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writes: Please ..I really need help all .. My man and I have been together around eight years , and have had a wonderful and exciting relationship , we originally met overseas and I am devoted to him . He is a great lover and wonderful provider and we have had a blessed existance . However ( there is always an however with men ) his business has taken him to China ( from Australia ) and his trips are around 10 - 14 Days . I have found from a more than reliable source that despite the facade , he has been having multiple women over there ..women even younger than myself , this has been a regular occurance . Im absolutely devistated , and I just am unsure what to do ..I love him so much , yet he is out there planting his seed into many Asian women . Ive found out from others ..Not one of them does not participate !Be careful if your man is travelling .. This guy is my ALL ..my Love .. and a wonderful guy .. Can you please give me logical / helpful advice ? Thanks in advance . Reply to this Question
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 You may love him with all your heart, but it's time to bring this chapter in your life to a close.If what you say is true, it's clear he neither loves or respects you. He's living a double life, so it's clear he's also a liar.Think about all the possible diseases he may coming home with, and dumping into your body.(you could die!)How do you think life would be, if he finally calmed down, and the two of you where to marry. One day there's a knock on the door, you open it, and there's a man standing there with a court order compelling your husband to pay support for a bunch of kids in China?Or you open the door to a bunch of Anglo-Asian children asking to meet their "Daddy"!(Sorry, I love scenarios)I think you can see where I'm going with this.You have to ask yourself, "Do I really think this is the way I want to spend the rest of my life?"If that answer is "NO", then I think you know what you have to do.Now go get the life you want, and rightly deserve!
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 Even if you could learn to live with the fact that he will never stop cheating on you, you have to face the facts that he is risking your life with his sexually irresponible behavior.
Is that really the kind of life you want?
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reader, LaLysia +, writes (12 March 2011):
I hate to hear things like this. I hope all gets better for you. Be strong. In my opinion he is living two lives. One life of a great man to you and another life being with other women. This is a problem and I believe he needs counseling to understand why he is doing this. If you all are married, go to counseling together and separately. If the counseling does not help with your pain and he doesn't make changes for the relationship then it's time to leave. Now if you can't bare the pain and feel that this will cause you to be resentful and bitter and you feel in your gut that you can't trust him then you have to say good bye. The choice is yours. Best wishes to u!
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