I worry about how my appearance will affect my relationships in the future.
Q. I have posted questions previously about how I worry about how my appearance will affect my relationships in the future. Quick reminder - I am nineteen years old, six foot dark hair blue eyes. My close female friends say I'm sweet and kind and lov...
A. 14 October 2008: hiyah i know you say your a lot more confident but im not seeing that! you constantly put yourself down literally telling woman how they feel about you before they even know, although you hide this wel dont hide from who you are- or you will never ... (read in full...)
He was tickling me, does it mean he's flirting?
Q. i went on a second date with a guy i like from work, i had such a good time On the way home when we were on the train he put his arm around me and was tickling my ribs, and we were both laughing is this a good thing? was he flirting?...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyah, wel its obviously more than a frindly thing but its hard to say guys show this side of them in different ways but this deffinately sounds like the first steps to something special- enjoy it- hope all goes well x :)
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My boyfriend is very stressed out with his work, how can I change that and spend more time together?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a good while now, but here lately he's been very busy. He's getting signed(possibly)to a recording contract soon, so he's constantly been working on his album and he just doesn't seem to have the time for ...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyahh hes probably so wrapped up in his own work hes completely missing how it is your feeling and what his work load is doing to you and your relationship, although its blind to him now when all dies down it will become clear to him and either a- ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have doubts about your partner?
Q. hey aunts, i'm just wonderin. is it normal to sometimes have doubts about your partner? i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we've had our ups and downs and he's hurt me heaps before but we've gotten back together becoz thats what...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyah, youve been through so much ever thought maybe this should be it? for you both? having doubts is normal but you doubt your entire relationship this tells you something. he blames you for a lot showing a bad side of his personality, one you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has anger management issues, what do I do?
Q. You know when you really love someone, and you think your boyfriend's freat, but he just has that one glitch that when it pops up, it really makes you wonder if he's going to be the one for you? I have been with my boyfriend 10 months. 99% of ...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyahh, youve done so wel for so long and you should be proud hs been lucky to have someone show him real genuine love through and through. youve stood the test of time but eventually it will progress into something more and you need to cut that ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a rut, how do I break away from an on and off bad relationship?
Q. How do I break away from a bad relationship? We've been on and off for nearly a year, what started off as a rebound thing has become a bad habit, we get together, he treats me great for a month or so, then turns into a complete prat. We break ...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyah the best thing youve done is realised you are stuck earlier on! now its getting yourself out of it is what you need to focus on. End it completely you cannot stay in such an unhelathy relationship as eventually it will start to change you ... (read in full...)
I keep dumping one guy for another and can't make up my mind who to choose...
Q. What do I do? I was going out with this guy when I broke up with him because he's really pressurising and really mean sometimes, however we'd been in a relationship on and off for 11 months. But about 4 days after breaking up with him I started ...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyahh, youve had such rocky relationships with the two if i were you id be needing some me time to sort my head out before i got back in there and started again, it must really mess you up emotinally so why keep letting it happen? choose one guy ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone says they need to get their thoughts straight. Do they really mean it's over?
Q. This may be a stupid question but when someone asks to give them some time to get their thoughts straight because there is too much emotional involvement and they cant handle it. Does it means good bye?...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyah i wouldnt jump straight to o its over just cause its a guy people think right its his way of ending it and yeah sometimes it seems the easy way out but i dont think this is always the case, guys find it hard to express how they feel and they ... (read in full...)
Is my ex playing a game with me?
Q. so here's the deal.. my ex-bf and I have officially been broken up for almost a year and a half now..we had opened and closed the lines of communication since then until recently.. we began talking and seeing each other (hanging out..not exa...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyah i think hes got so used to coming and going in an up and down relationship he thinks its normal to carry on coming back and leaving again, its really unfair on you both and you need to stop it now in order for you both to move on. your always ... (read in full...)
I want to know what's up with him and why won't he talk to me???
Q. The other day I was hanging out with a really good guy friend of mine. We were having tons of fun, but suddenly he leaned over and kissed me. It was a lip-kiss, and it was really quick. But now he won't talk to me! Whenever I see him, he'll turn ...
A. 12 October 2008: hiyahh i think hes just nervous of your reaction! he went straight for it and its just scared him how youll be i think. you need to talk to him reasure him your cool with it (if you are) and just tell him how you feel best of luck x :)... (read in full...)
How can I subtly ask if this guy is still interested in me?
Q. hey guys long story cut short, I am dyyying to know if this guy i am completely besotted with and really like, still likes me. I know guys work differently, especially different than women, but I want to find out if he does, he can be weird at...
