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writes:I went on holiday last year to turkey for 8 weeks. While i was there i met a wonderful man. We became really good friends and soon found myself falling for him big time. He told me he felt the same and we soon became an item. We stayed in contact after i returned to the uk and i have been over twice to see him since. We have been going steady for nearly a year now and speak everyday. People think its just some silly holiday romance but its more. I was speaking to him on the net last night and he wants to come and live here with me in the uk. however the only way he can do that is if we get married. I said to him i would love to but my family have gone mad and think he is only doing it for a one way ticket to get into the uk and said if i did marry him then i would lose them. He is 100 percent genuine and i would never in a million years marry someone i thought was fake. what should i do follow my heart or listen to my family??
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Also i just want to say, I've also had my heart broken from a British boy.
Just be careful, dont give him money all the time. I know they dont have a lot of mony, so help them, don't give them. Do what you want to do, enjoy, if he brakes your heart then that can be mended.
God i have so much to say on htis subject!!!! Sarah
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Whats happened 16 months on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Here is another crazy story. I met my Turkish husband on facebook. Three months later, I went to see him in London, then our trips went back and forth from London to the u.s. He is a genuine, traditional, warm hearted man. I could never ask for anything more. I know that Turks have their reputations, but you should always listen to your heart. When in doubt...don't! Your gut feeling is always right. Mine tells me it's the best thing I've ever done. We're now married, after less then a year, we're looking forward to our lives together and our future babies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): Hi, I think you should go with your heart and trust your instincts. I am english and live in the UK with my turkish husband. We met in Holland and after a short time dating i got pregnant, after our son was born we decided to move to the UK and get married. This was 7 months ago and I have never been happier. he is a great husband and a wonderful father (and my family think the world of him). Maybe your boyfriend could come to the UK on a 6 month visit visa and see how you work out at living together before you commit to marriage and then he can meet your family, maybe they will change their opinion. Check the direct.gov.uk website about visas.
I hope it works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): I am so in love with a Turkish man that I met online about 7 months agon on the game Second Life. We married on the game but for now we have to be content with this. We spend hours every night on line and on the webcam with each other and know each other inside and out. I am even considering converting to Islam to marry this man because he is very devoted to his religion. I am so happy to say that he has treated me better than any man ever has. We have about a 20 year age difference (I am older than him) and he loves me regardless. He loves me for my pure heart, and he speaks with honesty and sencerity. I think that the culture has placed more value on how the relationships are viewed. I may just be an older woman dazzled by the fact that this young hunk is in love with me but baby girl, Go For It! You don't get a chance at happiness like this often in life. I am renewing my passport tomorrow. Good Luck and God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): HiI met my Kurdish bf over a month ago and i go back in 3 weeks (an PS i am haven't even slept with him yet I told him I did not know him enough then). I have all the same worries, some things set alarm bells off but then other things like organising a red rose to be delivered to me, getting sad and drunk because he cant see me. Telling me all the right things like he has never waited for anyone before that he has always cheated (it all seems too honest to be all lies)and telling about his previous girls that one of them he did want for a visa. I do believe their ultimate goal is for a visa but hey dont us girls have a dream of a rich man whether we love them or not (half of the scottish girls i know are chasing footballers)!!!!?? I think that the love comes and I hope that this is what is happening here. He comes to the webcam every night (which he has to pay for in a cafe) and I call him two or three times a day. My family and friends all think I am being stupidPlease tell me if you think like that because sometimes I let my heart rule my head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): Hello again. Im the same person that submitted the last answer. Having read all the replies now. I have some further views. To the guy Stewart i think. Dont do it. And a couple of you are about two years in and the spouse is about to apply for leave to remain. Be warned, this is when they change. As someone quite rightly said its a cultural thing. You can take someone out of Turkey but you cant take Turkey out of them. I too work with Turks/Kurds and most were either born or at least had a full education here. And yet they all sit together and talk there own language constantly. Its a ghetto mentality. Extremely insular. Of course I would never have