I'm angry...she is being over friendly to this other guy! What do you think?
Q. Hi. I've just had an argument with my ladyfriend over this guy in the office. Both she and I have worked at the same company for about 3 years . We started dating about a year ago - but kept the matter secret. I used to have an office right next to ...
A. 4 January 2009: she may have not seem it as the way you have. your almost the outsider in this and are looking at it from a different view. those lingering flrty smiles to you may of been a simple good morning from her to him. dont read too much into things. your ... (read in full...)
Why do I suck?
Q. Why do I suck? I can't seem to find anything positive about me. A microdick, no gf, no sex or love in my life, and OAB. Please help me rebuilt my confidence....
A. 4 January 2009: i dont think its confidence your lacking its seeing the positives of life. if you stick with the attitude you have it wont get better, nobody can force you its up to you and you only to make choices and changes to benefit yourself. your still young! ... (read in full...)
2 years and I'm not over my ex
Q. I split up with someone almost two years ago and I can't seem to get over him. Everyday I think about him and feel sad. I don't know what to do, I miss him so much and feel there is a big hole in my life since we split. I know I have to move on, ...
A. 2 January 2009: dont jump straight in, its been two years. you dont go into detail on how it ended but it did and for a reason, he hasnt got back in touch and you cant judge on how he may or may not still be feeling. a break up hurts and getting over somebody isnt ... (read in full...)
I love him but confused!
Q. Okay this would be really complicated if I didn't start from the beginning so it's going to be long.... When I was in one of my classes the first day of school my sophmore year and everyone was coming in I first noticed him and immediately began ...
A. 2 January 2009: hes messed you around so much! for so long! serious when is he going to grow a pair? i dont really know whet hes doing, and im not sure he does. i think deep down he has feelings for you yet is unwilling to show them in public this is sooo stupid ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals after first date
Q. ok here goes..went out on somewhat of a blind date that was set up by a mutal friend..it wasn't so much blind b/c we exchanged pics and there was a mutal attraction. the date went great..we laughed and really hit it off..when i got home, she texted ...
A. 2 January 2009: dont panick, i thnk she really likes you. your going to have to take into account its new year, a busy time where you have to jam everything in, family friends parties etc everyone has a lot on and although you may think shes lost interest i get the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends best friend wants to date me, now what?
Q. okay so here is the thing. i date my current boyfriend. well his used to be best friend called me and left me a message saying he wanted to go out with me, the thing is i've known him for 5 years and i used to be in love with him in 3rd grade! i've ...
A. 2 January 2009: i think you should reconsider it all to be honest. your doubting your 'relationship' as soon as somebody else comes along and your not even completely into him so maybe thats not your problem right now. you give the impression you want a boyfriend ... (read in full...)
I feel ignored by my friends, should I leave them and find new mates?
Q. recently my so called mates don't ask me if im coming out, or want to stay and they are always together that doesn't bother me it just annoys me that they don't ask me anymore, and because im being excluded. also recently i asked one of them if ...
A. 2 January 2009: at the end of your post i got the impression your 'mates' were simply jealous of your new guy yet real mates are cool with you getting a guy as long as you balance it and never put him before them etc. however i dont think these people are really ... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive???
Q. Hey everyone, Q: So basically my question is am I being too sensitive? This problem actually just occurred at the turn of the new year 2009! For some background information, my girlfriend is at her friend's place in a house surrounded by l...
A. 1 January 2009: hiyah, i dont think your being to sensitive yet your headin in the direction of making something of nothing and its more trouble than its worth so see it now and let it go. when your alone you probablly like to chat and go into deep conversations ... (read in full...)
Alone forever--not by choice
Q. How am I to not want a boyfriend? How will i be able to live without one. Anyone have any advice? ...
A. 24 December 2008: hiyah i didnt really undestand your post but my advice from what i can make out is that you need to find him, hes not going to popup on your doorstep if you really want a relationship you need to start your way up from now. maybe start going out ... (read in full...)
