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I live on Vancouver Island B.C.
I have 2 failed marriages.
I am currently single and intend to stay that way.
I had 2 children from my first marriage.
My son committed suicide on Feb 25th. 2010 aged 33 years.
He leaves behind 3 sons.
My daughter aged 30 (single) lives in Ontario
I think I've made just about every mistake a person can make,
so I have a lot of experience to draw on.
I'm just a guy who want's to help others live a better life than I have.
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Is it right to marry my cousin?
Q. i want to know if it is right to marry my cousin. I love him so much and i cannot live without him. We've been dating for the past 4yrs nw. We've never had sex but we kiss. What do i do? We love each other so much....
A. 12 March 2011: In most cases...NO!
Maybe if he's a third or fourth cousin it might be OK.
By third or fourth cousin, I mean, one so far removed from your bloodline, it would make no appreciable genetic difference what so ever, or a cousin related to you by marri... (read in full...)
Am I right in breaking up with my bf, the father of my unborn baby, after what he's done?
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I had a fight. My step sister said why would any one want to f**k an Australian girl? Then he says, "I f**ked a European girl. "You know who it is, baby," he told me. And then earlier in the car he told me that he d...
A. 12 March 2011: RUN! RUN! RUN!
If not for yourself, then do it for your child.
Even if you could find the strength to put up with all his abuse. Do you seriously want this "sad excuse of a men" as a role model for your child?
One other thing to consider.
I... (read in full...)
Feeling unmotivated, isolated, and questioning my relationship with my bf. What to do??
Q. I'm not really sure what to say. I am really struggling with life at the moment, I guess. I kind of feel as though I am ruled by my emotions. There are things I want to do and that I am working towards, like my degree. But some days I just can't ...
A. 12 March 2011: The first thing you need to do is, see your doctor for a complete physical and emotional assessment.
What your describing sounds like clinical depression.
Believe me, I know all about it.(been there, done that)
Quite often, depression can be nothi... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I like someone else now after liking her for a while without hurting her?
Q. Ok, this girl and I have liked each other for about a month and I didn't know her very well so I wanted to know her better before we went out. But yesterday me and this other girl flirted a lot and the people we were with said we should go out. I ...
A. 12 March 2011: CONGRATULATIONS and WELCOME, to the screwed up world of "LOVE". I hope your ready for this! Monday. You really like her, but she likes somebody else. Tuesday. She's in LOVE with you, but you no longer know she exsists! Wednesday. She totally HA... (read in full...)
Should I leave my frustratingly uncommunicative husband?
Q. Should I leave my husband? We have been together 26 years but since i retired on health grounds 3 years ago and he took early retirement, the small cracks that have always been there have opened up into great big craters. He's not a bad man, he's ...
A. 12 March 2011: If you have no communication, and there's no room for compromise, you no longer have a marriage!
It's as simple as that.
You know what you have to do.
I give this answer based solely on the information you've
provided from your perspective only... (read in full...)
17 years old and involved with a married man...and not sure of what I want.
Q. I'm 17 and was involved with a married man before like when I was 15 and again when I was 16 and now once again I kissed this other married guy and again started a friendship with another married guy, ya I know I'm playing with fire. He asked me ...
A. 12 March 2011: You can't find the help you need here!
You need to talk to a professional counsellor.
Your setting yourself up to be a plaything for abusive married men.
Abusive in the sense that they're lying and cheating on their wives and families, an... (read in full...)
What can I possibly do about his actions ?
Q. Please ..I really need help all .. My man and I have been together around eight years , and have had a wonderful and exciting relationship , we originally met overseas and I am devoted to him . He is a great lover and wonderful provid...
A. 12 March 2011: You may love him with all your heart, but it's time to bring this chapter in your life to a close. If what you say is true, it's clear he neither loves or respects you. He's living a double life, so it's clear he's also a liar. Think about al... (read in full...)
If I am TOO shy could that end up pushing away a boy I like?