expected my wife to turn her back on her roots completely but she married me an English man. And she seemed excited at a new challenging life here. We would watch TV together, listen to English/US music. This all stopped, she would only listen to Turkish music, started watching Turkish soaps on youtube. Anyway all of this is fine. But to pretend to be so in love with someone and then just walk out the door hurts like you would never beleive. So those women who said they just want to enjoy the moment and so on. Well you are in denial because when it happens it will hit you like a sledgehammer and 3 or 4 years will have been taken from you. Marriage should be meant for life, if it all goes wrong then so be it. But both people should make the commitment and then stick at it to make it work. I did and then I got shafted big style. So my advice, dont do it. The chances of it being true love are slim
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): Of course it may be love, but be careful. I met my (ex) wife in Summer 2004 she was a student from Ankara. We (apparently) fell in love and married on new years eve that same year. For 3 years it all seemed Ok , yes we argued occasionally, who doesnt. But for the most part it was good. She would tell me how much she loved me nearly everyday. She seemed so genuine. She got her leave to remain in the UK in Feb 2008 and within a month she was gone. She just left and only contacted me to arrange money. She isnt even pretending anymore that it was nothing but a sham. Its the hardest thing ive ever had to endure. I still cry everyday 10 weeks later. Even though she is so evil I still feel devestated. But she will have to live with the guilt till the day she dies and I will get over it in time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): I have had a relatively harmonious marriage to a Turkish man for the last twenty five years. I am one of the lucky ones. During this time I have seen other English women with Turkish partners who have been beaten, abused, cheated on and ripped off, some even loosing houses and businesses or being saddled with large debts. I have met women who stay with their Turkish husbands only because they are frightened of loosing their children.Although my own husband is loyal, hardworking kind and reasonable I am sorry to have to say that in all these years I have only met a handful on English women who can say the same about their Turkish men after a few years of marriage.Also be aware that there are men who carve out careers in the holiday resorts by forming relationships with women from northern europe only for financial gain.No genuine Turkish man would take money from a woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): HY,
I would say don't do that. I married with Turkish man for two and a half years, but now it is finished.Then he come to the UK he couldn't speak English very well, he didn't have friends, so I was everything for him. But situation changed then his English got better and he found his Turkish friends. Remember just one thing FOR TURKISH MAN, WOMAN DOESN'T HAVE THE SAME WRIGHTS AS MAN. So be very careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): Hi I find myself in the same boat i went to cyprus last year in sept met a 24 yr old and went back in oct he sais he love me and wanted to marry me all i could se was a ticket to england he phoned and tex but i was paying allthe time he said if i loved him i would go injan i didnt but went in april he wanted me to go met hes family i just couldnt i cant trust i think he dont love me at all so wot am saying i sjust be very carfull as he had 4 other girlsfreinds which i was told about .. istilltalk to him and will see him again but i dont think i will marry himas am not prepaored to risk everything i own i am 48 an di know someone who is 65 married to a 25yr old and has moved to englad this yr and only stayed with hes wifr for 6 mts and then left.. good luck hope it works out for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): nobody should critize people by using their nationality. your parents would be right or you so. but there is no connection with the nationality. you should find out the answer
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reader, canim +, writes (11 April 2008):
Well i went to Istanbull to meet my boyfriend for the 1st time last week,, we met the airport,, believe me all fears i had just went ,, we looked at each other and it was instant love, we had chatted on line for 3 months,, we then spent 5 days together it was amazing, we both cried when i had to return to uk,, we speak every night on line and text and call each other , our love is deep and i know its genuine, at the end of the day you cant stop whats happening,, only you have the answer, no one can tell you right or wrong ,,just be happy and enjoy the moment,
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Hi.I found your posting whilst searching on the net! I am in a smilar situation, although I met my Turkish gf in london. She has now moved back and after a year now we are still going strong. She has made it clear she would love to move back here permately. She is 26 and I am 27. As you say the only real way she can move here is if we both marry and then she can stay on a visa here in London.How did things work out for you? any help would be useful.Regards,Stewart
