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writes:I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. we seem be getting in alot of arguments about being equals, money and house chores. His dispute is that he makes more money and pays more bills then i do so therefore I have to clean more. I contribute as much as I can. But i am having a hard time becoming a stereotypical "woman". Is it wrong for me to ask him to clean up after himself? What if i were making as much money as he was? Should i just shut up and clean?? Were getting to the point of questioning why we are together. we love each other alot and I wouldnt want to break up because of a dirty house?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Can the two of you sit down and sort of draw up some sort of agreements about who will do what? I mean, I understand if he works more, that perhaps he's tired, ect..but if he's being a pig, forget it. That's crazy. He should pick up after himself. Its sad if you are fighting that much over cleaning, so try to work things out that is fair to both of you. Take turns, or something. But it isn't right for him to expect you to do it all.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (17 October 2008):
 It is not wrong if you ask him to help cleaning up. He should not bring up the arguement that he earns more money.
Its not very tactul on his part. I think both of you should be ready for a compromise so that things can work out. Good luck!
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