I need the followup text to the girl I met! Help!
Q. Last night was my first time at a nightclub in LA and a girl came up to me within my first 5 minutes of being there and asked if I'd like to come dance with her friends (it was one of her friends bachelloretes party) I complied and she started ...
A. 21 January 2015: Fun tidbit, I texted her a couple weeks ago (about 3 years after this happened) and she completely forgot we even met and sent me a picture of her two kids. Crazy huh? ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on this girl? She's come up with all kinds of excuses for why we can't get together.
Q. I am very close to giving up on this girl and I just want to see if I should or if there is still hope. I met her a couple months ago at Wondercon, we connected well and I got her number. After a couple text exchanges (with very delayed response...
A. 21 January 2015: Update!
She finally texted me back after I texted her saying I can't seem to guess when she's free, and to let me know if she'd like to hang out again sometime.
She said "I'm busy this week, but we can hang out next week as friends"
I ma... (read in full...)
Help please... does my coworker like me?
Q. I met this guy at work and started working quite closely with him about a month ago. He is a warm, friendly person and helps me out all the time at work. One time because I did something wrong at work, he had to wait for me to fix it for three...
A. 30 July 2014: Yeah, he's flirting with you. But I would avoid the office romance. They never end well (Unless one of you ends up working someplace else).... (read in full...)
What interesting things can I do with a guy at a boring mall?
Q. I'm going on a date with a 23 year old I met online tomorrow afternoon. Now, at 19, this is my first date. I havn't even told him that because I find it so embarrassing. We've planned on meeting at a mall. I'd like some ideas on fun, flirty, ...
A. 30 July 2014: Yep, just like everyone has said, he's the guy it's his job to make it fun.
And the venue doesn't matter. All you're doing it seeing if you connect with one another.
Have fun!... (read in full...)
Should I text her? Or try calling later? I don't want to mess it up!
Q. I met a girl about two months ago at Wondercon and after talking to her for a bit, got her number, and asked her out about a week later. After a couple text exchanges (with very delayed responses from her) for the next few weeks, and a missed pho...
A. 18 June 2014: I'm all for calling. And she actually suggested we go to the beach when she was with me for our next date.
But the three times I've called since I met her, she hasn't picked up once, and texts back a day later, leading me to believe she just doe... (read in full...)
My GF has bad news that cannot be discussed over the phone, I'm left wondering what it could be until I can see her again in a few days...
Q. Hi everyone, I have been in a great relationship with my girlfriend for almost a year now. We are both 20 years old. Recently, I had to come back to my hometown for 3 months and I have been away from her. We have been writing to each other, chat...
A. 17 June 2014: Well, update after several years, but after I arrived to the airport with my mom, she took me to my apartment first while my mom got a rental car and told me she had cheated on me (she slept with a co worker of hers 3 days before I arrived).
... (read in full...)
I like a woman I've met. What should my next move be?
Q. It all started at a friends script reading party late December 2013. I met a girl there and we hit it off pretty well. We ended up talking for about an hour and she asked me to come to her play, I said I would and got her phone number. I called ...
A. 17 June 2014: Thanks for the advice! Here is the thrilling conclusion:
So I texted back a few weeks later, and she let me know she was visiting Europe and "met up with the guy [she's] been seeing." I asked what she was up to the next few days, she replied,... (read in full...)
She didn't keep in contact to arrange our date. What should I do??
Q. Hello, So I met a girl a few weeks ago at Comic Con. We met there in the morning, had lunch together, hung out throughout the day, and even ended up having dinner together with a few of her friends as well. I contacted her a few days later a...
A. 17 February 2014: And she turned out to be a lesbian. Yep, her aloof behavior when it came to dates suddenly made sense.
But, we ended up becoming good friends. ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to feel this way, to feel invisible?
Q. So, I am currently in my second to last year of high school. Junior Year (11th Grade), man time has flew by. The town I currently live in isn't exactly a place I like. My family and I moved here 6 years ago (6th grade) because we simply needed a ...
A. 17 February 2014: WiseOwl said it best. You are not invisible. And high school is a social construct that will soon end. The real world isn't like that. College isn't even like that.
