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writes:Hello, I personally have problems getting past the friend zone in terms of relationships with girls. I don't know what it is or I am just too nice or so unoriginal that I come off unattractive. I am slightly over weight which is usual in this society but I'm tanned and do look decent, a six or seven out of ten perhaps for personal imaginations. Any suggestions on how to break this cycle. And its not that I'm shallow or whatever I'm justlooking for something more. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): Some guys just aren't the "dating" type- I don't know how to exactly put a finger on it, but you know what I mean- the one person who is cool, nice, etc. but for some reason doesn't get considered relationship material.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): I hate to say it, but you're probably asking women out who are out of your league, or you don't have to offer what women believe they want. For instance, I have a friend who has no job, no car, and lives in a "mother-in-law" quarters on another friends property, he hasn't a snowballs chance in.... of ever getting a date, as he has nothing to offer but companionship....ie: friendship category.So, if you are ok looking, have a job, live in your own place, dress nice, have a car and prospects of being a good provider, some woman will want to date you. I do agree with Universe Man as well, don't be clingy or eager to please, and DONT fall in love in weeks...love takes a lot longer. good luck!
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (1 October 2010):
If you think you're too nice, you probably are. By "nice" in this context I mean eager to please and eager to show her how much you like her. Further along those lines, you've got neediness and clinginess. Women for some reason need to be kept guessing. If you are aloof and mysterious, they want to show you how great they can be and convince you to like them. If you are completely available and open, they will know exactly how much you like them and will perceive that they could do better.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 October 2010):
 How do you go about finding a date? I end up in the friend zone a lot too. I know it has to do with the fact that I tend to develop feelings for female friends. Since we're already friends, they don't want to take the chance of "ruining" that friendship.
I would suggest finding a girl you're attracted to but barely know and ask her out. You can use your dating to get to know eachother and since you're dating, you're not in the friend zone. My best luck has happened when I've done this. Maybe it will work for you too.
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