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): i myself am married to a turkish man,we however live here in turkey.i would be very careful if he only mentions england to you.for him to live with you in england is a very difficult process.it would be better if you lived in turkey for a while then applied for him to join you in the uk for just 6 months 1st.then go for the 2 year settlement visa.good luck and all the happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Don't marry a turkish man. I did and have had the worst 4 years of my life and he was one of the better ones. Turkish culture is just too different and they will expect you to do everything and be their slave. They are VERY GOOD at the romancing at the beginning but that all stops and you are just a slave. DON'T GET DRAWN IN........... If i could go back in time and change the day I met him I would.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): my turkish guy is desperate to marry me i know its for a visa but i have true feelings for him how do you know yours is not just after the same
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): hi just wanted to share my experience with you i am married to a turkish guy and we have been together nine yr married eight. Not all stories are horror ones mine was also a holiday romance and dispite some negative reactions at first everyone reliases that we are a family listen to opinions but remember they are only opions try to talk to people who are married in the same situation as you listen to all they have to say good and bad follow your intution it is never wrong be honest both with your man and yourself. Respect each other listen to what you both have to say sometimes it is difficult to do that you are your own person only you know what it is you really want mixed relationships are not easy they require give and take as do all relationships you both have to try to understand each others culturers. I am very happy it is the best thing that happend to me i wish you all the happiness in the world take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Hi well I have met a very nice turkish man friom istanbull , I am going to visit him in 2 weeks ,, not once has he asked about a visa to come here, he is genuine, he ia a Turk not a Kurd and there is a difference,, Turk men more loyal more proud,,, so yes invite him let your parents decide for themselves,, but at end of day its your life ,,
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reader, MT +, writes (11 March 2008):
I felt horible when i read some of answers as a Turk. Some people love to make prejudgement or talking behind the bad experiences without knowing the person.First of all just wondering do you now diffrence between Turks and Kurds? And how many Turks do live in North London? How many terorist has been excepted in UK as a politic refugee last 15 years or more? Anyway i felt sorry for Turkish students who came here with excitement for to study.Do you know why?Thats because most of them has been face to strange reaction from the English woman and they have just met.Refused from the woman thats because they are Turkish.
That is why mostly educated Turks immigrate to USA.
My suggestion is; he has right to stay in UK 90 days with
tourist visa if your parents accepted invite him to stay your parents home.And surely meantime you and your parents have chance make pre personality analyse. Or apply for VAF4 for fiance (Settilment form)http://www.ukvisas.gov.uk/Files/KFile/VAF4_25Oct.pdf
Before marry him be %100 sure that he is the person you like to spend your life side by side!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): Hi, I met my Turkish husband nearly 5 years ago, but our relationship was slightly different as I was working as a rep there so we had a proper dating one, we were never going to get married, it was not what either of us really wanted at the time, however one day he proposed and being totally in love with him I said yes, 1 1/2 months later we were married, I came back to UK and he applied for his Visa to come here, he has been in the UK now for 2 years and just applied for his indefinate leave to remain, we will return to live in Turkey one day, but just satisfy ourselves with holidays to his mums at the moment. He is not after my money - I do not have much! he was not after a visa but wanted to learn english better and felt it would be easier in the UKYes there are some who are only after a visa and your money but I have had some bad experiences with British men who have professed undieing love for me and taken my money, so what is the difference? just that they come form a different country. How can anybody tell what the future of their relationship is going to be? I have many friends that are married happily to Turks and for a long time, I also know a few people who have been treated badly by Turks, but the same can be said with British guys, i have lots of friends who have been happily married forever, and some that thought they were and are now getting divorced after 37 years of marriage, Everybody knows that it is so easy to divorce these days and there is no stigma attached to it. My father and brother were not particulary keen on my marriage to my husband at the time but now they love him to pieces because they see how he treats me and what he does for me. I am not saying it has been easy, he is quite a difficult person to live with at times, the cultures are different and his views on things vary greatly to mine at times, but that is what makes us strong as a couple.Ultimately the choice is yours, Have your family met him? It may be an idea to take a family holiday to Turkey to visit him, so they can see him before you take the plunge, that way they can get to know him a bit. Have you visited his family? This is also a good way of seeing if they are right for you. Anyway enough of my ramblings, Good luck in whatever you decide.Take careK
