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writes:Ok me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 months now. I have never felt this way about anyone and she has told me over and over that she has never fallen in love this quickly before and already knows that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. The first two weeks we were together she would drive to my house every day. (15 minute drive)Now lets fast forward to 1 week ago and heres where everything goes downhill. She starts ignoring some of my texts and calls. Now she acts like she hates me some days and some days we are fine. We break up and get back together probably once every two days. the last time was because i went to a club with my friends without her which was last night. Then today she comes up to me at college and sits down beside me like nothing happens and gives me a ride home too. She still seems like she cares a little.The only time she acts like she wants to be with me is when i say something like im deleting your number or im not talking to you till tomorrow then she gets all lovey dovey. I just wish she would show more interest in our relationship. Maybe I text her too much? It sucks because all I think about is her but she seems to be getting distant and slipping away. Just want to save it and reignite that spark.
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reader, Sensativeguy010 +, writes (12 November 2010):
I had the exact same problem mate, whats going on is you guys are moving waaaaaay to fast and now shes confused and most likely questioning if she wants to be with you or not. i suggest talking to her about it. Unfortunately my outcome i eventually broke up with her bcuz she still didnt know what to do after i had givin her a week of space. DO NOT let her make you lose sleep, or worry too much when shes the one who doesnt know what she wants. so break it off if she keeps this up for a couple weeks at MOST.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Obviously, she's giving you the silent treatment, because she's upset at you over something you did or didn't do, and for some reason, she's reluctant to communicate with you about it.
I can understand why she'd be mad about the club. It must have made her feel left out.
At any rate, her actions and yours reveal that you're both way too immature for a serious relationship. They also show a serious lack of consideration for each other, because you're treating each other badly--her with her coolness and silence and you with your threats to end the relationship.
If you want to get to the bottom of what's going on with her, be more sensitive about her feelings and stop with the threats. Open communication with her. You two need to talk about your relationship problems and work them out.
You need to tell her how you feel about her. If you can't do these things, you may as well end it now, because the way it's going will lead to nowhere.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (12 November 2010):
"The only time she acts like she wants to be with me is when i say something like im deleting your number or im not talking to you till tomorrow then she gets all lovey dovey."
She's scared of losing you, or scared of being alone. That doesn't necessarily mean she loves you or she's your soulmate, but hey, it's something.
"Maybe I text her too much?"
Yeah, probably. When you give her lots of attention and want lots of attention back, that's when she pulls away, right?
It's all quite typical. Women chase after guys who are assholes toward them and don't give the time of day to a guy who treats them great. Sad, but true. Just roll with it for now, and if you really develop a deep bond after some time, then you can finally dispense with the mind games.
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