A. 10 October 2008: hiyah i get what your saying guys are never open and completely honest with how they feel sending out all these mixed messages puts doubts in girls minds! you seem to really like him so dont be too full on its neva an attractive look bein desperado ... (read in full...)
Why is it hard for parents to let a teenager date?
Q. why do you think its so hard for parents to let a 16 year old date? ...
A. 10 October 2008: hiyah i think its just because you are there daughter ya know and its like leeting go and you finding your own way it seems stupid the way they go about it but honestly ive learnt over all there protective side they actually want the best for you ... (read in full...)
Does this make me a slag or something?
Q. im 13 but i look way older. And the other day a guy came and started talking to me and my mate. He thought i was his age and was asking which college i attended. i said i didnt go to college but he didnt believe me. He asked for my number and my ...
A. 10 October 2008: hiyah if you felt uncomfortable in any way then you should stop the whole thing now. none of it makes you a slag but do you even like the guy? you shouldnt feel so pushed into things the guys a lot older and has a lot more experiance your still ... (read in full...)
Having a really hard time getting over my ex! Help!!
Q. i am having real troubles with getting over my Ex. We were together for just over a year and had a messy break up (with cheating on his part) - and after taking him back, he later broke up with ME! 2 weeks later he is seeing a new girl - a girl who ...
A. 10 October 2008: hiyah o this is so hard and its such a bad situation you find your the one hurting, cannot move on and you did nothing wrong! how its fair i dont know all i can say is from experiance it does get better. he hurt you your worth ten of him so keep ... (read in full...)
Do I go out with him? I still want my mates to respect me...
Q. help, what do you think i should do.??? well im sorta like in love with the only person i thought i wud never ever fall in love with, and im worried what my mates will say as i have told them i would never ever get with someone like him, but now ...
A. 10 October 2008: hiyahh, its normal to get the mates approval but it should stop after there opinion they cant rule your relationship itll get like having a third person and thats not fair for either of you. this guy seems to really like you and respect you and you ... (read in full...)
Should I give up my studies to become a model?
Q. Hey, I am 19 years old. Do you think giving up my studies and doing modelling is a good option? I really am interested in acting and modelling but I am doing medicine, pursuing to be a doctor. I don't know if its worthwhile. Advise please!...
A. 9 October 2008: hiyahh its all good saying to live your dream and be who you really are but you have to do whats best for you. happiness is important in life and if modeling gives you all you want then go for it i know it would be hard to juggle both so use this ... (read in full...)
Should I give him a chance???
Q. Hi, I just got out of an extremely self destructive relationship that I was in for 2 years. Now there is this guy who I had dated for about a week in 9th grade. Then I broke up with him and he took it really really hard. Now I'm 17 and we just ...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyah, you need to be careful although it might not seem that serious i think this guy is obsessive, he could have a real problem, you need to be aware of this.hes very insecure and i think by leaving him you are going to damage him but honestly i ... (read in full...)
I beat his score on the video game, now he won't talk to me! What's the big deal???
Q. My boyfriend and me were playing video games with his friends at his house. They were taking turns playing and one of his friends who was playing against my boyfriend gave me a turn. Usually I'm not very good at video games. The next thing I knew it ...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyah hes acting so immature! He feels embarrassed in front of his mates as it's a 'man' thing to be better and all that crap, maybe this has shown you a side to him you don't really need in your life? I mean god if he over reacts about this, ... (read in full...)
Am I a sociopath???
Q. I have a problem, I love relationships, I love being in love but I have issues staying faithful and lying... am I a sociopath. I have been with this guy for 8 months and in this time we spent 6 months apart as he was working and I cheated on him ...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyahh. your past may have something to do with your behaviour now and its sad yet common now a days. you need to learn to control yourself, i dont think you are mentally unwell i just think you have sexual issues you need to deal with and im afraid ... (read in full...)
Is taking responsibility for his actions?
Q. I want to know if my ex is sincerely apologetic. I broke up with him a year ago, and just emailed him yesterday asking if he is at all sorry for how he treated me. He said he made a huge mistake in leaving to Florida without me for two months right ...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyahh , do you really want to let this sort of person back into your life? do you need it right now. youve managed a whole year without him but then it was you who got back in touch, this shows you obviously still have strong feelings for him but ... (read in full...)
Shall I just move on because he's not interested or is he just shy?
Q. Iv been getting to know a boy for two months now. we meet up, sometimes alone but usually with mates. The thing is nothing has happend between us, we only hug when saying goodbye and we text each other almost everyday. last night i told him how i ...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyah, its really hard but i dont think he wants a relationship with you hun, guys send all these signals but when it comes down to that serious all emotion talk they back away they almost clam shut and thats the end of it.