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): hi its step,i think you shouldn`t marry him because if he is saying he wants to come over and live here he might just want a visa and leave you when he gets here.i had a turkish boyfriend we got together in june last year and was engaged by august i kept in contact with him everyday he said i was the love of his life and he cant wait to marry me and have children and spend the rest of our lives together.we got a house together and i bought everything to go in it and my mum did and then when i came back to manchester a week before christmas he kept saying when are you coming back so i said soon so he said ok and then last week i got a phone call saying im sorry i cant do it i love you so much but i dont want to be with you anymore so i think he may of been seeing another girl behind my back. after all i have done for him, now he has the house and everything in it so if i was you i would say no, i have found a new english boyfriend now who i love to pieces write back from steph.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): be careful, i know somebody who met a Turkish man here inthe uk they went on holiday and got married, and that was a year ago he still hasnt been able to get back here and she came back and has sent him thousands of pounds to try and get a visa so he can get back. and he cant get back now he wants a devorce,i was also with a Turkish man who after 3 months asked me to marry him i was 16 years old and then i found out i was pregnant i then realised what they are like when he started ruling my life when i told him i didn't want to get married he finished with me. now i have a son who he doesn't want to know and right now he is in Turkey and can't get a visa back here i thought he was genuin and it turns out that he wasn't. i have nothing nice to say about them i think they want vulnerable women to marry so they can get into our country i'm realy sorry for putting a downer on your love, but if you carry on with this man i think you might get hurt so please follow your heart and if something doesn't feel right then don't do it. i'm sorry again !
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): I really do hope and pray the everything works out for you, as everyone else has asked the questions I would like to ask you....... My husband is Turkish, we have been together in London for 3 years and have a son who will be two soon.... we went back to Turkey for two months and I returned with my son - my husband has to apply for a visa and I'm pulling my hair out and so lonely without him and not sure how long this will take, we got married in Turkey to speed it up but not sure this is the case? He is the most wonderful guy and I can't stand another day without him - anyone else in my situation? please I need to know how long he will be away from us.......... I can put my hand on my heart and say he is definitely not doing this for a uk visa but to be with me and our son......
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): i am british too and have a turkish boyfreind we have been seeing each other for a year now. He wants to marry me too he says he loves me i do feel lots for him but i worry that he wants marriage for different reasons i do love him lots i dont want to have doubts. How can u feel really sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): I have a turkish boyfriend who lives in turkey. i met him about 2 years ago. we have had a on and off relationship.but it is final now. we are engaged and i have 2 young children from a previous relatioship.ive actually met his family and they are really nice. my boyfriend has said he would stop turkey but he knows it would be best for him come england. so we are trying to get him to come over to england. we are going to apply for a visa for him. his brother has a visa for tourist already.and both his and my family are very supportive as he is a geniune guy.i have friends who say he just after visa. but both me and my family dont think that. he is a geniune turkish bloke and i love him.i didn't realize i would love somebody like i do with him after my break-up with my ex-husband. as that was a domestic voilence relationship.i haven't many friends who believe in me and who could help me to sort out about the visa for him.as some people know how difficult it is to get them one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Hi
I understand your story so well. I myself married my Turkish husband last October and he is arriving here in UK on Monday for us to eventually live together as man and wife. I can only suggest that you listen to your heart, I understand your families concerns but I do know that there are very genuine loving Turkish men that are not looking for a passport, my husband is one of those. In fact he preferred me to live in Turkey with him, but I have 2 grown up children I did not want to leave here in UK. He eventually made the decision to come to me. My family and my friends are so very happy for us as we have been in our relationship for the last 3 and half years and they have come to realise how much of a wonderful genuine man my husband is. Sadly we have had to fight our case so very hard for him to get his Visa into this country, but because our love is genuine and strong we have eventually won this. I wish you and your Turkish man all the best and if you love each other so much you can win through anything. