My boyfriend's friends don't like me! How do I talk to him about this?
Q. I need some advice on what to do about my boyfriends friends. When we first got together they kept saying things about me including his brother. I didn't let this get to me to much but one day it just really upset me and I cried in school. My ...
A. 9 September 2008: hiyahh, it must be really hard! your bf probably feels torn, he loves you and is upset you mates take the mick but at the same time he still wants to be one of the lads and not feel like he has to stand up for you- the fact that he is remaing quiet ... (read in full...)
Anybody have any advice on what I should do?
Q. I'm beginning... Actually, I already think I am. I'm 25, never had a gf, never even kissed a girl, and still live with my parents. I don't think i'm ugly, in fact, most people tell me i'm cute. And it's not like I don't try to ask people out, I just ...
A. 6 September 2008: hiyah you sound like your in a bad place right now and everytime you see the light somebody else comes in and kicks you down. its up to you to get out, you need to want it for yourself not everyone around you.try socilasing more get out there and go ... (read in full...)
He keeps wanting to meet up even though I have a boyfriend?!
Q. yesterday, this boy i know told me that he really liked me, i kind of guessed from the way he always is with me; constantly talking to me, hugging etc. i was flattered, but had to say no for certain reasons. i thought and everyone else thought he ...
A. 5 September 2008: hiyah, this guy is supposed to like you so should respect your wishes, is he aware you have a bf? this way he might push off. he obviously really likes you though so let him down gently. Although your friendship will not be quiet the same youve got ... (read in full...)
He says he flirts with other girls because he wants them to feel happy. Am I being unreasonable for not believing this?
Q. heya last night i found out that my bf of a month likes to flirt wiv other gals i dont mind this but he likes to flirt alot he tells every gd luking gal he talks to ow gawjus they are he seys its just the way he is he seys he likes to make thm feel ...
A. 5 September 2008: hiyah, although it might seem like thats what hes doin i see it as just a good excuse, yeah every girl likes to feel liked etc but its different when the guys called for (or so youd think). youve tried to understand this but its obviously getting to ... (read in full...)
How can I make this boy like me?
Q. I realy like his Boy..I talk 2 him..But i dont now if he likes me..So can you help me gett him 2 like me..?...
A. 5 September 2008: hiyah, just send him all the right signals and make sure he likes you too. you cant make somebody likes you it has to come naturally so dont try too hard (its never a good look) and just be yourself. good luck :) ... (read in full...)
How do I make my woman so happy, that she thinks about me, when we are apart?
Q. i want to know how i can make my woman happy even when she is absent as to make her always think about me....
A. 3 September 2008: hiyah, its comman for a guy to want his girl thinking of him a lot but all the time? give the girl some freedom! As long as she knows you love her and vice versa you should be ok. time makes the heart grow fonder (think thats how it goes) If shes ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my short-term boyfriend, but I would like to still be friends, I texted him, he did not respond, what do I do now?
Q. I finished with my short term boyfriend ... because he had laughed at me for been worried that he had not answered his phone... i did like him i have text him and he does not reply ...i would have like to stay friends...
A. 3 September 2008: hey, youve left it up to him and you cant do any more than you have, personally i wouldnt anyway you dont want t scare him off. its up to him now, if he feels he wants a friendship hell let you know but its always hard after a break up even though ... (read in full...)
He dumped me twice, firstly because he was confused about his ex. Do I give him another chance?
Q. Ok so i dated a boy for about 2 months and then he told me he had feelings for his ex. So i left him to make it easier for him to make up his mind. A few days later he said he had decided and it was me he wanted and not her. I told him i would...
A. 3 September 2008: hiyah, firstly do you really need this guy in your life? you might feel you want him but you definatley dont need him! you give him chance after chance and he just expects it of you now. hes lost all respect for you and its unfair for anyone to be ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty for "messing" with a guy who has a girlfriend?
Q. should I feel guilty about messing with a guy who has a girl??? but they are not married????...
A. 2 September 2008: hiyah, do you really need to ask? it seems kindov odvious but i agree it takes two for this sort of thing. youve noticed this so get out now, its a stupid situation to be in and will always end in tears- someone (most likely you) will get hurt ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's personality has changed and I find myself going off him!
