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I'm straight and not interested in my female friend, but I'd like to maintain our friendship. Can that still happen after she admitted romantic feelings for me?

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Question - (24 November 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 November 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, anonymous writes:

I used to have a female best friend, who fell in love with me. Trouble was, I'm straight and had a boyfriend. She got very jealous, and I spilt up with my boyfriend because I felt our friendship was nore important, which made it worse, because I don't like her in that way but she thinks I do.

I stopped seeing her at all in May, and just last week she messaged me and told me she loved me still.

I don't love her like that but I wish we could be friends. What do I do and how do I reply?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (26 November 2016):

Honeypie agony auntNo, if you stick around EVEN as a friend she will think you might change your mind and love her back.

I'd just wish her well and let her know that you can't offer anything but friendship and that you show she wants more, so you will gracefully bow out and cut the contact.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (25 November 2016):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntSad as it is, you will probably have to resign yourself to losing her friendship. I speak from experience. You have different agendas and "just friendship" is not on hers.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (25 November 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntYou don't be her friend. She has different feelings for you and if you offer friendship she will see more than that. You need to remind her that you are not interested in other females and that you think it is best you both keep your distance because nothing can ever happen. It would be cruel to try and be her friend as she wants more. She needs time to get over you.

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