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): Hello, take your time and don't rush into marriage. If it's genuine you can both wait as you know you will be there for one another. Also though don't dismiss your family and listen to what they have to say. The decision must be yours but remember your family are only looking out for your best interests.It's unfortunate that many Turkish men are looking for foreign wives only for the visas so there is always a chance that your man may be deceiving you? Or maybe not? Be sure before taking any serious steps that you may one day regret.Be lucky and happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): follow ur heart.........i have just come back from turkey for the second time to see a younger man i met there on holiday.we are so in love it hurts. i am going through a divorce after 18 years of marriage and my partner never made me feel how he does. he wants me to go and live with him there but i have two childen and i dont want to leave them here.im nervous about him coming here because my family....like yours are not happy about it. i am 40 years old and life is too short to worry.you have to do what is right for you. its your life and your only here once..........go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): I would say follow you heart, but always be aware that there is a strong chance he is doing it to get a visa - life is so shit in Turkey, they all dream of coming to the UK - it is their life's ambition. I am marrying my Turkish Boyfriend in February, but he is a business man and we do intend to return to Turkey in a couple of years - but I am still not totally sure of his intentions - so just keep a little room for doubt then you wont be totally shocked if he dissapears.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): hello dear friend and l dont think he feels the same way like you felt for him and l am eggree with you that he only wants to come to u.k and l think you are still young so dont do anything wrong in your life and if you are going to marry some1 he should be with you 4ever not like him only for the ticket are you so cheap?l am turkish too and l have been worked in marmaris and l have seen many girls like you so plz be carefull about it ok byee for now find a true love and catch to happness forever ok byeee
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): hi i have a turkish bf and he has made it quite clear he doesnt want to come to england he would rather me go to turkey which i would love to he is a bit younger than me we both love each other and text and ring each other about twice a day so i say follow your heart not every turkish men are gigolos there is some very nice genuine ones out there u can tell which ones are not genuine by the way they talk to u and their body language i know my bf is genuine u can see the love in his eyes he got upset the other day coz he was lonely and wanted me to go over there but at moment things are a bit hard coz i have children and he accepts this and coz we love each other i know we will get through it. so i say go for it girl follow your heart i always have and it has always worked out for me. good luck. xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): Well honey it can be made possible dont listen to all bad storys i have a wonderful turkish fiance he is a dental tec in istanbul and just last week we went for a holiday to bodrum he bought me a diamon solitair ring and asked me to marry him and i agreed (and a certificate for the ring) as he klnows the opinion of others in the uk so he wanted to prove it yes they want a better life and sometimes want to leave the uk but that does not mean they dont love you any more i have a sister with a turkish husband for 7 years now 3 freids that have been married 5 years but alos hundreds that have had problems but there not all like that its stupid to think that following your heart will always cause you problems but its the heart that leads the way if its a mistake its your mistake no one elses and if it all goes wrong then it does but your family and friends will always be there for you if there true friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): I married a turkish man last year after 3years of knowing him and travelling there 4times a year. He's here now in england on a 2year settlement visa. Its not that easy to apply and get the visa, ours was refused then we had a 7month wait before they overturned the decision. It really is much easier to apply for a visitor visa (less paper work needed, less things you both need to prove). Getting married doesn't mean a visa will be given, and u have to prove u've known eachother at least 2years or married 1year for it to be considered. My husband has found it hard settling here, but was lucky to find work (a restaurant owned by a turk). And married life to a muslim is bloody hard what with all their beliefs. I wouldn't say don't go for it but i would say take your time, theres no rush and if he truly loves u as u do him then he'll wait, but be prepared being unfaithful comes natural to them!!!. I'm happier now he's here with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): follow your heart, and let your gut feeling guide you, your family obviously have different views. but in the same repect have to accept yours. Im not in the same situation but Ive just came back from Altinkum, had a fantastic time whilst I was there I kept bumping into this gorgeous turk. night after night after night. I am gay and was aware not to