed overly bothered about me touching his phone. Whilst this guy seems generally honest he does not text me often, has only ever phoned me from his car and I find I am waiting for it to be convenient for him to see me. We are both very busy people but my gut instinct is telling me he is also seeing other people or maybe keeping his options open and dating. We live about an hour away from one another so I don't want to put pressure on things but I don't want to get any further into the relationship without knowing we are exclusive otherwise i will get hurt. Should I ask him straight out whether he is seeing anyone else?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 July 2012):
 Since you already bedded him, I say ask him. However, you have only met 3 times so he might not be up for being exclusive just yet...
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reader, Flashtony +, writes (27 July 2012):
my gut tells me he is definitely seeing someone else as a minimum, He Is probably married or cohabiting...ask him directly, tell him you don't want to ge hurt or hurt anyone else. sorry, good luck.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (27 July 2012):
 Touching anyone's phone is a violation of their privacy, in my opinion. Why would you feel the need to switch off his alarm on his phone? Something to hide or not, I think he had every right to be "overly bothered".
Look at it from his point of view - would you not be bothered to find him messing with your phone?
If you feel you cannot trust him, and I don't think you do, you have no business being with him. End it soon, is my advice.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (27 July 2012):
 Yes, definitely ask him. If you have slept together it is common sense to ask him if he is involved with anyone else, otherwise you could be putting your own health at risk by having sex with someone who is also having sex with multiple other partners.
Dont make it seem that you are putting pressure on him to be exclusive, just ask out of interest if he is seeing anyone else.
The thing that worries me more than the mobile phone is him only calling you from his car, that to me suggests he is married, or living with a partner!
Be careful with this one, he seems a bit of a slippery character and you might end up hurt here.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 July 2012):
 Absolutely ask him.
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