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writes: Me ex boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. I was insecure during the last few months of our relationship. I accused him of being with this other female a bunch. (which in fact he never was). The most recent time I accused him he blew up on me completely, and told me it was over. My first reaction was to beg and plead. After a couple days of this with no success, I knew I had to settle for the "no contact" rule to let things cool off. So here I am at day 7.I was his first love, as he was mine. Despite the negatives of our relationship, I have realized my mistakes and I want to prove to him we can be happily be a couple. I know he doesn't trust me right now. He thinks i'm going to accuse him, but i'm way past it.-If he was really done why am I still on his top friends on myspace and why are all of our pictures still posted?-Do I talk to him and tell him I have changed? Do I wait for him to initiate the talking? What steps do I take?
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reader, AlohaServedDaily  +, writes (21 November 2008):
 Hunny, it seems like you really no what you did, i forst off props to your for realizing it and coming to a conclusion, because the first step is to admit YOU were wrong. so go get him back girl. dont let him go by counting down the days you are without him. tell him all this, tell him how you feel and tell him you were wrong and want to prove to him that you are willing to trust him and let go of his past or whatever it is that is causing you to act this way. but if he does plan to give it another try, DO NOT rush things just let it take its way on its own, express to him whenever you get the chance that you care for him. recognize the good things he does to you or for you. make him feel like he is a good boyfriend (if he is) and dont accuse him of things that he didnt do. and most definately dont bring up his past. i hope everything works out. it seems that you really care for him, so dont waste anytime -go get him back! stay positive.AlohaServedDaily.
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (21 November 2008):
hiyah, firstly prepare yourself its not for certain he will take you back, hes taken a lot from you and yeah were all slightly insecure but sometimes it can become to much so respect him for his descion even if you dont agree. explain that you realise now you were pushing away the one you needed most and that you genuinly are sorry and your trying to adjust yourself to trust again with everyone, not just him. once he realises you find it a difficulty he may surprise you in his reaction, however it could go either way so like i said prepare yourself for it all. you seem to really like him so fight for him,dont let what you could have go given your insecurities not everyone is the same! never judge him on past experiances and leran to give him the freedom we all crave now and again he cannot constantly be attached to you an if he has girl mates be cool with it, hes likely to apreciate your change for him a lot more and if hes aware its a struggle of yours he will deal with it differently. you really need to talk to him to progress further rather than counting down the days.its up to you now to fight for what you want or let this one go, it seems to me you have made your descion so go do it! best of luck in your future happiness that will eventually come! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): you explain to him what you have explained here - but you do him one better and explain to him WHAT YOU'RE INSECURE ABOUT. And if you trust him enough to open up fully to him that should be the end of this "accusing him of this and that" sherade. GL.
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