... (read in full...)
He got me absolutely nothing for Valentine's Day!
Q. Should I be upset he got me absolutely nothing for Valentine's Day? My boyfriend and I both agree that Valentine's day is not a big deal. We are in a long distance relationship-been together about 8 months. We don't see eachother very often in pe...
A. 17 February 2014: If you said it wasn't a big deal, then to him that was code for "I don't really care about getting a card or not"
Just make sure if your with him next year to casually let him know how awesome you think Valentine's is so he doesn't make the same... (read in full...)
She agreed to be my girlfriend but doesn't contact me?
Q. About 2 months ago I met a girl at a convention and we hit it off really well. She lives far from me (about 50 miles), but we started to see each other virtually every weekend. We've spent the night at each others places, but we haven't had sex yet ...
A. 17 February 2014: Well, she did end up calling back the following Tuesday.
And after a curt conversation, broke up with me.
It was pretty bad. She would not say why she is breaking up, did not want to talk about it, and simply said "the relationship has... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me? He's cancelled a couple of dates.
Q. I met a guy about a month ago and we have been talking every single day ever since. We are both artists and musicians and I love to talk to him, it's like we never run out of things to talk about. We went on our first date a few weeks ago and it ...
A. 17 February 2014: Cancelling more than twice in a row without extremely good reasons is usually a bad sign. He may be juggling multiple girls :/
Give him one more chance if you like him so much. If he does it again, do not give him the time of day, he's treating... (read in full...)
Am I too unrealistic in wanting to find a guy who's not into porn or casual sex?
Q. Please don't be nasty with your replies but I would like to know the chances of finding someone who; 1. Hasn't got much of an interest in porn when in a relationship 2. Hasn't had a one night stand or a friend with benefits 3. Doesn't see...
A. 17 February 2014: Short answer is, yes, men that meet all those characteristics exist. But they are ludicrously rare.
Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Am I missing out on something here? She has a strange pattern to her behaviour!
Q. hello I'm dating a girl for three months now and I feel a strange pattern now in her behaviour ! After every two weeks or so, she'll start ignoring in a sense that she'll take extra time to reply than usual and she'll seem less excited to see ...
A. 17 February 2014: Dude, I honestly just went through a relationship that was exactly like yours.
She acts interested when she sees you, and suddenly takes days to reply for texts or calls for no reason. And whenever you try to confront her about it, she gives ex... (read in full...)
He said he loves my company, but I think I'm in the friend zone
Q. Hello dear Aunts and Uncles, So, i have recently met a new friend (about a month ago)... The thing is i like him as more than a friend... the other thing is i don't know if there are any chances he might like me back... The night we met he gave m...
A. 17 February 2014: Ouch. Making out with the other guy was not a good call.
There is a surefire way to know if he is NOT interested in you romantically. And that is:
He talks about other girls in front of you. A guy will NEVER talk about another girl in ... (read in full...)
I will see my crush one last time in a few weeks. I want to know if he as any feelings for me, but I fear rejection. What should I do???
Q. I'm in a bit of a dilemma right now. I have been in love with this guy for about half a year now and I will probably never get to be with him because he is going to uni this year and after that, our paths may never cross again. I'm only going to ...
A. 11 June 2012: It looks like you are scared of more than just rejection there.
You're also scared that you are going on different paths already and feel like you will never find someone who will make you feel like that again.
All I can say is that I have b... (read in full...)
I need the followup text to the girl I met! Help!
Q. Last night was my first time at a nightclub in LA and a girl came up to me within my first 5 minutes of being there and asked if I'd like to come dance with her friends (it was one of her friends bachelloretes party) I complied and she started ...
A. 11 June 2012: Yeah...so it looks like it was kind of a one night thing. I texted her, got nothing, tried calling her a week later, and still got nothing.
Oh well. Thanks for the advice!... (read in full...)
Should I contact this girl again? Or is she just being nice?
Q. Hello, This is kind of a pathetic story, but I would appreciate any help. When I was in college senior year I spotted this beautiful girl that would routinely eat in the cafeteria around the time I was there. I sadly could never time exa...
