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writes:Ok, so I just broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago. I'm going out with this new guy..a male friend of mine who I've kept in touch with for months. He knows a lil about my ex. We're going out to watch a game this weekend..is this considered our first date or just going out as friends? I see it as just hanging out and having a great time! But I'm not so sure from a guy's point of view. Oh and he just mentioned dinner afterwards. I'm okay with that. By the way we've been texting each other back and forth even before the break-up, but now it's text and calling. Also, I've noticed that he calls me one day and the next he tells me call me. So, I guess it's fair..it shows that we're both interested in talking to each other. Is this friendship or what?
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (21 November 2008):
hiyah, firstly you need to ask yourself what you see it as, you seem cool about the situation so are you seein it as mates? if so then carry on that and see the progression without gettng to deep too soon. its always a tricky one with mates as theres always that doubt of wruining your friendship but its a risk you have to make... unless you want to remain mates that hang out. he seem positive but you both need to know where you stand or its going to get messy. talk to him about what you are, what you want to be and how it could/couldnt work look at it from all angles and keep asking yourself if its what you want rather than trying to guess his views
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reader, Teacake +, writes (21 November 2008):
 One day at a time. Sounds like starting off as friends future unknown. Always best to get to know each other before it goes to another level.
Things started off like this with the man who ended up breaking my heart. I now regret that I didn't keep it strictly friends for a few more months. You'll know he's more than a friend if he asks you if you have a boyfriend or other personal info. Always let him lead, don't rush, don't ask questions because that seems to scare them off and pressure them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): From a male perspective-- he definitely thinks its dating - or on its way to becoming a dating situation. By the way it sounds, he probably also thinks you are interested in him. I mean, so the question you have to ask yourself is, do you like him?p.s. guys who take advantage of rebounds are shallow!
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