My friend and I have had a sort of a tiff!
Q. Me and a really close friend who have been talking for a while are in a sort of tiff... I have no idea what to do... I need help :( I have been told by one of my friends that I'm being a bit clingy and I should leave him a while but I'm finding ...
A. 16 November 2008: He was seein someone else! find yourself someone worthy who gives you love back and lets you know where you stand everyone needs that stability, your to good for someone like this! best of luck in finding him xxx -enjoy it!!- ... (read in full...)
How long does hearbreak last for?
Q. Still heartbroken after 6 weeks!! How long does hearbreak last for? I have really strong feelings for a man that I didn't really know too long but we did ring and meet up! He's not the best guy in the world and doesn't worry about keeping ...
A. 11 November 2008: hiyah, nobody can say how long it will go on for , as its entirely up to you! its so hard when omething like this knocks you down especially when it comes across as nothing to the other person involved. its ok to be low for a bit and cry and let it ... (read in full...)
I need help forgetting my past friends and memories...
Q. Everyone has moved on with their lives my mom, my brother, all my past friends. im only 15. i dont know how i feel. sometimes i think im just jealous of them. i have everything i want, but not everything i need i feel empty hollow... please i need s...
A. 11 November 2008: hiyah you just need to rebuild youself inside and remind yourself that althought it never goes away past is past and it needs to remain there, or it wil affect your future. you dont go into detail but i get the impression youve had it tough for a ... (read in full...)
On our amazing 3rd date he introduced me to his friends... then he backed off.
Q. I met this guy and we had 2 amazing dates full of chemistry and things in common. Something I haven't experienced ever before. For the 3rd date we met at a bar where 3 of his friends were. I think maybe it was a test to see what they would think. ...
A. 7 November 2008: hiyahh simply ask him out straight what was wrong. you were yourself and honest in your opinion and your hurt he cannot accept that and resulted to ditching you on his mates judgement. if someone is willing to let that affect what you could possibly ... (read in full...)
I know he's stringing me along but I'm in love with him...
Q. How do I get over him?? I am in love with a man who I know is just stringing me along! - We are not together as he already has a girlfriend - but he rings me from time to time(usually when he needs something - obviously to keep me keen)and I alway...
A. 7 November 2008: hiyahh your going to have to notice that the more you let this carry on the more hes gong to take little bits of you away with him and it sounds to me hes taken enough as it is.
he doesnt deserve your time, your love or your future so let it go. ... (read in full...)
I love him but don't trust him!
Q. hey there i need some help and this is the last straw... i believe that my trust issues are going to end up ruining what i have with my partner... so heres how the the story goes... after a long open relationship me and my partner finally decided ...
A. 6 November 2008: hiyahh just be completely honest with him, open and simply saying how you really feel explain to him you find it hard to talk but you need too tell him how it is your really feeling for you two to progress and then just go for it.
when you star... (read in full...)
He's working away - will it work out?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 months and its been going great until he landed a new job approx 2 hours drive away. he thinks it won't work and we should call it off but i don't want to do that and i'm really hurting. he's not leaving for a mo...
A. 5 November 2008: hiyah i think you should get used to the idea of him leavin before he goes, he sems to be heading in this direction too. its not always what we want to hear but he may feel hes doing right for you both. tell him your hurting but can see why he said ... (read in full...)
Is his new girl just a rebound?
Q. i have been with this guy for about 8 months, and we always fought about his smoking habits, and I know more than anything that he loves me to death, we always fight, but this time it was different :S we had a fight and broke up,and that same night ...
A. 5 November 2008: hiyah i see what your saying with the rebound idea and you could be right but whatever his plans i dotn think they involove you hun, its hard to accept and you were an item for a long time but i dont think he was feeling as deep as hes already moved ... (read in full...)
I love him but don't trust him!
Q. hey there i need some help and this is the last straw... i believe that my trust issues are going to end up ruining what i have with my partner... so heres how the the story goes... after a long open relationship me and my partner finally decided ...
A. 5 November 2008: hiyahh, yes you love him a lot but if that trust isnt there it will affect what you now have and alos how long you go on having it for. for him to try and rebuild back up the honest relationship you need is going to take a lot of time and will put a ... (read in full...)
Every guy wants her... could she like a fat guy?
Q. Is it possible for a pretty girl to like a fat guy when nearly every guy wants her and can pretty much get any guy she wants? ...
A. 1 November 2008: hiyah if your refering to yourself then dont put yourself down so much! most girls look for whats beneath and in the personality so if you like her get to be her mate first and see where it goes. it may look like everyone wants her but she cant want ... (read in full...)
Ex bf wanted me to stay over last night... What does this mean? He said he wanted to be single
Q. Hi all at dear cupid, Im really stressing out at the moment, im still really in love with my ex bf,we split about 3 weeks ago now, and i use to ring him every other day when we split, but this week, we've spoken every single day this week, and i al...
