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writes:okay well i lost my virginity to much boyfriend of 19 months at the time. he was a virgin also. i was just kinda wondering was that a good about of time to wait. i thought so but just wondering. also why do you thik people call me a slut when ive only done anyting sexual with my boyfriend and only had sex twice with him after 19 months? i dont get that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am 15 just to let everyone know. I completly understand what yall are saying about why people made it such a big deal. I mean it doesnt really matter to me because i'm the one making the decsion. But yes I am taking this all very seriously I am on birth control and also he used a condom just to be on te safe side. Also I loveand care about him so much that when it happened I just let it keep going. He never pressured me to at that he barely mentioned it. I guess I was just asking for opinions. Thanks everyone.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 August 2011):
 Either you're talking about the sex to your friends or he's been talking to his friends. My guess is that he's been talking about having sex with you and that's why you're being talked about. This is what happens when immature people have sex before they're emotionally ready for it.
I think you need to tell him to respect your privacy and stop talking about you with other people. And I would lay off having sex for now as the consequences seem to be too much for you to handle right now. Be careful!
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 You are not a slut, however you are too young to be having sex. Because of this people will react badly to hearing that you had sex. Try not to let the names get to you and stop having sex until you are old enough.
Take care and hold your head up high. Everyone makes mistakes; that's why we learn from them and improve ourselves.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (5 August 2011):
you are way to young to be having sex at your age but since you have only had sx with 1 person you are not a slut but i would wait at least a couple more year before you have sx with him again
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 In your age bracket you should not be having sex at all, period. It is against the law and it is a bad idea for all kind of psychological,emotional,physical and social reasons.
Which of course does not entitle anybody to be mean and call you names. Let`s say they have a harsh way to say "not a good idea ".
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (5 August 2011):
 sex causes pregnancy and you are certainly not equipped to care for a baby at your age. We can't read the minds of the people who called you names, but they might be judging you because you are too young to have kids yourself, since you haven't even graduated high school yet.
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reader, Mark_25_ +, writes (5 August 2011):
 I guess it kinda depends on your actual age. Ordinarily if it was just sex 13 - 15 is too young. But considering you've been in a 19 month relationship, if your 15, I'd say that's fair enough. You've waited for a quite a while (correctly at your age)and there isn't any doubt that you and your boyfriend are committed to each other (which is very rare at your age). Although, if your 13, that is still far too young to be having sex. In adult terms, I don't think there is a "good amount of time to wait" because everyone is different and it depends on the people involved.I think the only reason you've been called a slut is jealousy. - Your in a long term relationship, which next to nobody is at your age. I guess saying that you've had sex with your bf might have made them say it. But you shouldn't listen to them, it's just jealousy that you have something they don't.Hope that helps :)
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 If you are in the 13-15 age bracket, you are too young to be having sex, with either virgins or non-virgins. This is possibly the reason why there is some name calling in your direction. As you can't change what has happened, you can only now change your current behaviour. Stop having sex until you are older, just be a kid for now and try to not complicate your life.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (5 August 2011):
You are pretty young to be having sex, but you're not a slut. Who is calling you it? Boys, girls? It could be that they are being immature. School can be hard time because of name-calling.
Perhaps these people are jealous that you're in a relationship, and so it is a real easy comment to just call you it.
Having sex is a private issue and you should do your best to keep it that way. You don't want people in your school, and even your friends, to know all of your private details.
Keep what happens away from the gossip. Only tell the closest of your friends what goes on in your relationship with your boyfriend.
Losing a reputation (even if it is untrue and not fair) is hard to do, so focus the attention off the fact you've had sex, and all the kids and whoever is doing this will move on to some other kind of gossip and you having sex will be old news.
I hope that you are remembering contraception - you don't wanna be a teem mom, do you?
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