He seems to like hang... (read in full...)
I'm 16, I love the guy I met in the Internet but I said 'yes' to another guy that lives closer to me, I'm confused!
Q. i am 16 and recently i met i guy on the internet.hes twenty and goes to university.but another guy ive met asked me to be with him and i said yes but the problem is i love the other one but he lives a bit far from me and the other one lives cl...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyahh, your confused! so is your question! firstly do you even know the guy from the internet? you may feel you have this 'strong connection' but have you met the guy? its always different when you meet on the internet. secondly you should get out ... (read in full...)
What should I say when he tells me this stuff?
Q. Well I've known this guy for couple of weeks. Our first date was great. We text almost everyday after that. Our 2nd date wasn't so good. He acted like a jerk. I wasn't going to talk to him again but he kept texting me asking if I liked him and if I ...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyahh, you need to serously think if you want this guy? you called him a jerk and that you werent interested so just move on! hes not going to chase you cuz your playing hard to get if you generally have no interest in him then end it he cant guess ... (read in full...)
I get mad when she messes with other guys so what should I do?
Q. Alright, now I know this question probably won't be answered as seriously as most of the other questions, seeing that I am really young. However, I found this girl at my school, I've liked her for a year, she's liked me for a year. It used to be ...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyah every girl has a bit of flirt in her but usally cuts back when shes with a guy although some just carry on as normal she might not feel her behaviour is hurting you at all shes got so used to being the way she is she doesnt know how to adjust ... (read in full...)
She gets angry easily. Am I over-reacting?
Q. My girlfriend gets angry/annoyed easily and sometimes when I'm with her, she seems to get angry with me rather easily, or maybe she doesnt, but I think maybe I overeact and take her being annoyed/angry personally. I lover her dearly, and know...
A. 5 October 2008: hiyahh i think your right to feel this way! you can help her by talking to her and telling her how it upsets you the way she can be, if you sit and talk you might find a reason behind it and she could have this fiery angry personality for a reason. ... (read in full...)
Why can't my friends be grateful for their good health?
Q. Im 16 and My life has been so hard over the past few years due to a condition which has taken me to the lowest of the low. I have had an operation this year and am slowing fighting the condition but i cnt help feel bitter about how all my other ...
A. 4 October 2008: hiyah, its really common for people to get so wrapped up in themselves and there own lives they are completely unaware of whats going on around them but its not there fault its just the way they see fit. people are different in what they say an how ... (read in full...)
Does my friend like me like I like him???
Q. hello im 19 and its been a few months since iv been meeting up with my old best mate from high school weve always been gud mates and weve told each other a lot of secrects, but recently iv been starting to have feelings for him. Iv felt this way ...
A. 4 October 2008: hiyah, its a really hard situation when somebody you had those feelings for comes back into your life, it changes everything. the thing is your older now and its up to you how to act on it. i cant tell you how to go about it because i dont know the ... (read in full...)
We're best friends, but I love him
Q. Okay I know this is gonna sound so bad but okay. I dated this guy about 5 years ago, and 4 years ago.. and we had a thing about 3 years ago (before my bf). I have a boyfriend who i've been with for 2 years and 7 months. Me and my boyfriend ha...
A. 4 October 2008: hiyahh, youve done the hard thing by admitting you want to move on no the hard part, actually moving on! yeah you have a past with this gu (everyone has that first one thats never forgotten) but its not always a happy ever after for ever if ya get ... (read in full...)
Girl fear! How do I make the first move?
Q. hey folks, I am 17 young and live in Sweden. I am originally from Iraq, had been here for 9 months and I have my first love during this while but won't make u bored by the story just my problem is this. Before I met this girl I had a problem ...
A. 4 October 2008: hiyah. this is natural! even the cocky over confident guys get nervous when chattin to a girl they like the trick is to be yourslf! girls love that! that way you are being completeley you. you seem to get really nervous about this dont let it get to ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend?
Q. should i break up with my boyfriend? i've known him for 2 and a half years ive loved him for half that and we've been dating for 5 months he is my best friend and i tell him everything. we did meet on myspace and we talk on the phone and use we...
A. 28 September 2008: hiyah its common for relationships to loose that first time buzz he might just need space and this is his way of telling you this you have the right to know where you stand and as hard as it may be you have to talk to him its the only way to sort ... (read in full...)
I would hate not to have her as a friend. Please help!
Q. I have this really good friend who is female and we have known each other for a while now and we have talked about being more than friends and sgreed we would rather keep it at that tah have a relationship that may not last. But the problem is we ...