A. 1 November 2008: hiyah firstly im going to be honest with you as i think itll be the best for you- youd be better off without him! a lot better off, hes treated you quite bad and never given you clear signals as where you stand and if you even have a relationship. ... (read in full...)
Jealousy is ruining what I have with the perfect guy! Help!
Q. hii x ive just started goin out with a guy who is jst perfect for me =) my problem is that i get jealous of the smallest of things. lyk if he doesnt text bak, i think he's with another girl or doesnt like me anymore. in the past ive been cheated...
A. 1 November 2008: hiyah jealousy is a big problem in a lot of relationships so your not the only one. the only problem is it will affect what you have and on some occasions end it. its unfair to judge him on all that he does when most of the time its innocent so remi... (read in full...)
I don't want to go out with her and realise I don't like her!
Q. Hello Ive recently started to like this girl and i have only started to realise this when we were apart on half term from school. Ive missed her and havent been able to go to sleep because ive been thinking about her. Now as quickly as that ...
A. 1 November 2008: hiyah, your feelings arent the same with every girl you know! yeah starting as mates is a better idea but you seem to want to jump straight in then back out. work out in your head hows best to deal with it then take further action.
feelings chan... (read in full...)
My friend and I have had a sort of a tiff!
Q. Me and a really close friend who have been talking for a while are in a sort of tiff... I have no idea what to do... I need help :( I have been told by one of my friends that I'm being a bit clingy and I should leave him a while but I'm finding ...
A. 31 October 2008: hiyah maybe you just need space. i find it hard to judge given your first post as it doesnt make much sense all i can figure out is you waiting for an answer and him unwilling to reply.
yeah you may be clingy but you have a right to know where you ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for forgiving him for everything he did?????
Q. hey this may sound crazy but i could really use ur help!!!!!!! a couple of years ago i was friends with this guy and then he told me he hated me and wished i was dead!!!!! now even more things have happened between us. Last night i ran into him and ...
A. 31 October 2008: hiyah err i dont think hes really mate material do you? he wished you were dead!? thats a bit strong even for someone you hate, im not perfect yeah but i never say things like that cuz i just dont wish it on anyone! its such a cruel way of being ... (read in full...)
Please help!!! Do you think its too late to save us???
Q. ok here goes.. me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 months. when i first met him, i think we rushed into the relationship a bit soon because i had only just come out of a long term relationship myself.but he was too good to let slip...
A. 31 October 2008: hiyah i get that your insecure but you should have started your realtionship off on trust and been honest with him.
it always comes back to haunt you and sometimes we learn that the hard way all you can do is learn from it. you seem a strong coup... (read in full...)
I want to dump my boyfriend for my ex who is in the same family
Q. am 18, he is 18 as well we have been dating for five and half months now but i do not love him as much as i did before. i want to dump him, but i do not know how. besides i want to leave him for the guy who is his flesh and blood family member that ...
A. 31 October 2008: Hiyah, well look if he's said he loves you and wants to give it another go you have to end it with your current guy before it gets to messy. If it's really love then don't let it go but you have to go the right way about it. It'll take time to ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex...
Q. Last summer, I met a guy that completely stole my heart. Although at first I didn't notice him, when we started hanging out my attraction to him was undeniable. The more time I spent with him, the more I fell for him. Eventually I told him how I ...
A. 30 October 2008: hiyahh you ask a lot of questions that only you really know the answer too.
your first love is your everything and it will always be with you, always whatever happens from now it will never go away, and that first feelings you felt are like the ... (read in full...)
I love her so much but am not totally happy.
Q. I love me girlfriend very much and I feel she loves me, but there are things in life that I want that she doesn't share, she doesn't share my ambitions in life and doesn't see our future as I see it. Is this something that we can get over or is i...
A. 30 October 2008: hiyah a relationship wouldnt work if you both wanted exactally the same! a normal relationship includes a mix of different furture possibilities you both bring in together. however at some point you have to join togther and if its really heading two ... (read in full...)
I want to dump my boyfriend for my ex who is in the same family
Q. am 18, he is 18 as well we have been dating for five and half months now but i do not love him as much as i did before. i want to dump him, but i do not know how. besides i want to leave him for the guy who is his flesh and blood family member that ...
A. 30 October 2008: hiyah its never going to turn out well and this situation will always start a mess. but you have to tell yourself if you really want this its going to get worse before it gets better.
be straight with him, by being completely honest with him hell... (read in full...)
Why are these guys nice to my girlfriend?
Q. Dear All: I am facing a really difficult situation lately. The thing is, I've been dating with my gf for almost 3 years and we love each other a lot. The problem is, we're not living in the same country due to the fact that she went to England ...
