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writes:Hey everyone. please help me with this problem i have. i am an 18 year old girl who comes from a very strict Greek background. i recently met an amazing guy, but he is not Greek, so my parents do not accept him. i see him every weekend - but behind their backs, and i always have to go with my friend and her boyfriend, because i wont be allowed out by myself. i have tried speaking to them about it, but they don't wanna know about it. I have to have a Greek boyfriend.I could try introducing him because he is a very decent guy, but that won't work because they don't even wanna hear about him - never mind meet him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): tell ya the truth im half greek and when i was dating a full greek girl it was a problem..yep i just think ur parents dont see the big picture he has to be greek what is that i was never accepted and im half so what..best thing to do is tell ya parents one inevitable truth u wanna hear it...no matter whether ur greek or something else ur gonna die everyones gonna die that means were all the same so accept my bf otherwise il run away!!!
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reader, eleni  +, writes (26 February 2009):
I noticed that you are not 18 yet. I had a non-Greek boyfriend and I gave him up when I was 19 or 20 because I was scared to death of the anger of my mother and brothers. I am the youngest of 5 and the older 4 siblings had complete control over me.
I also noticed the note was in October, 2008. It is now February, 2009. If you are 18, you have the right to be firm. Don't be afraid.
I repressed all feelings for the guy I was in love with. The repressed memory came back 34 years later. I wish I had seen a psychiatrist then but it was not very acceptable in the late 50s and early 60s.
The retrieved memory was horrible. I cried severly and wanted him back. It would have been crazy if I tried to contact him. I have a husband and two children and that has helped somewhat. Also I did finally go for therapy while I was single. It helped enormously. I went back when the repressed memory came through. And it helped. I wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): As has been said before... tradition or no tradition, lawfully they can do NOTHING at all to stop you from dating anf going otu with whoever the damn hell you feel like doing those things with.
You can respect your parents and love them. But under no circumstances should you be a slave to them.
So if you want to be with this man. Tell your parents that they can either accept it or lose you.
If the choose the latter, then perhaps it's all for the best because their attitude is outdated and un-realistic in this day and age.
Let them miss you. Let them learn to give up such ancient and useless beliefs. Let them ask YOU for forgiveness.
Flynn 24
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reader, eurolove +, writes (13 October 2008):
 Sweeety I have a boyfriend to who my family is not the same. I mean my boyfriend is black and im from eastern europe. There are no black people over there. Its like you seem to be with a normal man where the outside looks should be the least important. The most that I can tell you is that you are old enough to make those decisions on your own and dont let family interfere with how you feel about a person.And let your family know but do it with dignity and understanding. Your not a little girl anymore
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (13 October 2008):
 Hi dear, You are an adult at 18. Your parents can't force you to have A greek boy friend. I think you will find it easer once you have your full independance. They must accept your choice and if they don't it will be thier loss. If you are living with them respect thier choice until you have your own place. You need your independance very soon if you have parents that are trying to dominate your private life. For now try and reason with them. Say that you have found a very decent guy and you like him very much and say that your parents should try and be more open minded and give him at least a chance to introduce himself. Your parents can't force thier opinions on you like it. Your parents have the right to guide you and advise you but not impose thier opinions on you. If your parents want to punish you for not having a Greek boy friend and forcing you to do something you don't want, then you should not get them involved with your relationships in the futor, they will realise proberly that they have no other choice than accepting who you want to be with.
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