I like him and I don't think he likes me... please help!
Q. Hey peoplee :) Wht is is i really like this boy and he knows i like him but i feel he doesnt like me he says he does but i dont know to belive him or not!. i feel like im really pushing him into liking me coz i always comment on how hes looking ...
A. 18 December 2008: hiyah hes aware of how you feel and is still making no action to respond etc be carefull hes not playing on it too much, sometimes guys are cruel like that and know your into them so feel they can do whatever,its not fair on you so just mind that ... (read in full...)
What does "treat them mean and keep them keen" mean?
Q. what does it mean treat them mean and keep them keen, can some explain that to me?...
A. 18 December 2008: hiyah its a saying people use that doesnt always work so be carefull! it means for example, playing hard to get and keeping your gf or bf on their toes and by doing this they will be more eager for you etc. its suposed to give the impression that ... (read in full...)
I can't match up to his ex and that scares me!
Q. hey guys need some serious advice as i dont think i can feel any worse then i am at the moment... ok so here goes... I recently got together with a guy who got together with me after a long open relationship... after i got with him i found out ...
A. 15 December 2008: hiyah well if hes unwilling to let it be past your either going to have to except the starnge situation or leave it and walk away. you seem to love him and youve lasted this long, so think it through first. youve tried talking but its not helpped ... (read in full...)
I can't match up to his ex and that scares me!
Q. hey guys need some serious advice as i dont think i can feel any worse then i am at the moment... ok so here goes... I recently got together with a guy who got together with me after a long open relationship... after i got with him i found out ...
A. 12 December 2008: hiyah, dont be sorry. its something you should never do- compare yourself to an ex of his. its not fair on anyone, including yourself the more you think about it the more your damaging yourself and the relationship. his past is his past and he needs ... (read in full...)
Me and my friend are both pregnant by the same guy and now we're not talking... help!
Q. hi me and my friend are both 14 and we both got pregnent by the same person please help, we are loosing are friendship over this the guy is gonna be 17 in 2 weeks and we both love him he bought us both the same ring and me and my friend just figured ...
A. 8 December 2008: hiyah im gunna be honest i was shocked at your age, bringing another life into the world is huge, im not going to patronise you as i think given time you will see this foryourself the only problem is you will start to run out of time so its ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep thinking about him after splitting up 7 months ago?
Q. It's been about 7 months since me and my bf (who I had been dating for only 2 months) split. He ended up moving away and it pretty much ended there. I still can't stop thinking about him, and it really bothers me because I'm a very attractive girl ...
A. 8 December 2008: hiyah, from what youve said i can tell you obviously have strong feelings for him so go for it. it wasnt your reltionship that finished you it was the situation you were in. now youve seen life without him youve realised you want him back and its ... (read in full...)
Am I being self centered?
Q. On November 1st of last month it was my 19th birthday, and coincidentally, the day that my first, and current bf and I started dating. Now of course it's my first time doing all this lovey-dovey stuff and whatnot, and it seemed like I could be ...
A. 7 December 2008: hiyah is it really him being not as serious as youd like and immature or the fact that you have feelings for someone else? you need to be honest with yourself dont pick his faults as a way of escaping your relstionship. your not happy so maybe youve ... (read in full...)
Why is she annoyed that I went out with a female friend? She does the same to me.
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together just over 2 years. over thosses 2 years she has gone out with many male friends some has bothered me some hasnt. the other day i went out with a female friend and told her about it all. i went out with the ...
A. 7 December 2008: hiyah its obvious! shes insecure and jealousy has kicked in, she just is seeing it from a differernt angle and its not something she likes. reassure her but remind her you were fair and didnt make an issue when she was out with guys. it doesnt ... (read in full...)
How to prove I will never lie or cheat again as I found real love with her?
Q. hello, im having a problem with my girlfriend and its all my fault, since a year now that we started this relationship,i ve cheated on her and lied without knowing the reason why i did all this to her, though i lied because i dont want to lose her, ...
