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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:My parents are strictly orthodox and believe in arranged marriages. I love them a lot. I'm not that pretty either. I have two secret crushes, both of them complicated.Crush 1I have been sent to an all girls school but we interact with the neighboring boys school on the bus. There are 3 guys on our bus, one of them is the one I like (Lets call him C) . He is already going out with one of my friends (lets call her M). C had already asked out another one of my friends (lets call her K) and she rejected him. K has already confided in me her recent new-found love for C yet doesn't want to break M's heart. What if C says no?Crush 2This guy is one who goes to the same school as C yet isn't on my bus. I interacted with him on Facebook and he seems really nice but he is already going out with a girl who is also my friend (lets call her E and the boy F). E and F and C and M all go out to town on a weekly basis, my parents forbid that. Yet F seems to be interested, he puts kisses on the end of his texts and is really nice.I don't want to steal their boyfriends, what do I do?Thankyou for your time
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 I bet you in some years neither crushes will be of any interest to you. But stand up for what you believe in. Find true love.
I understand thought that in many cases of arranged marriages, the couple get to meet each other and see if they accept each other as well. If that is the case, your parents might be able to find someone good for you who you will come to find to be just as good.
Don't try to decide your future just yet. As I said, in a few years or even less, both of these crushes you have will be of no importance, because someone you love and who loves you back will come along. This man might be one your family finds for you, or he can be someone you find all on your own.
Best wishes!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 The alphabet soup got me confused but I did understand that both guys are involved with someone else, which should mean they are not available for you.As to the arranged marriage, Bravo! I agree with you. Don't give in to that source of lots and lots and lots and lots and lots... of misery.
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