A. 6 May 2012: So I know this happened a million years ago, but in case you're curious, she was indeed just being nice. I asked her
"Congratulations! What do you do with Access Hollywood?
"I'm actually finished with them and starting with Fox News next week"
"... (read in full...)
Is she seeing a guy behind my back?
Q. I met an amazing girl but last week we hit a bump in the road she has a guy freind who has a girl but they are going to a new years eve wedding together and I'm ok with that I knew that when met they went dress shopping together before hand I told ...
A. 20 December 2011: Totally feel your frustration man.
So if I understood correctly, the girl your interested in is going dress shopping together with a guy friend who has a girlfriend of his own.
Sometimes girls do have very close male friends, its not uncommon... (read in full...)
I want to give this girl a present, should I make up a story or just give her the present?
Q. Hey there! I hope you can help me out. A few weeks ago I met a girl who was helping out with casting. We hit it off pretty well so before she left I asked if she'd like to hang out sometime and she said she did, so I asked for her number. ...
A. 20 December 2011: Thank you so much for all your feedback!
I guess the bracelet is a little too soon, and would probably make me come off as pretty desperate and weird. You are all right, jewelry is a very personal gift and I don't know her well enough yet.
... (read in full...)
She didn't keep in contact to arrange our date. What should I do??
Q. Hello, So I met a girl a few weeks ago at Comic Con. We met there in the morning, had lunch together, hung out throughout the day, and even ended up having dinner together with a few of her friends as well. I contacted her a few days later a...
A. 18 August 2011: Hey you two, thanks for the advice!
So I did wait until Tuesday, and I decided to call her. She answered the phone and said she ended up not going to the event because it was a very hot day and her friends decided not to go either.
I talke... (read in full...)
Is my inexperience going to put guys off?
Q. I've never really had a proper relationship and am really inexperienced with guys I haven't even had my first kiss. I've been on quite a few dates with different guys but it's never gone further. The worrying thing is they have all said they weren't ...
A. 14 August 2011: No it won't.
I actually had my first kiss at 19.
Do it when it feels right to you, not to someone else. ... (read in full...)
He seemed too good to be true and I don't want to lose him. But he hasn't contacted me since. What can I do?
Q. Last night I was standing outside of the bar and a very attractive guy approached my (guy) friend and me looking for a lighter. We both pulled out a lighter but I told him that he should take mine because it was lucky- and he did. After talking to h...
A. 14 August 2011: The guy likes you.
He is just following dating etiquette. He doesn't want to call you or text you too often to avoid seeming desperate. Give him a few days to respond.
If after a few days he doesn't then consider calling or texting him.
... (read in full...)
Why does he want a trial marriage if we have already been G/f and B/f for two years already?
Q. I was out to dinner with my boyfriend tonight and I asked him what his reservations are about getting married. He told me that he wanted to live together first because he wanted a trial run to see if we were compatible. I feel after two years he s...
A. 14 August 2011: I can sorta see where he is coming from. My parents actually dated for about 3 years, then moved in together, and then got married.
The thing is, you really don't know who a person is until you live with them. At least, that's the philosop... (read in full...)
What should I write in my message to her???
Q. Hello Everybody, So about two weeks ago at my brother's prom in Mexico I met a girl and we hit it off really well. She is 22 years old, like me. As it turns out, she actually lives near Los Angeles (where I live), and visits there frequently...
A. 18 June 2010: Just so you all know, I sent the last message and she sent me a reply the very same day thanking me for checking in on her, and gave me her number.
So thanks for everything!... (read in full...)
What should I write in my message to her???
Q. Hello Everybody, So about two weeks ago at my brother's prom in Mexico I met a girl and we hit it off really well. She is 22 years old, like me. As it turns out, she actually lives near Los Angeles (where I live), and visits there frequently...
A. 17 June 2010: So I took in the feedback and modified the message. I think it's more direct,casual,and less needy.
"Hey Allie, how’s it going? How are your new eyes treating you? I’ll be back in LA tomorrow, so can you give me your number? Mine is (310)-29... (read in full...)
