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writes:Hello, I am a fourteen and a half girl. Anyway this is my dilemna and I'd really appreciate it if you could give me your input or some advice.Just recently , I went back to my homeland, where I was actually born. There we have really good family friends and they have a son me siblings and I have known our whole lives. He's 20. I realised on that trip that I had a little crush on him, you know nothing serious just one of those silly school girl crushes. Anyway when I went back home we started talking on MSN and facebook just really casually but along the way it turned into something where he admitted that he in fact had a crush on me too and so on. We've been talking for a while now, about how in the future it would be cool if we could be together and have a live with one another. I know this is wrong because of the age gap but I can't help it, I myself am shocked that I have these feelings because I've always been very logical. We've both acknowledged that it is in fact wrong right now but in the future 6 years age diff. really isn't that bad. I'm just wondering is it really horrible , the fact that we're kind f fantasising and making these plans to be together in the future?I'm so confused and torn,Please help!Thanks so much,L
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionKitty, thanks so much for your advice, take care!
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 you won't be put in jail just for dating; you just can't do anything sexual. and if you're mostly dating via the internet then that's even more innocent. i see no way that you would get in trouble for that, and i don't think your feelings are silly or wrong at all! you should go for it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi again guys, sorry to carry on, but I just want to make it clear that we both know that it would be wrong to do anything physical at this age for sure, as it's illegal and wrong, and that we never would. Does this lighten it up a little bit?
Sorry i know im probably being silly.
Thanks again !
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys, thanks for taking the time to reply to my question, I really appreciate it!
I realise I'm in a bit of a tricky situation,
Thanks alot,
You guys are great :)
L
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (2 January 2010):
 It won't matter in the least if you wait about five years, but right now, it's best for you to find someone your own age. You will be putting him in jeopardy of jail time if you pursue this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): okay, well, i understand that you have a crush. . .but it's a crush. and if something did happen, he could get into BiG trouble for being older.
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reader, Frenzotic +, writes (2 January 2010):
 It's not at all horrible that you guys are fantasising these ideas though please please please don't let it become too much serious fantasising and dreaming as this could set you up for potential heartbreak if it doesn't happen. Despite the feelings you both feel you never know what could happen given a few years. It's too early to tell.
What you should be doing at this time instead of dreaming a life together in a good few years, is to just purely enjoy each other's company and time talking/getting to know each other. Keep it all light hearted for now and see how you guys feel about each other a few years down the line
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