Q. I really like this guy. We've actually never spoken to each other before, but he gets along with a guy friend of mine, so I know what kind of guy he is. These past weeks we've been exchanging glances in the hallways and during our P.E. period. I've ...
A. 12 March 2011: Try asking your mutual friend what kinds of things this guy's interested in. Does he belong to any clubs at school,
what are his interests outside of school.
Once you have this info, maybe you could join some of these clubs, or show up at any off ... (read in full...)
He manipulates me by saying he'll kill himself!
Q. My husband and I have been together almost 7 years now. He has trust issues with me. Constantly doubting what i say, asking if i cheat/cheated on him, asking about my past relationship, thinking things have gone on when they have not. all i have ...
A. 12 March 2011: The help you seek cannot be found here on this site nor any other site for that matter.
This man is in need of intense professional therapy or maybe even hospitalization. Something your probably not trained for. I suggest you call your local ment... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to masturbate every day?
Q. i am 19, i started masturbating when i was 16 and the frequency was like once in month bt now i masturbate alot to say once in a day. Is it healthy. If not how do i get rid of it. ....
A. 12 March 2011: If your a normal healthy male,(physically and mentally) there's nothing wrong with it at all.
It's nothing more than a healthy response to a natural condition.
The only problem I can see is, your culture.
There are some cultures in the world wh... (read in full...)
18 years old, getting married in a few months and questioning it! What should I do?
Q. I have run into a problem. I am a person who can be told not to do this (ex. if you ride that horse, you're going to get bucked off), but I still get on. I always have to learn the hard way. I am at the tender age of 18, and I am engaged and gett...
A. 11 March 2011: In essence, as far as the adult world is concerned, your still a child. You've just finished high school.
You are about to take your first step into the adult world.
At this point, you really don't who you are yet.
This process takes a fair amoun... (read in full...)
I am 16 and my penis is curved. I am worried that it will bend more as I grow. Any suggestions?
Q. I am a 16 year old, Asian, male, and my penis is 5.5 inches. I know it's normal, but it has a curve. I am worried if it bends more with my growth. Any suggestions?...
A. 11 March 2011: If the bend is severe you probably have a condition called,"Peyronie's Disease" see your doctor, it's not serious and easily corrected.
It's not really a disease at all. Bent penis or "Peyronie's Disease" is actually a condition. Like a callous on y... (read in full...)
My parents haven't even met him but they hate him!
Q. My parents hate my boy friend. my boy friend and i have been dating for a little over two months. I love him with all my heart but my parents don't like him at all. He is 17 I am 14, he has lip pierced, ear gaged, hair dyed black, etc. I love ever...
A. 11 March 2011: Sorry to tell you this, but your folks will never accept him. At least not for the next 5 or 6 years!
I think you need to understand a few things about parents.
This by the way, will also happen to you when you become a parent.
No loving, ment... (read in full...)
I want to propose to her, but I don't know how or when?
Q. i love a 16 yr. Old girl , puja very much..Sitting next to me in the 10th boards, i m 16 too, how would i propose her, i' ve thought to propose her on 18th march 2011, the 2nd last xam, and wait for rply till 23rd, the last day of xam.. Plz help me, ...
A. 11 March 2011: I see by the flag in your header that your in India.
I really don't know what the marriage customs are in your culture, so I'm out on a limb here.
The answer I'm about to give comes from a western culture background, so please bear with me.
How... (read in full...)
Is there a chance that I could be pregnant??
Q. hey everyone, im hoping you can help me, well i have been on birth control for about 6 months because my boyfriend and i started having sex, however about a month ago we broke up and i stopped taking birth control to see if my period is regular ...
A. 11 March 2011: This is really a question for your doctor or another qualified health care professional.
By the way, what are you doing having sex without protection?... (read in full...)
How do I get him to understand without losing him??
Q. Me and my boyfriend havent been dating very long (about two months) and we already had sex. The sex was completely consensual on both sides. Now that we've had sex a few times, he always gets horny when we are just laying on the couch and he tries ...
