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26-29,
*imberlynicole
writes:My boyfriend broke up with me last Sunday. I was having a hard time getting over it, since he's my first love. I thought I was going to be able to get him back. He didn't talk to me for a few days, and suddenly I was getting some strength. But then today he texted me again and all strength was lost. I also found out that he has another girlfriend, five days after he broke up with me. Not only am I enraged and, but I'm completely broken-hearted and lost for words. He swore he loved me, and always would. He replaced me within less than a week. He's with another girl, but says he still loves me, but won't talk to me anymore since it's so hard for me to talk to him. At this point I have NO idea what to do. I want to move on, but I don't know how. Help?
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reader, Abella +, writes (26 April 2011):
 your sense of betrayal would be high. Give yourself a little time to grieve. and i know you want him back so bad as you invested so much love and emotional energy into this.
but maybe he is not yet as mature as you.
He may come to see how much he hurt you in the future. But if that is the case then you certainly deserve a 'sorry' from him.
However don't allow it to consume your life. You will be hurting inside for a while.
But dwell on this: if he was not yet ready to recognise the true worth and depth of all you felt for him, then he is not yet worthy nor ready for you.
And he could mature. Into a man you could love for all time. Or he could morph into a guy, who in a few years, is travelling along a different path to you.
Use this reflective time to focus on your studies. Don't be in a hurry to get a new guy for a while yet. Instead think of the qualities (inside) and the character (inside) that embody what you need in a guy. Do some reading up of relationships and the guys who are most likely to turn out as faithfull keepers in the future.
To really know a guy look at his ACTIONS in all he does, not his sweet words alone.
Best of luck for the future
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reader, kimberlynicole +, writes (24 April 2011):
kimberlynicole is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt was seven months.
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reader, FaddedDay  +, writes (24 April 2011):
 Look, you're 15, and so is he. Guys at this age don't understand the concept of genuine affection and love. He may have been your first, but he definately won't be your last. I say, that if he's moved on, so should you. But before I give any in depth advice, how long were you guys together?
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reader, Abella +, writes (24 April 2011):
it felt so real and wonderful to you,
That is the cruel thing about this
You were genuine.
But deep down he was not
he's not ready for love yet, sadly not with you, and not with the new girl.
He was just saying the words that work, trying out what he can do and cannot do, so far.
His level is still curiosity, not love. Not even empathy, or he would not treat you this way. Not love, because he is not
emotionally ready for it
It is a horrible lesson, but ask anyone over 30 and i think you will find most felt and survived all the pain you are enduring,
The best revenge is focus on you, just you.
Look after you by doing nice things for you.
Get fitter, keep fit, eat right, get good grades, work on building your self esteem
And be smart, don't jump into a new relationship yet
Good luck
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