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writes:Right this might be long so il apologize now!Me and my boyfriend have been together for around 8 months, we never had a honey-mood period, i dont no why we just didnt. when we got togther we argued all of the time but something stopped me ending the relationship. After around 2 months we grew closer and things became more serious, the arguements stopped and things seemed to change. Ive always felt with my boyfriend that he fills a space inside me that ive never been able to fill, he brings happyness in to my life that i had never felt before. We both lost our virginty to each other after around 4 months and have had a good sex life since. When i got with him i was suprised how mature he was as i had nown him for most of my life and always thought of him as immature, but lately around me hes become very childish and hyperactive, and its really making me go off him you could say. He goes mad out of no where, we'll be sat watching tv or having a cuddle and he will start annoying me, hitting me with pillows and singing stupid songs in my ear at the top of his voice and then laughing hysterically ( thats just a few examples) hes never been like this before and at first i thought of it as him just having a joke but now its annoying as its like controlling a 3 year old, i find myself begging him to just calm down. In front of all the boys though and other people he has this bad boy image where hes cool, calm and a real turn on. He used to be like this with me and i would always feel safe and protected but now the only time hes calm is after sex. Ive spoke to him about this and he says its because weve been off from highschool he has so much energy and hes not burning it off so hes getting hyper but i just cant take this any more, its like my boyfriends been replaced! Ive thought about ending it but i cant i can honestly say i love him and ending this relationship would ruin me but im gettin really turned off by his behaviour. Any ideas how i can cope with this or tell him how i feel? or do you think this relationship is doomed? Thank you so much xx
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reader, shiraz +, writes (2 September 2008):
hiyah, well although it might seem amusing to some people it must be so annoying!youve been through a lot with this guy so i dont think its the best reason to end it, and you obviously dont want that so sit and talk to him, tell him how your feeling and how sometimes his actions are really out of character and you tried to get used to it but now its really getting to you. Tell him how you see him changing and how hes no longer the person you fell in love with, even though you still love him (if yo get that!)He might just be afraid of growing up, crazy as it sounds. hes got so used to school etc everyday and now its gone and hes been thrown into this new world but he wants to remain the same young free person, you need to put him into place but remind him you understand why and that your here for him. his actions show a lot, insecurity and imaturity maybe a few things hes hanging onto as not to let go of who he once was. once you get it out of him then it should be in the open and you can take it from there. with the support from you he could change to who he was and you can go on through this new chapter of your life together, youve experianced so much and this is a serious time for you both- maybe he needs to look at it like that- youve got each other keep reminding him of that...Best of luck-hope it goes ok (and this helps a bit) xxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 September 2008):
It could very well be that although he put on a calm cool exterior, that this is what he's really like and it's only now that he's really relaxed with you that he's letting it out.
If you can't cope with it any more then see him less. Tell him that his "too much energy" problem is annoying you and so you are going out with your girlfriends instead.
You may both just be changing because you are growing up. Your relationship may have run it's course. Not everything is forever, but it can be wonderful for a short time.
Good Luck!! xx
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