A. 11 March 2011: Tell him to knock it off, or he'll risk loosing you.
If he does "walk", over this issue, then he's showing you he has no respect for you.
Nobody, needs a person like this in their life.
There are many great guys out there, so don't worry.
You ... (read in full...)
He wants nothing to do with me, I've changed, what can I do to win him back??
Q. My boyfriend from Germany just left me, actually because of my destructive behavior that he couldn't handle. Now he is moved out and staying who knows where, and plans on going back to Germany in less than a week. I changed so much at the end of the ...
A. 11 March 2011: I'm sorry to tell you, but, too little, too late! He's been hurt, and nothing will ever change that. No matter what you do now, you've lost his trust. He may someday forgive you, but I feel he will never want to reestablish a relationsh... (read in full...)
Since my brother went to Australia I'm really down, I miss him so much!
Q. I really need help. I don't know what to do and i just need other peoples views on this whole situation. Everything is becoming too stressful and i don't know weather i should go and see a doctor to give me some calming tablets or what. My brother ...
A. 11 March 2011: First, make an appointment with your doctor and request a consultation. Explain to him/her what's happening at home and how it's affecting you and your school work. If your doctor is any good he/she will refer you for counselling. Not because ... (read in full...)
Is he controlling or abusive?
Q. So I have been seeing, not dating with this guy for a couple months now, we have had a couple fights, every time his fault, and he comes running back to me, one incident I tried to ignore him and he kept contacting me once to my phone twice to my ...
A. 11 March 2011: First off, get this straight. Compromise, is a relationship. Control, is abuse! Sounds as if you have yourself a "Nut Case". Have nothing more to do with him. If you need to, get some of your trusted male friends to "SUGGEST", you would rather... (read in full...)
How do I acheive a flat stomach?
Q. Dear Cupid...if a person wants to have a flat stomach, how many situps would you advice them to do a day? Thank you...
A. 11 March 2011: Start by paying attention to what, how, and when you eat. Eat your meals at the same time everyday, eating three meals a day. Keep the meals light, low in fats and carbs. I'm not saying cut out fats and carbs, just cut back on them. If you fe... (read in full...)
I'm love sick.
Q. I feel physically sick from the sadness and loneliness when I'm disappointed and hurt by the one I love, torn between forgiving or moving on. Being faced with the prospect I'll have to leave them stimulates this sick feeling. How can I deal with ...
A. 11 March 2011: Been there, done that! Guess what... you'll survive! What your feeling is a little mental anguish. It's not physical at all, it just seems that way. You're the one in control of your emotional state. Why not choose to feel something else? I... (read in full...)
We're both shy, how do I proceed?
Q. I'm really shy and I don't know how to show my shy crush that I like him. Please help!...
A. 11 March 2011: I'm surprised you haven't thought of this already. Turn the tables for a second. Let's say, he has a crush on you. What do you think are the kinds of things he might do, to let you know, he has a crush on you? What are the things you would like to ... (read in full...)
I seem to have hit it off with my military recruiter!
Q. I'm about to join the military and after I take my physical and oath, i'm in. It's weird though, because I really seemed to hit it off with my recruiter. We have a lot in common and it seems like we have a mutual likeing of one another. I'm...
A. 10 March 2011: To begin with, if you do join the military, you'll probably never see him again! Basic training, and base postings will definitely separate the two of you. Then there's the problem of rank. If he's an officer and your an enlisted person, you won'... (read in full...)
I seem to have hit it off with my military recruiter!
Q. I'm about to join the military and after I take my physical and oath, i'm in. It's weird though, because I really seemed to hit it off with my recruiter. We have a lot in common and it seems like we have a mutual likeing of one another. I'm...
A. 10 March 2011: To begin with, if you do join the military, you probably will never see him again!
Basic training, and base postings will definitely separate the two of you. Then there's the problem of rank.
If he's an officer and your an enlisted person, you won,... (read in full...)
I revealed too much on webcam and am worried she recorded it!