A. 29 October 2008: hiyah i think by bringing it up shes using it as an advantage sometimes and is liking your jealousy. long distance relationships are hard and will only work if your both in it for the long run, it wont function without BOTH of your inputs and it ... (read in full...)
I always have bad luck in love.
Q. I've always had really bad luck with love. I have only ever liked two people in my life, and the first was last year. I liked her for about a year without any hope, and nothing happened, except that she got a boyfriend (and subsequently broke up ...
A. 29 October 2008: hiyah firstly dont ever judge the past on your future, just learn from mistakes and realise not everyone is the same.
its easy to say you love someone and im not going to patronise you with the your only young talk cuz youve thought this thro... (read in full...)
He says he is not breaking up the relationship, all he wants is distance.
Q. I don't understand what my man wants. The last time I was with him he told me that he wanted a distance between us ..... because he can't do two things at the same time faculty and me so he said he's gonna stay with his studies and for me it was ok ...
A. 29 October 2008: hiyah your relationships got slightly complicated and is getting worse as the days go on, i think both of you need a break not to end it just breakit up for a few days to each sort you head out and go back with a fresh mind on what you both want ... (read in full...)
He loves me but is confused... what does he mean???
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now. Everything between is great. We love hanging out with eachother and we spend alot of time together...on the phone and inpesrson! but i don't know lately something doesn't feel right...like ...
A. 27 October 2008: hiyah hes obviously really confused and has tried to put it into perspective through you by speaking his mind and it doesnt always make sense. hes really messed up about what he wants but seeing yu get emotional and how you reacted to the break idea ... (read in full...)
"Just friends" - what do you think???
Q. Can I trust him or not? Basically I have been going out with my bf for a year and know him about 7 years. We were best friends all through school but also knowing there was a little something more there. Finally we got together last year after mo...
A. 27 October 2008: hiyah its in every relationship im afraid if it starts on lies it carries on throughout an sometimes you loose conrtol of what you once had and its like your sitting back and watchin history repeat itself before you and you say to yourself this is ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my very good friend's
Q. Okay, I'm in love with my very good friend's girlfriend. She and my friend have been going out off and on for more than two years. She loves him definetely (most of the time). However, I talk to her every day through text, and then im, and then on ...
A. 27 October 2008: hiyah like you say yourself this has happened before ands beging to turn into a pattern you need to notice it an stop it sooner rather than later, you know what your doing so know when to stop and eventually it will ease for you altogether.
i... (read in full...)
Am I the "Back-up" girl ?
Q. He broke up with me for someone else but he says i can still talk to him on the phone if i wanted to why does he still want to talk to me if he didnt want me anymore, i'm not aloud to meet him just talk on the phone Is it as I'm a back up if thing...
A. 26 October 2008: hiyah, you obviously had a good relationship before now and he wants to carry on without cutting you off completely its really unfair and it can mess you up so i think you should be the stronger person and let this one go. you dont have anything ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my very good friend's
Q. Okay, I'm in love with my very good friend's girlfriend. She and my friend have been going out off and on for more than two years. She loves him definetely (most of the time). However, I talk to her every day through text, and then im, and then on ...
A. 26 October 2008: hiyah shes had a bad up brining and so will deal with affetion differently in all of her relationships. this comes with her and i think she honestly loves her boyfriend and although you may feel shes given you signs etc i think shes been a bit lost ... (read in full...)
Why do I still care? Why do I still want to talk to him?
Q. I need some final advice on this matter and Im not sure why I cant get over it. The guy Ive been 'waiting' for and liked has used me, disrespected me, ignored me and lied to me many many times in the past year. When we started hanging out, i t...
A. 25 October 2008: hiyah yeah its hard hun but you need to let go before you loose your self respect, he has no respect for you or women in general so it seems and you deserve better and there is better out there. youve hel on through everything so i know your ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but keep saying "right now", what does it mean? Will he want me back later on?
Q. when he broke up with me after about 2 1/2 weeks,he said he just wants to be friends cause he needs to focus on some stuff and he feels bad he isnt spending enough time with me cause hes busy. but he kept using the words "right now" im wondering if ...
A. 25 October 2008: hiyah to start with he broke up with you so do you really want him back? i think hes using the right now excuse to try and break it off gently if he were genuine he would put what ever aside and include you in his 'busy' life. it seems hes trying to ... (read in full...)
I feel so alone
Q. I'm feeling so alone right now. It's been several months now since I broke it off with my ex boyfriend, he was heavily into drink and drugs, emotionally abusive and once physically abusive. I stayed with him because of the good times - he could...
A. 19 October 2008: hiyah youve been through a lot but look on it and honestly i tell you know you shouldnt be feeling alone you should be feeling proud you got yourself out of where you once were so unhappy and helpless to the situation. you cant change a person they ... (read in full...)
My brain keeps hanging on to the past, how do I stop this?
