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writes:I just turned 18 and im having some confusing feelings. I see one of my mates twice a week (all-day) with a few of our other friends, but I was recently really annoyed by him and vice a versa. We sorted it out last week and that night I had a dream that was basically a replay of what happened. It was just us two and he waited for my mom to pick me up before he left. Anyway, we were pretty close and loads of eye contact (which is unusual) while both getting inwardly emotional.Trying to sort out the s^^t that I've had enough of with him and we worked it out. In the dream replay there was a split second when I think I wanted him to kiss me, but in real life I'm not at all attracted to him, nor would I ever want him to kiss me and there are so many differences we have as friends that I wouldn't want to date him because I know it would be worse and all of the other reasons. Does the dream mean anything though? It's confused me because I know how I feel about him in real life but I've never wanted him to kiss me or anything and I still don't. Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Dreams are just a reflection of the very last thing you were thinking about as you dozed off. You were probably thinking about the fight. People have dreams about kissing other people and having sex with other people ALL the time, doesn't mean they want to do anything about it! Don't worry about it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Last night I dreamt about getting my income taxes done and I can guarantee you that I'm NOT in love with the IRS.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (3 February 2012):
 I dream about work all the time, and I hate work.
What I am trying to say is dreams mean nothing. You probably dreamt about him because you have been spending more time with him.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 February 2012):
 ps. lots of friends kiss without that meaning they are sexually attracted to each other or want to date each other. Friends do kiss, same as hug each other.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (3 February 2012):
You need to learn that dreams are to be interpreted, never taken literally. Contrary to others here I do believe dreams hold meaning. Everything in a dream means something to you, it is a reflection of your feelings and your thought and the subconscious you. However you can't take it literally, you must think about it symbolically.
A kiss in this context doesn't mean you actually want to kiss him. A kiss in a dream often means other things, such as a union of two things, or a friendship, or a peace offering. You and him just had a fight, you sorted it out, and in the dream you wanted a kiss. The kiss would mean that you and him are now friends again... nothing more.
Same with sex, if you dream you have sex then it is NEVER real life sex or sexual attraction to that person.
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reader, Relationship.Chef +, writes (3 February 2012):
 A dream can tell you a great deal, as it is nothing more than a different state of your consciousness.
Now that psychobabble is over, here's what is likely happening.
You're likely attracted to him, yet, in real life, there are plenty of obstacles to deter you from becoming intimate.
Things like his outward behavior, social conventions, the public opinion of how you'd be perceived.
Should you act upon your dream?
Weigh all the parts of the equation, and, decide what's best.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 February 2012):
 Dreams are dreams and reality something quite different. It is not uncommon to add people we spend time with to our character gallery in our dreams. Even people we don't really like all that much.
I used to dream (when I first quitting smoking) that I was lighting up like crazy all night long.. I woke up feeling guilty for a while, but I realized that part of it was the nicotine talking part of it was just dreams. I actually on rare occasions still smoke in my dreams and I quit some 20 years ago. Doesn't mean I want to smoke, just means that in that dream I smoke.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (3 February 2012):
 Dreams mean absolutely nothing. A dream is just a subconsious replay of all your memories, thoughts, and other things, perhaps you saw someone getting kissed or wanted to kiss your pet (on the head, lol), or something involving kisses, and it translated into a strange dream.
The only time a dream means something, in my opinon, is when you start dreaming about a significant other. Then that shows that you were thinking about them enough that they're part of your dreams 3
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (3 February 2012):
 dreams mess with your head. It's just a dream.
Many people dream of sleeping with Brad pitt. it's not real! :)
If you are adamant you don't have feelings for him in real life then don't read too much into it. How you feel in real life is relevant. How you feel in your dreams isn't.
This doesn't mean anything.
You seem to be doubting your own mind over this. If you really have no strong feelings, then just ignore the dream x
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