What should I write in my message to her???
Q. Hello Everybody, So about two weeks ago at my brother's prom in Mexico I met a girl and we hit it off really well. She is 22 years old, like me. As it turns out, she actually lives near Los Angeles (where I live), and visits there frequently...
A. 17 June 2010: Thanks for all of the advice so far! Just to clarify, she is already in LA, not here in Mexico. ... (read in full...)
Which of these texts seems more natural and effective? I want to set up a first date but I'm not sure how to go about doing this
Q. Hello, So 5 days before spring break (about 15 days ago) I met this girl in my ballroom dancing class. We talked for about 15 minutes while the teacher got there, and I ended up getting her phone number. I just got back from home, and was...
A. 24 March 2010: Hi everyone,
So I went with the second message, but sadly, she did not write back :(
At least I saved face right?
Thanks for all of your input though!... (read in full...)
We met online, we met in person, now I hear nothing from him, why?
Q. I've been out of the dating scene for a while, anyway, i met a guy online, and we went out on saturday and chatted in a bar for 3.5 hours, i knew he was interested because he kept reaching over the table to hold my hand, or touch me, he would stare ...
A. 2 December 2009: Give him some time.
He is in the same situation as well, he doesn't want to seem to eager and scare you off.
If he doesn't respond after a few days (before you leave of course), call him. Don't leave a message if he doesn't answer. If he tr... (read in full...)
I am 14 and worried my love for my fiance is fading fast
Q. I've been with my fiance who lives 750 miles away for 1 year and almost 2 months (who was also my first boyfriend), and I feel like my love for him is gone. I an't explain why I feel like this, I just startd to feel like this after I came back from ...
A. 2 December 2009: Hi,
There is no magic formula for you to suddenly stop feeling for other people.
If you like this new guy, and find it very hard to keep loving your fiance, then this is a clear sign that you are not ready for marriage yet. Especially if yo... (read in full...)
I feel like she is using me and I don't know what to do about it.
Q. My ex-girlfriend of one year and I recently broke up about a month ago. She knows I want to fix things and get her back in my life. We still text everyday and there is no resentment towards each other. Over the holiday weekend we met at a bar with ...
A. 30 November 2009: Tell her at some point that night that you would like to get back together with her. If she keeps stalling, let her know that you aren't just going to stick around her entire life for her to make up her mind.
If you want to bring up the fact tha... (read in full...)
I have a date and I don't know what to talk about!
Q. ok i need help and pretty fast!! I just accepted this date from a guy i have liked for months and months. Well i don't know that much about him and previously on dates lets just say i suck at them. When i'm out with my friends im this bubbly outg...
A. 18 November 2009: If he asked you out on a date that means that he likes you already, so don't worry about doing poorly.
He is probably going to ask most of the questions, and all you will have to do is talk about yourself. Just make sure to ask him stuff once in ... (read in full...)
Will I be haunted by my ex for the rest of my life?
Q. I've been in a happy relationship for 2 years with a top girl. Every now and then, however, I have these emotionally intense dreams involving my ex girlfriend who broke up with me more than 3 years ago. In these dreams she is either rejecting me ...
A. 17 November 2009:
I have also had dreams with my ex. Its tough to get a person you cared about for so long to completely disappear from your mind.
If you are happy, don't dwell on this. If she were 'the one' she wouldn't have broken up with you, its that sim... (read in full...)
I want to be with her but I also want to feel wanted.
Q. Hello, I am 21, currently back in a relationship with my ex, we dated previously for 5 years and took a 5 month break. Our past relationship was not healthy towards the end so she broke up with me. She recently told me she wants to try again and I ...
A. 17 November 2009: Dude, move on.
You dated her for FIVE years and nothing happened. Do you seriously want to stick around for another five and hope that one day she will suddenly want you really badly? She already broke up with you once, do you want to wait for... (read in full...)
Why did he ask me to go to the gym with him? Does he think I'm fat???