shout it from the roof tops in tukey but this guy was really friendly to me. cut a long story short we he is gay too we still speak everyday or so and Im planning to go and see him in October first time since I left him in Altinkum. Im scared and nervous that Im going over myself and that things may not be the wat it was on holiday, his english is very very poor and my turkish isnt great........... what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): Hi, i have just come back from Turkey after being there 3 weeks, whilst there i got engaged to my partner who, like the last writer is much younger than me. Never in my life have i experienced such warmth, love and generosity not just from my partner but from his whole family. We are due to get married in January, I know in my heart this man is not after papers, as i am prepared to live there in turkey with him if that's what it takes, enjoy yourself whilst you can, you have one life....... live it...... i hope from the bottom of my heart you make the right choice for YOU and not for friends or family...xxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): Hi there, I went to Turkey this year and have fallen for a guy much younger than me. I don't care what anyone says......I was married to an Italian that hit me, lived with an English guy who cheated on me every week and my last serious relationship with an English guy who couldn't care less about me. SO I'm going to get this guy over and have the best time of my life be that it lasts 6 months, 1 year or 1 day. Enjoy the love and attention that Turkish men give ladies for whatever reason it may be. Nothing lasts forever and life's too short. Enjoy my dear cause I am. xxx
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reader, Sinan  +, writes (20 March 2007):
hello,
You dont have to marry for visa aplications.
You can invite him to Uk as your unmaried partner.you also have to show that you can financialy sport him in UK
check out www.ukvisas.co.uk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): First to those people who are saying he should holiday with you in the UK it is very difficult for a Turkish person to get a visa even for a short while.If you love him go for it What have you got to lose? I live in Turkey and have many friends with Turkish partners who are very happy together.But do realise even if you are married he wont automatically get a visa for the UK so be prepared that you may have to live in Turkey if you want to be together
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): Hi My boyfreind is Turkish. We got engaged at Christmas after a very quick Romance. I have been over to visit him and his family twice now and am planning a 3rd visit in the spring (all paid for by him). We have had many discussions about where we will live. I have told him I won't live in Turkey as I don't want to leave my family although this is where he would prefer to stay he is willing to move to the UK. We cannot marry until we have evidence of being together for 2 years, and even then he is prepared to jump through hoops to live with me in the UK. If your lucky enough to have a man willing to do all this then he's worth marrying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2007): wake up n smell the coffee hun.Why does he want everything from you.. to him your a ritch, white girl with a passport to a country he cant get into legally. Marriage gets him in. All he had to do was show you a good time, chat you up, give you the attention you obviously needed and you fell for it. Look around town like London, Glasgow, Luton... large turkish populations, all of which wont give you a second glance as a white person because theyre already over here. He's using you simple as.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 You must not have seen many turkish people around the UK have you? Here's the thing: they seriously prefer to be with their own kind! There's so many of them in north London, all the ones in my 6th form they just stuck together speaking turkish. And they're as rude as hell. They hang out with you and when there's another turk around (doesn't matter if they know them or not) they go and talk in their own language for hours. Total buttwipes (the ones I've met so far anyway and that's quite a few!)
Here's my point. As soon as he gets his citizenship, he'll change especially once he starts meeting other turkish people.
I know you'll follow your own heart and stuff but do me a favour. If you decide to marry him and after about 5 years, he doesn't start treating you like crap, drop me a message! It'll change my outlook on those folk which might be a good thing
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 February 2007):
 When I read your question I had alarm bells ring inside me right away. For one, why is it YOU are always the one going over to see him? Why don't you ask him over on HOLIDAY to start with to see you and learn more about your culture? He would be able to come and see you without any bother if it was only for a holiday. If he's genuinely interested in you and loves you like you say then he would have no problem doing that. If he says he can't afford to then THAT should set alarm bells ringing again.
Feel him out and don't let him use that as an excuse. Tell him you'll help with the fare, throw it over to him again and see if he makes another excuse. Tellulah is right love, there are so many foreigners want to get with someone for the UK and marry them ONLY to get into the country.
Try this, why don't you ask him if you can go over there and live wi |