Q. i am extremely worried. recently i had a webcam session with a girl (was a fake) and i ended up showing my face and revealing a little too much. now i wonder whether the session was recorded and that it could be pasted on the net. i did ask the ...
A. 10 March 2011: What are you?
A horny 13 year old?
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, say, put in writing, or record on audio, video or film, anything that you would not want the entire world to see or hear!
And for God sakes, throw that web-cam into the garbage!
Al... (read in full...)
How do I give him a french kiss?
Q. I'm 16 and I have been with my first boyfriend for over a month now and I really want to french kiss him but the problem is I'm not sure how to go about starting it! At the moment when I am with him we always hold hands, he often holds me really ...
A. 10 March 2011: First, he might not be ready for this level of intimacy.
Or he may lack the confidence for this type of kiss.
Remember, you want to enter part of his body with part of yours.
Initially, the very thought of this can really "FREAK" some people out, ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel?
Q. Hi.i need help on this.i have known a girl for some time now,i like her and i think she likes me too.i don't want to ask her out because i feel i am not ready yet for a date.should i tell her how i feel in order to clear my thoughts or i should just ...
A. 10 March 2011: Ask yourself, if the situation where reversed, how would "I", want to be treated?
If you don't know how to tell her you like her, try this.
When she speaks, truly listen to what she has to say,
and respond positively to what she says.
When ... (read in full...)
Is squirting fake?
Q. Hi guys!! Do women really squirt?? i read many articles stating that it is fake?...
A. 10 March 2011: Yes, it's not fake!
I'm not talking about what you see in porn videos,
that is almost always fake.
I believe the reason most women don't, is because they haven't had enough stimulation in the right area.
There's also the problem that some women ... (read in full...)
If your hymen is broken will you bleed during 1st time sex?
Q. dear cupid, are you still considered a virgin if your hymen is broken and you haven't had sex? also, if your hymen HAS been broken before your first time, is it likely that you will still bleed?...
A. 10 March 2011: Stop worrying, if your the only one that's ever been in there, your still a virgin.
"To bleed or not to bleed"
Some bleed a lot, some bleed a little, and others, not at all!
Everyone is different.
It all depends on the individual!... (read in full...)
I cant get turned on by men my age!
Q. I'm a 17 year old guy, and so far it's been pretty much impossible for me to get into working relationships. Essentially, I can't get turned on by men my own age. Very occasionally I might be attracted to someone who's in their early to mid 20's, ...
A. 10 March 2011: I think the only problem you have is, your over thinking this situation. Your actively trying to find a relationship.
Wearing your heart on your sleeve, as it where.
You might be scaring guys away!
Take me for instance.
I like women, always ha... (read in full...)
Help for the first time?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for six months now and i feel ready for sex, we've tried before but it just hurts me alot, so i was wondering if theres any advice for first time? i heard taking paracetamol helps....
A. 10 March 2011: The first time or two will always hurt!
Proper lubrication is the key.
I'm talking "K-Y Jelly" or "Astroglide" or any other "PROPER" water based lubrication.
"NO HOME REMEDY'S".
It's important!
However, even though your physical body may be... (read in full...)
A man tells me not to text after I text him that I love him...
Q. I'm sexually invloved w a neighbor for several yrs. I finally verbally admitted I care and love him and He must know it . I stroke his ego via text alot to make him feel confident.So I sent him a text yesterday telling him ...
A. 10 March 2011: Your too old for this, it's time to move on.
It sounds like he was comfortable with the relationship the way it was. However, now that you've said that you love him, you've changed the equation.
No longer are you the convenient "SEX TOY" next doo... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to like my step cousin?
Q. Is it wrong for me to like my step cousin if I liked him before we found out we were cousins? He went to primary school with me and he was the only guy who was nice to me. Now we're both in high school, and even tho we go to different schools we ...
A. 10 March 2011: So, I take it this is the stepchild of an aunt or uncle. If your related by a piece of paper, and not by blood, then go for it. Just be prepared for all the jokes your friends are going to make about the two of you when your friends find out... (read in full...)
Does this mean we just cant have sex or can't have sexual play whatsoever?
