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writes:Hi im 29 and my girlfriend is 22 not long ago we both opened up while watching porn together and said we like same sex no matter if its 2 chicks, 2 males or 2 transvestites we just love it. We both really love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together :) my question is: is it ok for a couple to be Bi??? we sometmes say lets explore this later in life when where older??? should we??? she has been with one female 3 times but didnt go all the way but she liked the experience... she says the thought of 2 girls in a relationship really turns her off which is great for me and she loves me and would never damage the relationship :) I have been with a guy once and went all the way and enjoyed the experience this was before i met my girlfriend i just needed to try... i liked the experience..... i just dnt like the thought of 2 guys being together in a relationship but i like the physical side to gay sex but i prefer watching lesbian porn when me and my mrs watch it... i have had this small feeling towards men since i was 15 and my gf since she was 6 lol she loves men more but... im just asking is it ok what we are ding or should we stop the bisexual side of our lives and just concentrate on a happy str8 life together :) We are both happy together to make it clear and we are blessed to have found each other who share a similer sexualality and im into females more then males... thanks for your time and please answer honestly :)
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reader, xgod  +, writes (6 May 2012):
 There is nothing wrong with exploring and enjoying whatever brings you pleasure. Unless it harms anyone outside of those involved.
Too much religious morality has infiltrated the bedrooms and minds of people who are or desire to be open to bisexuality.
you are seeking approval. You do not need approval. If you enjoy watching or experimenting and your lover does as well, there is no need for approval. Just be happy and enjoy your lives and the love and ecstasy you share.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (6 May 2012):
You ask is it okay to be bisexual in a relationship, yes! But that’s probably not the important question to be asking. Bisexual means, as you know, that you are attracted to people of both sexes. It does not mean, though, that you cannot be monogamous within a relationship. Pretty much everyone will still find other people attractive when they’re in a relationship, regardless of their sexuality, but most will do nothing about it. That’s as true for bisexuals as anyone else.You can’t change the fact that you’re bisexual, what you need to agree as a couple is whether or not you both want to bring other people in to it sexually or not. Would you prefer to be monogamous, or would you be happy to experiment sexually with other people as well? What you’re asking is whether or not you should have an open relationship, and if you do, you’ll need to agree boundaries of what each other will and won’t accept. The problem is that so often boundaries get confused and crossed in open relationships, people like the idea of some kind of sexual relationship involving other people, but then some aspect of it later upsets them and opens up all kinds of problems. To give one common example, people decide to have a threesome but then one person worries that their partner enjoyed the intimacy with the third person a little too much. Or people have casual sex but then some-one ends up developing feelings for some-one else and yes, the whole thing becomes a mess, where people know that they agreed it between them as a couple but yet can’t get over a sense of betrayal or anger.So if you and your girlfriend do decide to have an open relationship involving other people, my advice is to proceed with caution and try to agree precise boundaries of what is and is not acceptable, because it can backfire and damage the relationship. And another thing: will each person be able to say that they no longer want it to be open and the other person will then have to stop? What I’m asking, is how will you evaluate it and deal with changes of opinion that might not be mutual? If you cross this line, there will need to be lots of conversations and planning. But maybe fantasies are best left as fantasies.I wish you all the very best.
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