A. 28 September 2008: hiyah maybe this is her way of telling you she needs space? she seems and insecure person and she might not realise shes actually pushing you away. you need to talk, tell her how you feel. youve accepted that she lies and has trust issues so you ... (read in full...)
Is this a nice way of saying "I'm just not into you in that way"....?
Q. I am just wondering. If a guy says he does not want to tempt the friendship (but he has fancied and kissed you before) is this a nice way of saying "im just not into you in that way"....but what about if he is very touchy feely and tries to hold my ...
A. 23 September 2008: hiyahh typicall confusin guy language! its well confusin! always messin with your head and eventually itll end your friendship as he will become two different guys. Hes not wanting a relationship or hed be open and tell you rather than knocking you ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him in a way that won't end with us both hating each other? Is that even possible?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been drifting apart for nearly a month, and today I found out that he has been flirting with a girl who is actually a friend of mine. I know for a fact that he used to fancy this girl before going out with me, and today she ...
A. 23 September 2008: hiyahh just be honest with him the fact that your both flirting with other people shows that what you used to have in your relationship no longer exsists and although any break up is hard your both already moving on before you have! (if you get me) ... (read in full...)
We want different things so we should part ways. But how do I end it with him?
Q. I really love my boyfriend but he doesn't want the same as me. I want a house but he doesnt i want kids he doesnt and eventually i want to get married but again he doesnt. If we both want different things then i shouldnt be with him. I just dont ...
A. 23 September 2008: hiyahh your both young and unlike us girls guys dont have a five year plan! they feel there still young and want to be carefree and immature for as long as possible they feel the way they are is normal but given a few years hell be ready to settle ... (read in full...)
Would it be right to leave my current gf for my ex??
Q. Hello, A few days ago, my "ex-girlfriend" recently got back in touch after 2 month without so much as a hello or goodbye. My ex and I had alot in common and i really start to care for her. But we never really had a relationship. we just use to s...
A. 18 September 2008: hiyah this is going to sound really bad but i think you should leave them both- you are not happy in your current relationship this isnt fair on any body and so it would be best to get out now but goin back to your ex i dont think is the right thing ... (read in full...)
Is he really in love with me ?
Q. Arhh, I have a bf and i love him, but it seems like he dosnt love me much well i mean, ok so, at dinner time at school b4 we went out he was all ways all over me hugging holding hands kissin ( only messin bout on face nd hands nd tht0 and propa ...
A. 18 September 2008: hiyahh, its common for the begining fire of the relationship starting to burn out you cant have those first few months forever its like the honeymoon period it doesnt last forever you have to adjust to the change in your relationship the fact that ... (read in full...)
How do I lose weight quickly to stop my friends from making hurtful comments?
Q. I'm 13 and one of my best friends has suddenly gone off with her old best friend. Me and a few of my other friends do something called Body Combat and my old best friend was there watching and taking the mick out of us with her two new best friends. ...
A. 13 September 2008: hiyah this happens a lot! and the advice youve been offered already sums it up! just try not to let this affect you and who you are. shes only saying these things to have an affect on you and it is! dont let it show and carry on being yourself! ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone older, what should I do?
Q. im in love with a person 15yrs older than me what do i do?...
A. 13 September 2008: hiyahh, its always more difficult this way. It depends on the circumstances your still young at the moment and i know its annoyin when people say its a phase but this might just be the case. emotions are everywhere and ya get feelings for different ... (read in full...)
How can I break-up with him while remaining friends??
Q. I have a boyfriend and we've been best mates since primary. The problem is that i want to break up with him, but want to stay best friends. I'm afraid that if we do break up, it could jeopardize our friendship. What should i do? ...
A. 9 September 2008: hiyahh, yeah in this case the only way to be is honest towards him youll get more respect that way and hell get the message. if your mates anyway he should understand, just try and to it the easiest way possible (if there is one!) and just let him ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just wants to be friends now. How do I get her back?
Q. i had a girlfreind who just wants to be freinds now. i wana be more then that what should i do ...
A. 9 September 2008: hey, your young! just be here mate and see where it leads if she dont want more than that dont pressure her its unfair on you both if shes not feeling the same way. its good your still mates focus on that and it might get better in the future. good ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends don't like me! How do I talk to him about this?
Q. I need some advice on what to do about my boyfriends friends. When we first got together they kept saying things about me including his brother. I didn't let this get to me to much but one day it just really upset me and I cried in school. My ...
A. 9 September 2008: hiyahh, it must be really hard! your bf probably feels torn, he loves you and is upset you mates take the mick but at the same time he still wants to be one of the lads and not feel like he has to stand up for you- the fact that he is remaing quiet ... (read in full...)
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