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writes:I was at my cousin is house for a party and i got really wasted with her husband we had like shot after shot after shot long story short is we ended up making out touching and he fingered me, i didnt stop him tho, i felt horrible in the morning because shes a really close cousin and they have been married for 5 years and have a kid together i cant tell my cousin because it wasnt supposed to happen, the next day he came over and we went to the room alone and started to talk about it and i told him it would be best to forget about it because of the fact we were just drunk he told me that was a good idea but started to like kiss on my neck, and everytime we are around eachother there is sexual tension what do i do?
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reader, kayxlovesxjamiex  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 your 15! this man could be on the sex offenders list for life for doing that. its sick and hes a peodophile!! to finger a 15 year old girl and hes married and a father is bad enough!! goodluck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): I agree with Meg2989 and tell your cousin what her husband did to you while you were intoxicated. He is a predator and knows no bounds. Help your cousin now that it is still early in her marriage to realize that her husband is a good for nothing punk who wanted to screw you, a child in the eyes of the law. Tell her. Tell her right now! He will cause much misery in your lives if he is allowed to continue.
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (2 January 2010):
 Little girl, you're playing a VERY dangerous game. This guy is a predator and is using your age and inexperience to get you in bed with him. For him, this is all a game. But understand that if you play along, you are going to lose your relationship with your cousin and cause all sorts of problems within your family. This jerk will disappear into the woodwork, but you'll spend the rest of your life with your family talking about how you broke up your cousin's marriage.
If you really feel badly and don't want things to get out of hand, do like soon567 says and make it absolutely clear to her husband that if he wants to cheat, he needs to find another tramp to do it with. Don't go off into a room alone to "talk" about what happened. Don't ride with him to the store to pick up soda. Don't do anything that will create an opportunity for you to get sucked into an affair with this man. Their marriage is probably going to end anyway, just make sure you're not the cause of the divorce.
And what the hell are you doing taking shots at 15 years old anyway? You're far too young to be drinking like that and may find yourself in a situation where someone doesn't take "no" for an answer.
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reader, To A New Life +, writes (2 January 2010):
What he's doing with you now to his wife, he will one day do to you. You are lucky you are "not" his wife. I feel sorry for your cousin.
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (2 January 2010):
 If I were in your shoes I would tell her what happened. Its a horribly hard thing to do when you know you've wronged someone, especially a close family memeber. You don;t have to tell her, but I really would. Chances are that if he has done this with you, then in talking to you about it he was still trying to kiss on you leads me to believe that he he doesn't have much remorse for what he's done. It also leads me to believe that this isn't the first time he's done this with someone during their relationship. The best thing for you to do is to bring yourself out of the situation, if you have plans with your cousin stick to those plans and try not to go into the house with her husband around. If she wants you to come over suggest that she come over to your house instead. (see how that works because you dont want her to get the wrong idea and bring her hubby too, thats bad news) Just do what you can to stay away from him. It's a very difficult situation , but you are doing the right thing be trying to "move out" of it. Best wishes and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): You're an adult, you know what to do. Don't be alone with him ever again. Don't even be drunk around him. It seems like he's not ready to end things, so you have to be the mature one and do what is right. Be very firm and very strict about it: no being alone, no touching, no nothing! Eventually he will probably get the picture, but until then, you need to draw the line and make sure nothing else happens. It's too bad your cousin is stuck with him, and you're not exactly blameless, either.
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reader, Katie-Lou +, writes (2 January 2010):
Tell him to back off. If you and your cousin really are that close you will keep your hands off him. Tell him if he doesnt stop you will tell your cousin, you dont nececarily have to tell her but it may make him stop, i doubt he wants his marriage and chances of seeing his kid wrecked. You need to make sure you have nothing more to feel sorry for when it comes to her husband. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): Well just only be around him when his wife your COUSINS there. Like he doesnt control you your just as bad as him you can tell him "no stop you have a wife my cousins". Just stay away from him or your a cheater.
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reader, Marybaby +, writes (2 January 2010):
Marybaby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm a 15 year old girl and i dont know like i was so drunk i couldnt even stand up straight like i didnt even know what i was doing like i dont go to there house very often but im always at my aunts house which is her mom and shes always there with him and there kidd, so its hard not to be around him,
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