Q. Ok I need some help. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a few weeks now. Sure its not long but we realy have clicked. We love and hate the exact same things and things are going great. But she said to me today that she wants to go further ...
A. 10 March 2011: Hummm, that's a tough one.
Let's see. A few minutes of "fun" with her, followed by a few YEARS in jail, with guys having "fun" with you!
---OR---
Stick to masturbating (in private), get a good education, move on ... (read in full...)
I don't understand these feelings I am having. I'm don't want to lose my boyfriend, but I don't know if my feeliings have faded. I need some guidance!
Q. Hey. Thank you to the person who answered my last question. It helped me a lot, but I’m still struggling. I’m just wondering if anyone can help... I've been with my boyfriend 8 and half months. I REALLY don't want to lose him but I don’t know wha...
A. 10 March 2011: Your still quite young. It's natural that your confused about "matters of the heart". Your taking your first steps into the screwed up world of love. Your putting undue pressure on yourself. Stop over thinking this, and just take each day as it c... (read in full...)
Is 14 too young to be in love?
Q. This is going to sound realy wierd... but is fourteen too young to be in love? I know it probably won't last and I really doubt my boyfriend and I will be together 'forever' but is it possible my feelings can be really deep, and that he also ...
A. 10 March 2011: Your not going to like this but... your not in love!
Your suffering,(and I "DO" mean suffering)form something called "Infatuation".
Not to worry. There isn't a single person that has ever lived, that hasn't succumb to this affliction at one time... (read in full...)
I am having an affair with my friend's wife! Is it okay to keep on with this relationship?
Q. I am having a relationship with my friend's wife. She is a wonderful lady but her husband is a real jerk. My relationship started 10 years ago when her husband left overseas for work. Then we just talked over the phone and had lunch. Subsequently ...
A. 10 March 2011: Strange. I think your the very first person I've ever heard freely admit to willingly destroying lives!
WHAT'S THE MATTER WITH YOU!
A blow job?
How old are you?
14?
If a BJ is so important, spend the 20 bucks.
At least that way, nobody g... (read in full...)
I cant sleep with my boyfriend's snoring!
Q. Hey readers, I don't know what to do - whenever I spend the night with my bf, his snoring and loud breathing keeps me awake so I can't get to sleep til, like, 5am! I don't know what to do about it. We've been together 6 months, and he knows he ...
A. 10 March 2011: If he's anything like me, he suffers from "sleep apnea". I've had this condition since my early teens. My snoring was incredible and I would also stop breathing in my sleep. Only to be partially awaken by a sudden jolt of adrenaline(my br... (read in full...)
Is it midterms or is she just avoiding me?
Q. Me and this chick seemed to hit it off really well. Hung out a good few times, 4days in a row actually. However now she has big exams coming up so we can't really meet up.. and it's always me that initiates texts. I'm kinda wondering if the midterms ...
A. 9 March 2011: If you keep texting her while she all wrapped up in her studies and mid-terms, your taking the chance of looking like a "Stalker", is that what you really want? You stand the chance of really scaring her! Give the girl a break! She's seriously ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 11 years older than I am! How do I tell my parents?
Q. how do i tell my friends and parents that my boyfriend is 11 years older than me. i really need to tell them. i cant keep it a secret for another year please help....
A. 9 March 2011: Your soon going to find once the two of you become "public", it won't be a matter of the number of years between you that is the problem. Even if your family and friends accept your situation with joy, you will find that you and he really don't have ... (read in full...)
Anyone have any tips on stop being stiff and nervous around attractive women?
Q. I'm getting better at socializing with strangers, but women that I find attractive are still a wall that I'm struggling to overcome. Anyone have any tips on stop being stiff, nervous, and afraid that they're judging my every move and next sentence ...
A. 9 March 2011: With the rare exception of a few, attractive women also want to make a good impression. So guess what buddy, they're just as nervous as you are. They're also afraid of saying something stupid, or making that snorting sound when they laugh. And guess ... (read in full...)
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