A. 7 December 2008: hiyah to gain back the trust is hard and sometimes its just gone and you cant get it back. you seem to really want it though so give it all you have, tell her exactly how you feel really open up to her and be honest, if your honest about your ... (read in full...)
Should I wait until I don't need my braces to ask her out?
Q. i have no confidence due to my braces but im in love with this girl. should i wait until i get my confidence back in 4 month or ask her out now?...
A. 7 December 2008: hiyah you know if she really likes you if she sees you for who you really are and for now you have braces it shouldnt affect the way she feels and if it does she wasnt genuine in the first place. by the way dont loose your confidence over something ... (read in full...)
I am afraid to try any more because I'll end up rejected anyway?
Q. hi i see so many girls my age and younger then me with boyfreinds and i missed out all along the way because i was getting rejected.by guys who had girlfreinds in the past and know how to get girlfreinds and kow how to kiss and know how to get what ...
A. 7 December 2008: hiyah its not just your life i think its life in general!it sometimes works like that, the ones that hurt us are the ones who get it all and seem to always take it all along the way. its out of your control though, the only thing you can do is sort ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's always contradicting himself!
Q. hello. Ive been with my fience for nearly 3 years now. we've grown up together and we've both turned 20. I dont ask for much,just want him to be there for me,to love me,and to get spoiled from time to time. which i dont but i get told how much h...
A. 6 December 2008: hiyah it just seems to me the shine has come off your relationship and your heading different ways yet remaining in the relationship and its tricky to know which way to go. i dont think your boring him i just think youve grown used to each other and ... (read in full...)
Drama!!
Q. MY Fiance And I Have Been Dating For Little Over a year and we have major issues with his ex( daughters mother) interfering. sitting outside my house, following me around to the beauty salon, calling me, taking me to court for harassment, suing me, ...
A. 5 December 2008: hiyah firstly i think you should start worrying about your own safety more than would could be. Although hes right to say ignore her i feel shes taken it to another level and sometimes it takes one thing to push you over the line, hun i think she ... (read in full...)
I hate not talking to him and I don't want to lose him!
Q. i have started to like one of my best friends (DM) but my best girl mate likes him as well. recently he started bitching about her to me, but to her face he acts all nice. today someone told her what he said and he blamed me. now he wont talk to ...
A. 5 December 2008: hiyah firstly he seems a bit wrong to assume it was you straight away does that not hurt a bit? he blamed you yet you dont mention that being the problem at all. yes maybe someone is stirring it up but why didnt he notice that? why was he so quick ... (read in full...)
How do I get over him? I've tried everything and nothing works...
Q. last year i ended a relationship with my first ever boyfriend because he accused me of cheating. for the whole of the year we were on and off, and everytime I took him back he would drop me as soon as he found another girl that he liked. B.ut no ...
A. 5 December 2008: hiyah, your right hun you really do need to get over him, hes really not worth it. hes got no respect for you and your feelings and its something thats never going to happen. you cannot pin all you have on somebody that never will be what you want. ... (read in full...)
This will be our first real date... any tips?
Q. Hi. I've got my first date with a guy I like on Friday. Thing is thugh, we've been going for coffee together for the last fortnight, and always chat on msn so we already know each other a fair bit - we go to the same uni and study the same course. ...
A. 2 December 2008: hiyah, well to start with you chose good places to go, food is always a good start but the exhibition idea is more personal so good start! people go on about rules and tips for the first date and ive even read books on it! but to be honest i think ... (read in full...)
How to let go of your ex?
Q. In july 2007 i posted this question: My ex and I were best friends. We started dating in high school. Recently we were together for about four years, but my ex broke up with me to marry one of his ex-girlfriends. They have a baby on the way. ...
A. 2 December 2008: hiyah, i think after all this time evenyour begining to see for yourself this guy has no intentions of ending his marriage and is as they say 'havin his cake and eating it' its really hard for you but you need to be the bigger person and put an end ... (read in full...)
