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writes:My gf and I have been dating for a few months now and her father is also my boss. When I first started working he was always going on about his "little girl" and I literally thought she was a 13 yr old girl not a 20 year old college student. I met her through friends and as soon as we talked we hit it off and we started dating. We were up front about it to her parents and her father was not impressed. Last week at work I set my cell phone down and one of my coworkers read some text for my gf. She had been away on a shopping trip,with some friends and sent me a picture of a Victoria Secret bag and said " I can't wait until tonight so you can see what is inside this bag." Of course he started teasing me and showed a few of the other guys and they were making comments about how I was going to get laid after work. Of course my boss heard some of these comments and got pissed off and said I was disrespecting his daughter. He then called my gf up and said I was showing the guys at work the text she sent me and laughing / telling them about our personal life. She was up set but once I explained the truth and her uncle,who,also works there said he saw the whole,thing and that I was telling the truth she understood.Last night we went out and both of us were drunk. A friend dropped us off at her house and I was waiting for a cab when we started kissing, she said her dad was still really upset and how he didn't trust me. I said something along the lines of "he is just mad that I'm fucking the brains out of his little girl very chance I get" my cab came and that was it. This morning she called and said her father over heard my comment and pretty much said that I was no longer allowed at his home and he thought she was a fool to be with me.I really like this girl, a lot and I want to make things good for us. I'm not perfect but I'm not a bad guy either. How can I get the respect of her father and show him I really do like his daughter,
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (11 May 2014):
 Are you seriously telling me that your co-worker just happened to read your text? If you get naughty texts at work you read it discreetly and delete it immediately, not make a spectacle of it with everyone which is exactly what you've done. And before think twice before you make nonsensical and asinine comments like fucking your boss' daughter's brains out because it doesnt reflect ANY bravado on your part. Yes he's mad at you for having sex with her, any father will be. Its bad enough that this guy is your superior at work and that should have made you all the more careful; instead you have your little cocky jokes about how you're fucking the little girl and the father cant do a damn about it.
Well you know what Willlomo, he can have you fired. He can make your life miserable if he wants and he can give you a delightful letter of recommendation once you leave your job. He can have others promoted above you, he can make it really hard for you to get another job and he can give you sleepless nights because guess what, he's the boss and you're messing with the wrong person.
If you want him to respect you (although we can safely say that ship has sailed)...alright let me rephrase that...if you want ANY potential father of any girl that you're dating to respect you, then you have to earn that respect by acting your age. Stop treating your girlfriend like a sexual conquest and see her as someone's daughter. How would you like it if some upstart spoke this way about your younger sister? Would YOU tolerate that guy?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 May 2014):
 Mark said exactly what I would tell you. Tread very carefully young man.
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reader, blue_warrior  +, writes (11 May 2014):
At some point, you're going to have to choose between your job and your gf. Dating the boss's daughter is eventually going to get you fired in the end.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (11 May 2014):
 The best advice is not to mix business with pleasure. Hard enough when a relationship between too equals ends badly, let alone a relationship with the bosses daughter. You need to see this from HIS (her father/your boss's) point of view...He is clearly in a senior position at work and the fact he calls his daughter his "little girl" shows he still sees her as a child. In many ways she is as twenty is still quite young. Yes she is legally and adult but he is an experience man, working as a manager in the cut throat, real world of business. He as a father is protective of his young daughter as he knows the ways of the world all too well, and as a manager he is keen not to have anyone undermine his authority or position in the workplace. He is not likely to be happy with a young, presumably, (no disrespect), lower level member of his staff sleeping with his daughter. He is concerned for his daughters reputation, his own reputation in the wider picture and his ability to have the respect of, and authority over, his staff is being compromised as you have already made the naïve error of letting a co-worker read your texts. Obviously if you are having a relationship with the bosses daughter EVERONE wants to know about it, what's she's like, what she does in bed....! Any info you divulge, no matter how innocently or accidently, will be twisted around and spread around the workplace and could cause embarrassment for you, your boss and his daughter. Twice you have embarrassed your GF and upset her father, your boss. To be honest your attitude and mistakes were immature and naive. If you want to have a relationship with his daughter then the way to go about it is to act with dignity, respect and be ultra careful about what you say and do. Making cocky comments about fucking her brains out or having your co-workers laugh that you are getting laid with the bosses daughter was foolish and could cost you your job. What if an important business associate had heard that you were "getting laid with the bosses daughter"? How would that make him and the company look?You are quite a lot older than your GF yet you act very young. Im sure her father is A: wary of the age gap to some extent and wonders why your not with someone closer to your own age, B: thinks your using his daughter as a sexual plaything (which your behaviour has confirmed n his mind) and C: Wants his daughter to find a BF who is respectful, looks up to him as a manager and treats his daughter with dignity and maturity. Having relationships with the bosses daughter in any job is foolish. You need to tread carefully. You could end up in a situation where every crap job that needs doing gets your name on it or your name gets straight to the top of the list when redundancies come. You also will want a glowing reference should you leave of your own accord. jobs are hard to come by and you wont be getting far with any girl if you cant get a job!!! Your chances of promotion are now zero.You need to either change jobs and stay with this girl or split up and apologies to your boss. I have had relationships with co-workers and its ended badly. Everyone knows your business and you are forced to be professional and stay in contact with them when it goes wrong. If its your bosses daughter then you really are asking for trouble! Inevitably, at 20, she is unlikely to stay with you in the long term. If the relationship comes to an end badly then your going to be in a very difficult situation with your manager. You cant undo what's done, just try to move on from this as you need to look at the bigger picture. Employment is very hard to find, especially if you are lacking a reference form your current employer because you have slept with his daughter! He could make your life hell at work and, depending on your job and situation, make it hard for you to find another job.
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reader, lionpaw85  +, writes (11 May 2014):
just talk to your boss, make it clear to him that you are really in love with his daughter. You let him know your true intentions with his baby gal. You better stop sayin inapropriate statements especially when you are in his space.
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