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writes: Hey everyone,I met this girl in university, I noticed her the first time she walked into the room, she sat by me. I never talked to her because I didn't want to fall for her. A few classes later, she talked to me. The first thing she said to me was, did you get your homework done? ( I know right ? ) then she copied off me. Right then I knew for sure she just wanted to use me for academics, so I didn't open up to her. Then a few classes after, she wants to study together, so we did that for a week straight, and during the study session, she didn't "use" me at all, she talked about her life, asked me some questions too. Bought food for us to eat and even made me a coffee. The thing is... When we text, it's 95% about studying or academics, there was never a casual text like, " hey how was your day?" it's just " hey wanna meet up and study?"Even I asked her about her day, she just replies but never asks me how mine day was so therefore the conversation completely stops. Makes me feel a bit depressed to be honest haha.I know her for about just over 2 weeks now and I want to be more than her friend and I'd like to make a move, but for some reason I feel that she doesn't want anything romantic relationship with me. I also acknowledge the fact that If I wait too long, it might be too late...But since she is in 2 of my classes and she sits right beside me, there's always that chance of being rejected which will make the rest of the year not too great...I urgently need some advices please... I've only had a girlfriend once and that lasted only a month and that was 4 years ago, so I'd like to have a new one because I feel a bit lonely, at times... haha.Thanks for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply chigirl, great advices haha, glad I came to this site.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 October 2012):
 Nah, she's not interested in you that way. So why risk ruining a good study-environment. Now you have a study pal, and that will increase your chances of getting a good grade. It's only been two weeks, it's not like you are heavily invested in thsi girl romantically. Just cut that "romantic" idea of her out of your brain, and rather go scouting on other girls. Now that you have a female study pal, you might even get to know her female friends.
Never shit where you eat, as the saying goes. Don't date this girl or make a move on her, because it'll sour your environment. Rather, flirt with a girl who is not your study mate, and who does not sit right next to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the quick reply. I completely agree with you and no it doesn't hurt me. I always knew in the back of my mind that she wasn't interested. I knew from day one haha, but there was always that optimism in the back ofmy mind.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (27 October 2012):
 To be honest, I dont think she's looking at you in a romantic way. Sorry but that's what it seems like. If you really want to, then you could always ask her out and at least make an attempt so that you wont regret not making the first move, but chances are that she wont want to be in a relationship. She doesn't even ask you what your day has been like, do you really think she's looking at more?
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