Q. This question may sound a bit silly but i just want to know what my boyfriend meant by this. We were talking one night and he said hes going to start going to the gym and he asked "maybe you can come to keep me company" I felt a bit offended...
A. 17 November 2009: When I was with my girlfriend I asked her to go to the gym just to have fun. I did not think she was fat or anything. It's just nice to have the company, especially if you typically work out alone 4 or 5 days a week. ... (read in full...)
She loves me but doesn't want to get back together because of the text I sent her!
Q. Ok so towards the beginning of summer, I came out of a really bad relationship for 7 months and it hurt because she dumped me for another guy... anyway, I went to my friends for comfort and this one girl who I had a crush on me before the previous...
A. 16 November 2009: Girls are excrutiatingly difficult. If she continues to be wishy washy like this just move on man. "Done with Boys"? Come on. You deserve better than that. All you did was send one lousy text. You didn't insult her, you didn't cheat on her, yo... (read in full...)
She loves me but doesn't want to get back together because of the text I sent her!
Q. Ok so towards the beginning of summer, I came out of a really bad relationship for 7 months and it hurt because she dumped me for another guy... anyway, I went to my friends for comfort and this one girl who I had a crush on me before the previous...
A. 15 November 2009: If you are already on a talking basis that generally is a good sign. She still wants you in her life, but is unsure if she wants to start a relationship with you again. I guess the important thing here is what you talk about. If you continue ... (read in full...)
Should I take things slowly?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for six months and he decided it was over because he said he was tried of the arguements. i called him to apologise but he gave me the cold shoulder and said we will never get back together. he left on monday and today ...
A. 15 November 2009: If it happens it happens? Sounds to me as if he wants a friend with benefits now, not a girlfriend. Be careful with him. If nothing happens within 2 weeks of you seeing each other, nothing will happen. I hope this helps!... (read in full...)
Help! How can I get him to talk to me more?
Q. I know I am going to sound like Im in middle school writing this, but Im at a loss of words. My social anxiety has never prevented me so. There is this guy in my art class. He is pretty shy as well, though he is very sure of himself when he ...
A. 15 November 2009: Classic situation I've been in several times. Try the after class approach. After class ends, simply time your exit to coincide with his and ask him something related to the class as you exit. If he is even remotely interested in you he wi... (read in full...)
Help! How can I ask him out without making it seem so obvious?
Q. i really need help here im in love with my best friend! the problem is if i ask him out and he says no then everything will become really awquard around us but if i dont ask him then my head will probley explode!, so how can i ask him out without it ...
A. 15 November 2009: I second CaringGuy Men are oblivious to signals like that. You just have to straight up ask him. ... (read in full...)
I have no emotional connection with my husband and am so unhappy!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have always been a smart girl, but I believe that I made a very bad decision. I met my now husband as a freshman in college. He sought after me for six months, but I began dating someone and did not return the calls. Well, after 6m...
A. 15 November 2009: I think you answered your own question in the PS. You have already made a decision to start seeing other guys. This means that you are definitely not in love with this man. And by the looks of how he treats you, he is not in love with you either.... (read in full...)
She loves me but doesn't want to get back together because of the text I sent her!
Q. Ok so towards the beginning of summer, I came out of a really bad relationship for 7 months and it hurt because she dumped me for another guy... anyway, I went to my friends for comfort and this one girl who I had a crush on me before the previous...
A. 15 November 2009: Ho boy. You got yourself into a wee bit of a mess man. I honestly would say that your best way to defend yourself is simply explain to her that you felt exasperated and texted that out of frustration. Please do not do that over another t... (read in full...)
My GF has bad news that cannot be discussed over the phone, I'm left wondering what it could be until I can see her again in a few days...
Q. Hi everyone, I have been in a great relationship with my girlfriend for almost a year now. We are both 20 years old. Recently, I had to come back to my hometown for 3 months and I have been away from her. We have been writing to each other, chat...
A. 19 August 2008: Thank you all for your responses, I appreciate them very much.
Today I called her again and she seemed fine. But after just a few moments of talking to me she started to once again cry. I told her that we would see each other soon so she could be... (read in full...)
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