Q. Right this might be long so il apologize now! Me and my boyfriend have been together for around 8 months, we never had a honey-mood period, i dont no why we just didnt. when we got togther we argued all of the time but something stopped me endin...
A. 2 September 2008: hiyah, well although it might seem amusing to some people it must be so annoying!youve been through a lot with this guy so i dont think its the best reason to end it, and you obviously dont want that so sit and talk to him, tell him how your ... (read in full...)
When I met my boyfriend he was with someone else, but didn't tell me. He left me for two months to try and get her back and I'm only finding out two years on. I don't feel I can trust him. Is this worth keeping?
Q. When I met my bf..he was in a relationship with someone else. I didn´t know this till now. She found out that he was cheating on her with me and broke up with him. When she broke up with him... he tried to get her back and asked for space from me. ...
A. 2 September 2008: hiyah, the fact that you dont trust him will have a huge affect on your relationship but rightly so you say you love this guy but does he genuinly love you? he cheated on his gf with you, without you knowing thats a situation in itself but then he ... (read in full...)
Should I relocate? Should I enter this field going against my parents??
Q. i am 19 years old,since the time i was 16 people have been telling me to join the acting world,the glamour industry and fashion..i personally would love to get into this field too..its like a dream come true..i want to follow my dreams but my ...
A. 2 September 2008: hiyah, it must be really hard for you to be put in the position where you feel you have to choose. Sit down and tell your parents how your feeling, how youve spent most of your life doing something where your hearts not in it but you have carried on ... (read in full...)
My ex had to break up with me for personal reasons. Now they're resolved and I still love him. But I've got a new boyfriend that I love too. Is it possible to love two guys at once?
Q. well i went out with (and fell in love with) this one guy for a little more then a year, and later had to break up with him due to problems he had at the time. since then his problems have been solved, but i have a new boyfriend (that i think im ...
A. 2 September 2008: hiyah, its a really hard situation to be in and it messes up all your emotions and evtually its all you think of. Its difficult to say really , you seem to have a lot of respect for the guy your with by not wanting him to think your a bad person so ... (read in full...)
I have fallen out with all my school friends and I don't want to be looking like billy-no-mates...
Q. hi there. well this is a rather strange question i guess. but im going back to school this week and i have fallen out with prcatically all of my friends (most of them anyways) and i think im going to find it really hard. i will be going into yr10 ...
A. 1 September 2008: hiyah, the best thing you can do is mingle! just be yourself and friendly to all the groups of friends at your school. if you balance it out- work and mates it should work out ok, dont spend time worrying about it or you will dread each day of going ... (read in full...)
Flat chested forever?
Q. Okay, I will be 16 in about a month, and I'm still almost completely flat chested. Do I still have time to grow, or is it too late?...
A. 1 September 2008: hiyah, i know the feeling but evntually you will. i think you keep on growing until your 18 so theres still plenty of time! dont let it wruin you though it can make you quite low if you dont feel good about yourself but these days theres a lot of ... (read in full...)
He cheated to be with me...will he do it to me?
Q. I really like this guy and he has cheated on his girlfriend (my best friend) to be with me and I am scared that when I do get with him he will cheat on me. Is this true?...
A. 1 September 2008: hiyah, you never can say really but theres always that insecurity in the relationship that doesnt go away so it would probablly affect your relationship before its properly started (and so wil carry on throughout), but really harsh as it sounds you ... (read in full...)
I feel awkward in social situations. How can I overcome this?
Q. hey, i really need some advice on how to boost my confidence. i find that i get very uncomfortable in social situations. i feel awkward and don't know what to say. how can i overcome this?...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, firstly well done for admitting you have a problem with confidence, shy people usually usually hide it away in hope that nobody will notice it. its normal for us all to get that feeling, even the over confident people get nervous from time to ... (read in full...)
It's really confusing that my friend suddenly withdrew, what have I done wrong?
