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writes:Do younger women really ever go for older guys say 15 to 20 years older? I am interested in some real life occurances that worked out. Thanks for inputs. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): Ofcourse,I do!!...
I've always been attracted to older guys-in fact,my first crush was my physics teacher.I love them because they are usually knowlegeable about various aspects of life,confident and successful.To me,these are admirable qualities.I have to admit,I denied myself the oppurtunity by dating guys my age(24)on a couple instances-obviously it didn't work.These are the problems I found with it 1)Communication needed work,2)Had to compete with "hanging with boys" on numerous occasions 3)I just preferred staring in somebody's eyes who I actually am crazy about,and who was at least ten years older...My boyfriend is 36 yr old,and yes people stare at us sometimes but we have our little jokes about that and continue to have our loving relationship.
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reader, gadfly_in_your_drink +, writes (10 November 2008):
They don't. As anyone knows, for any man, regardless of age, to succeed with women what he possesses must be NO LESS than six inches long, and the more of them ($$$) he possesses, the greater will be his success.
Ok, well really it depends on how much the age difference is. If there is no more than a five year age difference, then yes, a normal relationship is possible, and some social scientists actually think (based on some degree of empirical evidence I guess) that a slight age difference (with the man slightly older) is some sort of ideal reproductive arrangment. But if you are talking about what I suspect you are: "old" men and young "tarts" ala Anna Nicole Smith, etc., then the only thing the women is falling in love with is the old fart's bank account. My rule of thumb (in inches) is that if the age difference is greater than ten years, it's bound to be a sugar daddy, gold digger arrangement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): She is 30 and I am 53. It's just numbers. We have made it work for 2+ years now. We are also an inter-racial couple, which adds another dimension. We're not relationship geniuses, but we both have been married before, so we know what we want and don't want in this one. The one secret we know is that talking, no matter how silly it might seem or how vulnerable it may feel.We both self-secure with our own homes, cars and incomes. Our close friends know about us and are supportive (even envious). The outer friend circle does not and we find ourselves spending less and less time with those friends. My family knows but her does not. We live more about today that we do about the future. I have finally found the person for me and she feels the same about me. We were good friends for a couple years, then became best friends and then became lovers. Certainly not going to let something silly like age take that from us.Aside, I have a good friend who is 15 years older than his wife. They are so freakishly happy and in love together! They were good friends for 15 years and married to other people before they finally realized they were in love together.Don't fret what people think, just how she thinks and feels about you and you her. If your family is not supportive, have patience with them. They probably have the typical stereotype and don't want you getting hurt or cleaned out. Have patience and eventually they will see the light.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): i will be 27 in june my boyfriend just turned 47 in february we have been together for 6 months to us age is just a number
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reader, babewithbrains12  +, writes (2 March 2008):
yes !!well i do, im 16 and fancy men between about 25 and 37...no older than that....although im not sure if i will grow out of this when i get older...but seriously its because older men are way more sexy, experienced and emotionally stable...i cant explain the attraction....but it all depends on the girl i guess i mean some women wouldnt ever go for older guys (most of my friends think im on drugs or soething).....ive had experiences with two older men, and after that i dont think i could ever like somebody my own age !! x
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reader, pollyanna  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 Ever since I was old enough to think about boys, I was thinking about men. My first crush was on a teacher that was 15 years older than me. I love the older men on TV. Grey is handsome. Bald is sexy. I'm such a sucker for a man with history and old fashioned values. Sean Connery is #1 on my hot list. Seriously, it's not about money... it's about attraction.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Wild women go wild over old guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): i am 20 and married to a 47 year old, i truly love him and i didnt arry him for his money or anything. its true love
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Hi,
My best friend is married to a lady 25 years his junior. I cannot see what they have in common apart from the fact that he is exceedingly rich and she is very pretty!! They honestly have no idea what the other is talking about when it comes to music, books or even TV shows though something must keep them together! They have been married 5 years now and he says he is very happy with her - I don't know her well enough to ask. He does buy her a lot of things and she leaves him alone to do his own thing so maybe that's it or perhaps it's the fact that they genuinely love each other. ( No, it can't possibly be - can it?)
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Sadly, most women in their 20's who hook up with men in their 50's are doing it for what they can get. Most men in their 50's can provide them with alot of "goods" (a nice house, nice cars, plenty of diamonds and money to spend on shopping) so it's almost like being back home, having no responsibilities and just letting Daddy pay for everything your heart desires. Unfortunately, as their 50-something man begins to age a bit they will usually find a young stud to keep them sexually entertained. Because just like men who enjoy the look of a young, firm 20-something babe, women also prefer young, firm, muscular studs. So if I were you, I'd focus on a woman who is closer to your own age -- like 40 at least. Then you may have a fighting chance of having a meaningful relationship with someone who will love you and be there 20 years later when you need more care.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (28 February 2008):
There are various reasons women prefer older men and would be comfortable with 15 to 20 age difference.Belive me there are lots of women 20yrs younger than you who would leave everything just for you.My uncle married my aunt last year.She's 21 and he's 42.Very common.
Take care.
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 February 2008):
 HEY!!
My grandad (62) met his (now wife) (22!!) they secretly (without teling anyone including my dad) got MARRIED and are expecting a child in just under 2 weeks. Age difference doesnt realy matter, some women do, some dont :) Watch out for the money grabbers though!
GOOD LUCK!! Feel free to mail me at any time x x
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reader, hello1 +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Yes, my grandparents have a 13yr diffrence, they met when she was 17! Mind you he lied and said he was younger. My dad and mum is 8. Truth told once you get older you do serch for the older guys but I think 15-20 years is too much, that age diffrence will become a problem.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Hi
I personally prefer older guys. Only about 10 yrs older though. Did date a guy for a yr that was 17 yrs older and the chemistry was amazing! But i would say max 10 yrs now. Mid 40's.
Ive done the younger blokes thing, a 10 yrs younger guy, and its a no no for me. I prefer someone a bit more grounded, settled.
C xxxx
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reader, Midge +, writes (28 February 2008):
 I can honestly say they do! My boyfriend is just shy of 10 years older than me. My parents are 15 years apart so I can say that does definately happen!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): heck yes they do!
personally I love older guys (sometimes a little bit too old). I've been dating older men since I was a teenager. Trust me hun, guys get hotter and sexier as they get older. (too bad most women don't). so don't worry about it. But it is true that not all woen like older men. so if you have ur eye on a young hottie don't get down if she doesn't respond the way you want. just know that there will always be girls looking for a big daddy ;)
much luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Well, my mam is 10 years younger than my dad, if that counts..
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