How can I get back on track?
Q. Would be grateful for any advice. Each day I start with all good intention to make an effort with my appearance, wear nice clothes, do exercise, make progress with some of my projects and just feel like I've achieved something. Intead I default to ...
A. 2 December 2008: hiyah, your self esteem is low and its something you need to work on. your lacking confidence in all aspects and so nothing ends up positive unless you start to change on the inside first nothing ever will. if you change your image then great but ... (read in full...)
My bestfriend became my lover and now he ignores me!
Q. I have known this guy for years and over the summer we became great friends, then we became more than great friends and he became ever so lovy dovy and often said that he loved me. But recently he has become distant, he never says that he loves me ...
A. 30 November 2008: hiyah, wel youve spoken to him which was the best way of strating it and he obviously doesnt want it to end i just think the shine has come off your relationship thats all. when you first get together with someone its so good you really do want to ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to trust him more?
Q. Im almost 17 my boyfriend is 19 and i've been with him almost 6 months. We get on really well and hardly ever argue. However recently he has been going away alot to manchester with a few guy mates and meeting girls that he met on holiday in ibiza. I ...
A. 30 November 2008: hiyah, yeah it will affect what you have and in time it will wruin it. if theres no trust there isnt a relationship. you need to build it back up but at the same time he needs to earn it. talk to him telling him how you get that he has a life ... (read in full...)
I'm dreading Christmas! Whatever I think about planning I almost get anxiety attacks! What would be the best thing for me to do during this holiday?
Q. Christmas is coming and I'm dreading it unfortunately. I do have a lovely boyfriend who is caring and loving and loves me to bits, but he is lazy, undermotivated, etc. He hasn't achieved very much when it comes to career...he doesn't work at all.H...
A. 30 November 2008: hiyah, firstly nobody wants to really be alone on christmas so dont see that as your ultimatium yet. talk to him, yeah he might be lazy and a little uncaring at times but hes aware you have an illness and with that he should be up and listning when ... (read in full...)
Where do I start in getting my life together?
Q. Okay guys well here's my question. I have a range of medical problems - ADHD ect and like I went through life and people supported me and I got to secondary school and I was severely bullied and in some cases I faced abuse. What upsets me the ...
A. 30 November 2008: hiyah, your on the right track to getting what it is you want, a normal life but i think you should start by supporting yourself more. make yourself personal goals and count them off as you achieve them. i know it can be patronising when someone ... (read in full...)
Need help choosing between two women
Q. There are these two girls I met recently that I like at the moment and I'd like your opinions on what I should do. The first girl is a kind hearted girl next door kind of girl that your mom would LOVE you to date, but has been cheated on in al...
A. 21 November 2008: hiyah, why is it you have to have a girl to date automatically? can you not just have a mate and see where it goes? if it goes that is... i cannot tell you who to 'choose' as i think its kind of unfair they are both people with feelings and your... (read in full...)
Went too far?
Q. I started seeing a guy that is friends with my ex boyfriend. But the other issue is he dates my ex's sister. They all know about us. It's been going on for 8 months now. What do I do? Initially I wanted revenge with my Ex. I want to break it off but ...
A. 21 November 2008: hiyah, your post was slightly confusing but from what i can make out you have got yourself into more than you can handle and have fallen too deep. its risky and youve fell the bad way. revenge is good for a bit but long term can be damaging on the ... (read in full...)
The lad I like broke up with his gf! What's a reasonable amount of time to wait to make a move on him? And how do I do it?
Q. Well i started talking to a lad bonfire night, and we really hit it off, and we spoke alot via text and computer, full well knowing he had a girlfriend buh we just spoke as friends ! Then he asked me too go to his football, so i went watched him but ...
A. 21 November 2008: hiyah, like advised make sure he feels the same and talk to him casually as a mate first. he seems to like you! but make sure you know where you stand fully before you make plans for something solid. enjoy it, as mates and see where it goes, could ... (read in full...)