Q. Theres this guy i like and we're really good friends but i think of him as more, we're close and he asks me for advice on girls all teh time, theres barely anything we don't tell each other, Lately we've got closer and spent way more time together ...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, it seems to me like this guy has realised theres more to your frindship too and its scared him so hes backed off. hes so used to being able to confide in you etc but now hes seen you in a new light it makes it different. you need to talk to ... (read in full...)
How can I initiate a friendship after the break up?
Q. I was communicating with a man from an online-dating site for a few weeks. After our first date, we mutually agreed to meet-up again. The conversation flowed really well and we were both excited about seeing one another again. However, hours before ...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, its always difficult with online dating, the fact that on the second date he pulled out if things were good on the first date why would he so abruptly bring it to an end? why would he not of told you sooner (say at the end of the first date) ... (read in full...)
Is the guy I am dating toying with my emotions and feelings? I never know if today I will be loved or ignored.
Q. I've heard of this trend in the dating scene where a guy purposely makes a girl feel insecure (through put downs, ignoring etc), just so she will feel bad about herself, more desperate for him, vunerable and hopefully (for the guys) easier to get ...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, the good thing to come of this is you have noticed the way certain guys (your guy) work, its a clever way and it makes you literally pine for them that is until you realise what there doing and the games up.
hes clearly using you hun and ... (read in full...)
Is there no hope?
Q. I've got a male friend I like a lot and we hang out from time to time. Last time I spent the night at his, in his bed, but no sex, he kissed me goodbye on the lips in the morning and my stomach did a somersault. I began to wonder, so I texted him ...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, just act as normal arange to meet up and just do things as normal after a while you should talk to him you may be surprised to hear he feels the same but was afraid of jepordising your friendship. theres not much you can do unless you talk to ... (read in full...)
The best or worst breakup ever? What do I do now? Move on? Stay a while? Hope he'll realise?
Q. My boyfriend and I (both 16) broke up 2 days ago after 6 months. It was somewhat mutual. We decided to meet and talk it out. He said his perspective on love changed, and he didn't love me like he did before. I said that I've been waiting 2 months ...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, this must be a bad time for you but surely his actions after your relationship make you greatful for getting out sooner rather than later. now you have seen him for this 'new' person he wants to be. let him get on with it, you cant live your ... (read in full...)
I'm in a loveless marriage. I'm miserable but I can't leave the kids. What do I do?
Q. Don't know what to think or do anymore. April 7th, 2000 my wife left without a word. No note, no indications whatsoever. Took our kids and moved in with her boss where she stayed for a year and a half. Then she came back... my mistake but I still ...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, its a horrible situation to be in and although you are doing your best to make it work if the other person has no intentions of doing so it just wont. its hard to hear i know but the fact that she no longer loves you stresses the point that a ... (read in full...)
We broke up in February, when he gave me a letter, stating he wanted to start up again in a year with me, have not seen him since we broke up, now I get a voice mail, that he wants to drop over, what could he want?
Q. Hello Everyone, I need some advice regarding my ex... We broke up in Feb this year and haven't seen him since. I have recieved a voice mail message and messages stating that if I am home so he can pop over??? What does this mean? What could...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, it seems to me like hes got bord and he wants to pick up from where you left off, hes just assuming that when he clicks his fingers youll running, set him straight! or to set the record straight call him and ask him what he wants, if you have ... (read in full...)
I still can't forget what he did at the beginning of our relationship!
Q. i have got this really weird problem... i have a boyfriend(my classmate in coll) and we've been together for last 18 months.i feel he really loves me but when we initially started out he had this habit of complimenting other girls and usually ...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, its ok for us to be insecure of our bfs espically the flirty ones! Although yours seems like a good one, you asked him to stop and he did clearly shows he likes you obviously the past doesnt just go away, its always there but it should be the ... (read in full...)
Right now I need to focus on me, and not the recent break up, and recover from being emotional needy and clingy. Any help?
