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writes:I'm about to join the military and after I take my physical and oath, i'm in. It's weird though, because I really seemed to hit it off with my recruiter. We have a lot in common and it seems like we have a mutual likeing of one another. I'm not going to make a move because i'm sure it's frowned upon for us to have any type of relationship... That's even if the feelings are mutual.He messaged me on facebook the other evening to see when i was coming in with my information, etc. He said he forgot to write it down. Yet every time I call to set up appointments, they tell me to come in whenever it doesn't matter. What im trying to ask is.. is this normal for recruiters to do? (Probably wanting to see if I have anything bad on my fabebook or not). And my other thing is, I think he could tell I kind of had a thing for him, and he's using that to lure me in and make it official. What do you think?I'm sure this question sounds ridiculous, and i'm probably over analyzing this, but any feed back on the matter would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I know that they're sales people, so to speak, who will tell you anyhting to get you to join. I spoke to a lot of different recruiters in that center, not just the one in particular.I don't know much about how recruiters do their job, besides getting people to enlist; however, this I don't understand and maybe one of you can help me out on this.. I messaged him back in the morning telling him what time I was coming in and he said that was fine. *note: all of his messages have :)* An hour or so later, I get a call from another recruiter at the center asking what time I'm coming in. When I got there, the recruiter I spoke to on facebook was no where in sight. You all think this recruiter is going out of his way and on his own time to make sure I enlist ?P.s. I'm not joining just yet, theyre going really fast with the whole process and I need more time to think about it.
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 To begin with, if you do join the military, you'll probably never see him again!Basic training, and base postings will definitely separate the two of you. Then there's the problem of rank.If he's an officer and your an enlisted person, you won't be allowed to fraternize with him what so ever.Then there's the problem of overseas postings.You'll probably be gone for at least a year. When you do come home, hopefully in one piece and not in a box, your feelings for him will have changed.Chances are, you'll have met someone by then anyway.Besides, recruiters are trained to act like your best friend while trying to sign you up.So any attention he may have shown you during your meetings would be suspect at best.One last thing.Are you sure you want to take the chance of being turned into a sticky goo, during a brief a flash of light, lying on the side of some foreign road?Breaking the hearts and destroying the dreams of the people at home who love you?What about Mom and Dad?Do you think they don't want grandchildren?Please think this out a little more before you sign anything.
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reader, uncle bob +, writes (10 March 2011):
To begin with, if you do join the military, you probably will never see him again!
Basic training, and base postings will definitely separate the two of you. Then there's the problem of rank.
If he's an officer and your an enlisted person, you won,t be allowed to fraternize what so ever.
Then there's the problem of overseas postings.
You'll probably be gone for at least a year. When you do come home, hopefully not in a box, you'll feel differently about him anyway.
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