Is this just friendship or are we dating?
Q. Ok, so I just broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago. I'm going out with this new guy..a male friend of mine who I've kept in touch with for months. He knows a lil about my ex. We're going out to watch a game this weekend..is this...
A. 21 November 2008: hiyah, firstly you need to ask yourself what you see it as, you seem cool about the situation so are you seein it as mates? if so then carry on that and see the progression without gettng to deep too soon. its always a tricky one with mates as ... (read in full...)
I was insecure and pushed him away! Now I feel devastated, how can I explain to him I'm sorry?
Q. Me ex boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. I was insecure during the last few months of our relationship. I accused him of being with this other female a bunch. (which in fact he never was). The most recent time I accused him he blew up on me ...
A. 21 November 2008: hiyah, firstly prepare yourself its not for certain he will take you back, hes taken a lot from you and yeah were all slightly insecure but sometimes it can become to much so respect him for his descion even if you dont agree. explain that you real... (read in full...)
My best friend and my girlfriend are getting to close to each other..
Q. My english is bad but i hope you can understand the thing..i have the same problem...my girlfriend is flirting with my best friend..i know they dont have nothing right now but theyt are to close to each other...and they hide things to me..it hurts ...
A. 16 November 2008: hiyah start trusting her and him, this guys your best mate and talk to him saying your happy they get along but sometimes you need that alone time that youve been lacking recently.with mates its a lot harder and yes its hurting you but you cant ... (read in full...)
What to do about my mascara? My eyelashes seem clogged up.
Q. hello ok this is a make-up question for the girls. i apply mascara everyday and stuff, but recently my eyelashes are clogged up and my think comb mascara brush wont go through them! please help! what should i do? X...
A. 16 November 2008: hiyah erm don't panick! I'm sorry but I laughed when I read your question! You need to buy a new type hun with maybe a thin comb to brush away clumps and make sure you remove all make up before you go to bed aplying new make up onto old clogs it and ... (read in full...)
I just don't get why he would say it if he didn't mean it!
Q. Ok so the other day my crush and I were talkin and I said that love is a very strong wrong. he then agreed and said that he loved me and my friend (we were all talking). they way he said it was awkward because he started scratching his neck and ...
A. 16 November 2008: hiyah his reaction is obvious! he was imbarresed! its hard for guys to express how they feel and hes even had the balls to say it in front of your mates so no wonder he looked slightly out of character! hes probably scared of your reaction and he ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to plan a future for us... so should I stay with him until who-knows-when, with this uncertainty?
Q. I'm an emotional wreck right now. I'm crying as I type this...My boyfriend of 4 years is such a sweet guy. He's good to me and I doubt I'll ever find another better than him (personality, senstiveness, sense of humor, conversation). He's my first ...
A. 16 November 2008: hiyah, you seem very emotional and have been for sometime you need to tell yourself to sort this now before you really damage yourself. its unhealthy for you to be in a relationship you no longer feel is going the way you want it to and sometimes ... (read in full...)
My friend and I have had a sort of a tiff!
Q. Me and a really close friend who have been talking for a while are in a sort of tiff... I have no idea what to do... I need help :( I have been told by one of my friends that I'm being a bit clingy and I should leave him a while but I'm finding ...
A. 16 November 2008: He was seein someone else! find yourself someone worthy who gives you love back and lets you know where you stand everyone needs that stability, your to good for someone like this! best of luck in finding him xxx -enjoy it!!- ... (read in full...)
My friend and I have had a sort of a tiff!
Q. Me and a really close friend who have been talking for a while are in a sort of tiff... I have no idea what to do... I need help :( I have been told by one of my friends that I'm being a bit clingy and I should leave him a while but I'm finding ...
A. 31 October 2008: hiyah maybe you just need space. i find it hard to judge given your first post as it doesnt make much sense all i can figure out is you waiting for an answer and him unwilling to reply.
yeah you may be clingy but you have a right to know where you ... (read in full...)
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