Q. How do i let go of hope, hope the phone will ring, hope ill get a text message etc.. hope hope hope.. its because the last thing he said was "Im sure well see each other again one day" and " I just dont want anyone right now but we can talk" I would ...
A. 31 August 2008: hiyah, the way your feeling is completely normal! its in all of us! but its usually only seen by us at the end of a relationship (that little too late).you will eventually find somebody else, its just gettin there, but you can, just do day to day ... (read in full...)
Whenever we fight, I'm always the one that apologizes even though I've done nothing wrong. Is this worth it?
Q. What to do with my girlfriend? I am a 15 years old boy and I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 6 months now. Still, I loved her longer than that. It's been four years that I've fallen in love with her and I've stayed devoted to her e...
A. 31 August 2008: hey, i just read through your question and it seems you really do love this girl! But the thing that got to me most was she knows this too and feels its ok for her to be angry and possesive of you but when its turned the other way shes not so happy. ... (read in full...)
Help! I think my boyfriend might cheat on me!
Q. Hi. Im 13 nd im im a relationship. Im scared that my boyfriend is going to dump me because on bebo he is calling other girls fit and sexy. I love him to bits but my friend was txtin him asking him why he said that to then girls and he turned it ...
A. 31 August 2008: hey, guys do this all the time! is doesnt straight away mean hes going to cheat. the fact that your so worried shows you obviously like him so just let him know that it hurts you when he flirts with these other girls hopefully he will understand how ... (read in full...)
Should I chase her or just get over her? I need an outside perspective!
Q. my ex broke up with me about 4 months ago and i still cant get over her. heres a little history about us. we where together for 4 years. she cheated on me 3 times and broke up with me a few times cause her parents made her. i left her once to be ...
A. 30 August 2008: hiyah, this is a hard time for you put you need to handle it and be the stronger person. im not going to tell you its all going to be ok because it will take time and it will feel worse at some points and better at others. you can love somebody so ... (read in full...)
General question about breaking up/ getting back together?
Q. what do you guys think...Someone once told me that if you break up with someone even if you come back together...things are never the same...and the same problems are gonna surface....I know that even if my ex asked me back...now id be kinda afraid ...
A. 30 August 2008: hiyah, nobody can tell you what to do each situation is different, only you know how your feeling, people can only advise from there own experiances but i do know that even if a relationship survivies its never the same its always there it never ... (read in full...)
My friend is seriously depressed! How can I help?
Q. This is a very complicated problem, but I'll try to be as concise as I can. My best friend has been very depressed recently--to the point of severe depression, and I don't know what to do. The cause of her depression is the fear of change...
A. 30 August 2008: hiya, firstly you sound a really good friend to have around in a desperate time of need. your friend sounds incredibly insecure and as much as you are helping it shouldnt fall onto you to sort this, you can only offer guidance and support for your ... (read in full...)
I can't ask a girl out.....
Q. No matter how hard I try, I can't ask out to any girls I like much less talk to them... My friends say the nervousness never goes away but still, I think mine is different.....
A. 30 August 2008: hey, firstly i dont know a guy who doesnt have this problem! even the confident cocky ones are scared of rejection, its in all of us. you just sound like you need a bit of confidence youve been brave enough to admit you find it difficult to talk to ... (read in full...)
How important are your school friends / your popularity at school?
Q. I am 15 at the moment. How important are your school friends/ your popularity at school? I have lots of friends at school and am sort of friends with everyone, yet I don't seem to really fit in anywhere? I am never inivited to particular gro...
A. 30 August 2008: hey, its normal to worry about the way you are now affecting your future. i feel exactally the same but ive learnt its ok not to fit in its better being unique and having a vareity of mates. popularity is important for many people but if you spend ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? Or what?
Q. me and boyfriend have been together for about a year! things were great for about 6 months and now things are changing. he doesnt come to see me anymore even though im a 6 minute drive away. i ask him if i can go to his and he just says no and to l...
A. 30 August 2008: hey, i just read through your question and it sounds familiar! after being in a relationship for a while people tend to get used to the same thing happening over and over like a routine and the buzz you had at the begining of your relationship has ... (read in full...)
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