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writes:Heya, been with my boyfriend for five years.He's 25 years old and l am 22 years old.We didn't stay together. He's so irresponsible, he drinks a lot. He says he loves me, but he has cheated on me a couple of times, and he always swore never to do it again. I love him too. We have been fighting a lot of lately, l met this other guy a month ago, who's 3 years younger than I am. We dated, and for the first time in five years I cheated on my boyfriend.The problem is I have fallen in love with the new guy, l have tried to ignore the feelings hoping that my feelsing would go away.My new guy feels the same way, we are so crazy about each other. I'm worried about this new guy's age, since he's younger than I am.The age issue is my main concern, I really can't keep both of them.I am so confused about which man to choose. How do l choose? P.s I think l love the new one more,he's just perfect
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2012): Neither. Set them both free.
You didn't love or respect the first enough to be honest and ended up cheating.
You don't love or respect the second enough to wait until your relationship with the 1st was done and over with. You ended up cheating with him --'the other man', just like 'the other woman' are just playthings for cheaters.
Leave them both alone. They deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): If you think you love two people always go for the second because you didnt REALLY love the first.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 October 2012):
 I would end the relationship with the OLD boyfriend
the one you fight with
the one who has cheated on you a couple of times
the one who lied to you and said he would never do it again and did anyway...
the one that drinks
as for a three year age difference that my dear is NOTHING.
Saturday I will marry a man THIRTEEN YEARS younger than I am.
I don't see why you are confused.
your old boyfriend makes you unhappy
you like the new guy...
my only concern is that YOU cheated on your current boyfriend with the new fellow and that the new fellow will have a lack of trust with you...
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reader, Agneta  +, writes (2 October 2012):
 Your boy friend is irresponsible, drinks a lot and cheated on you a couple of times?? My advice would be to leave this man no matter who else you met or didn't meet. You are better off alone than with a man who drinks and cheat on you. Then you are free to explore how it feels with others. If this young man is nice to you (and hopefully anyway more mature than the one you have now) then why care about the age difference, he is still above 18, right? Would you have raised any eyebrow if you met a couple where the girl is 19 and the guy is 22??Like yourself and choose the one that makes you feel good about yourself and life in general.
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