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If I stop smoking weed will I stop having gay thoughts?

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Question - (29 March 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 4 April 2016)
A male United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Okay. So I'm a 20 year old male. I have always been straight. I masturbated a lot in the last 2 years, excessively to straight/lesbiano porn. I smoked lots of weed in my day and realized I can't really get hard while high or drunk. About 8 months ago me and my girlfriend of a year and half that I fell in love with broke up. I started masturbating to straight/lesbian porn excessively. A month later we met up and hung out. I chose to smoke weed and realized that with all the porn and weed I could not get an erection. She had 10 minutes left to hang out and quickly tried to give me oral. I could not get erect. This upset me as a month later this happened again. I was really upset over our breakup, heartbroken. So I kept smoking weed and eventually met a girl in December. We had sex, I was hard, things were great. Eventually I got annoyed of the girl and stopped seeing her. Weed was making me depressed but I quit on New Years because of weird gay thoughts. As I remember until I relapsed on March 1sr the thoughts have went away. I haven't got laid since but I could have. I was with a girl and about to do it and got erect in my pants from her but it fell down when I took em off because of the alcohol and when she gave me oral it wouldn't go up either. So we stopped. So I started smoking again from 3/1-3/25 and was having ridiculous gay thoughts where I was thinking dudes are attractive and it was bugging me out. When I quit on New Years I don't recall the gay thoughts returning or maybe they did but slightly. since I have quit these mental images of men or penis keep coming back and it's passing me off . It won't stop , I get hard to straight/lesbian porn but my mind won't stop with these images and it's bugging me out. I tried to watch gay porn and I think one actually got me hard but I can't tell because I'm sitting in my jeans at work and getting slight blood flow quite often that every time I have these weird thoughts I get up and check to see if I'm getting hard . And these thoughts are ridiculous I see a dude on the street and my brain starts having some gay visuals and its scaring / grossing me the hell out. No offense to gay people, no problem with them. I do not use the f word to bash them or anything. It's just not me or what I want.Straight and lesbian porn still does the trick tho but while I'm watching these my mind is visualizing these gay thoughts and I can't tell if it's the gay thoughts that are getting me up because I'm bugging out that I'm turning gay. My mind can't focus on what the screen is displaying which is lesbian milfs or straight porn.Meanwhile I do and always enjoyed vagina and haven't got laid since January something . Will quitting porn and weed bring me back to a normal state where I won't have these thoughts? Don't know what to do because I am attracted to girls and girls getting banged and girls banging each other and dudes banging one another skeeves me out. What should I do because I highly doubt that I'm gay but these thoughts just keep coming and won't stop.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2016):

I agree that you should get professional help quitting weed. Long term it will be better for you.

It sounds to me like you might be a bi guy who was brought up to think homosexuality was awful and evil. It's your life. You shouldn't get freaked out by your sexual thoughts unless they are violent or involve kids.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (29 March 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntFirst get help with giving up the weed, secondly give up alcohol, thirdly stop watching porn. Be healthier, get plenty of good food and exercise. After you do this then see how you feel. If you are still having gay thoughts it could be possible that you might be bisexual, but for now get your life in order and see how you feel after six months of a new life style.

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A male reader, Garbo United States + , writes (29 March 2016):

Garbo agony auntYou should quit weed and stop porn watching porn for sake of health. Pot smoking alters men's hormones such that the testosterone is killed and estrogen is raised. That alters your sexual libido as well as your physical appearance. After prolonged pot smoking, men develop man-boobs which is the result of the testosterone-estrogen imbalance.

Porn watching is equally bad because it desensitizes your brain receptors to react properly during real sexual inter course. In other words, too much porn makes you inadequate to perform real sex. What is too much porn? That varies with a person but if you are pot smoker, I'd say the addictive threshold for poem is also low as is your threshold to withstand being high.

I would suggest that you evaluate your sexual preference once you are free and clean of weed and porn for a long time.

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A male reader, Serpico United States +, writes (29 March 2016):

I am a raging heterosexual, and I find weed only makes that more so.

If you are having gay thoughts under weed, my guess is you may be gay.

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