Q. Hey, thanks to anyone who reads this. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about 4-5 months ago now and it's been a slow process moving on. I've had other girlfriends before her, but she was what I consider my first love. Although I think about he...
A. 19 October 2008: hiyah, she was your first everything and all the emotions came with it all at once so when it stops and breaks up life doesnt feel the same and sometimes you want to let go so badly that you cant. you need to break this cycle and find a way of ... (read in full...)
Why did he break it off with me? It doesn't make sense.
Q. I was seeing someone for 3 months, at first he was very attentive, calling texting every day/night. We worked together and he never wanted anyone to know we were seeing each other and he said he liked to keep his personal life private. He never in...
A. 19 October 2008: hiyah, i think the normal thing happened he was up for fun and you fell deeper he noticed this and freaked. its not wrong for you to want more most men just freak at the idea of getting serious and steady although you didnt ask for commitment or ... (read in full...)
Did my constant questions push them back together?
Q. I'm scared I can't get over him, after our split which was nearly 6 days ago, he's already moved on with going back to his ex having already slept with her, meeting her after work and stuff, so guess he's already moved on leaving me feeling really ...
A. 19 October 2008: Hiyah, it seems to me he's always loved her and anyone could come along and it would still be her, it's not you at all. It's normal to be insecure about his ex's and I think maybe you asking didn't help but you certainly didn't push them back ... (read in full...)
Really scared of being on my own.
Q. Hi. im really scared of being on my own ive only just split with my one and only guy, my first everything basically, im feeling really lonely seeing him has someone else, ive not much confedence and all my mates have guys of there own, i dot feel...
A. 18 October 2008: hiyah use this time to rebuild who you once were. your in a bad place right now, you have the right to mope for a bit but after you need to become you again. this could make or break you, and im not going to lie loosing your everything hurts like ... (read in full...)
I'm a punk kid, loud with my friends... but shy around girls that I like. How do I get over this?
Q. Hi. I am 17 and extremely shy at times... especially when it comes to school and girls. It weird because i am a sort of a punk kid and have no problem yelling exactly what i think in the middle of downtown or at a show or when i am with my friends. ...
A. 18 October 2008: hiyah its common for even cocky guys to change into this different person as soon as a girl comes along. they come out of ther comfort zone of being in control and knowing what to say at the right time etc the only way to get over this is when you ... (read in full...)
How do you know when the reltionship is over or coming to an end?
Q. Hi everyone, This isn't the first time I have written to you, and last time I got some great advice that would normally work, but not in my relationship. I don't know if it coming to an end... I have lost everything, my friends my job. I just want...
A. 18 October 2008: hiyah again the fact she wont talk and barely recogniseyou shows lack of comunication and fault in your relationship. dont blame yourself here i thinkthe way she is acting has something to do ith her as a person maybe something deeper than shes ... (read in full...)
Every time my boyfriend and I argue he turns it around to be MY fault!
Q. When me and my boyfriend of a year argue, it is usually to do with him letting me down, but he always turns it round to be my fault. He either rings me to say we can't go out, or doesn't even bother ringing me. He's been doing this all year now, I ...
A. 16 October 2008: hiyah, if you carry on this way he will end up changing you as a person lowering you each time until its you apologising each time for something hes done, its unhealthy and you cant live like that! you need to talk to him tell him its unfair NOW ... (read in full...)
I do love her but I don't want to marry or commit to one woman all the time.
Q. Have been with my girlfriend for 7 years. She is very pretty, sexy, funny, loving the list goes on. But I know she wants more. I don't want to lose her. Every time she gets tired of dealing with my issues and tries to move on I beg her back making ...
A. 16 October 2008: hiyah, it must be really hard for her as she obviously loves you a lot. you need to realise this and when your mind wanders to another woman or you simply feel the need to cheat etc then think of this, yeah these woman make you feel good in the spur ... (read in full...)
How do you know when the reltionship is over or coming to an end?
Q. Hi everyone, This isn't the first time I have written to you, and last time I got some great advice that would normally work, but not in my relationship. I don't know if it coming to an end... I have lost everything, my friends my job. I just want...
A. 16 October 2008: hiyah, firstly im sorry your feeling so down and it might seem it right now but its not all bad and eventually will get better (although i know its easy to say that). the signs that a relationship are coming to an end are obvious, no more contact ... (read in full...)
I worry about how my appearance will affect my relationships in the future.
Q. I have posted questions previously about how I worry about how my appearance will affect my relationships in the future. Quick reminder - I am nineteen years old, six foot dark hair blue eyes. My close female friends say I'm sweet and kind and lov...
A. 14 October 2008: hiyah i know you say your a lot more confident but im not seeing that! you constantly put yourself down literally telling woman how they feel about you before they even know, although you hide this wel dont hide from who you are- or you will never ... (read in full...)
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