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writes:Last night was my first time at a nightclub in LA and a girl came up to me within my first 5 minutes of being there and asked if I'd like to come dance with her friends (it was one of her friends bachelloretes party) I complied and she started getting pretty heavy with the grinding so I bought her a drink, talked some more, then she said she had to go because they were on a "party bus" that would pick them up at 11 and take them to other nightclubs. I sadly thought that would be it, but luckily upon closing time, I ran into her outside and said "_____! It's you! I thought I'd never see you again!" and she laughed and hugged me and I told her I'd like to meet up again, so she gave me her number we kissed very briefly on the lips and she said "text me"Which brings me to my question...what should I text? The one I have so far is: "Hey ____! It's ___. It was great meeting you last night :) I'd love to see you again. How about we meet up for drinks next week?I know the message is a little rough, and I don't know if I should go straight into the ask out or do a little back and forth before asking out, because I've never done the meet a girl at a nightclub and follow up before, so any advice would be appreciated. Thanks for reading this far, hope you have a great day!
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (21 January 2015):
Roboaxe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Fun tidbit, I texted her a couple weeks ago (about 3 years after this happened) and she completely forgot we even met and sent me a picture of her two kids. Crazy huh?
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (11 June 2012):
Roboaxe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah...so it looks like it was kind of a one night thing. I texted her, got nothing, tried calling her a week later, and still got nothing.
Oh well. Thanks for the advice!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (7 May 2012):
Meh, I disagree about night club relationships not happening. I've met past boyfriends out at clubs and the guy I'm seeing now, I met him at a club 3-years ago.
I think you should take it easy with the first text. Maybe like, "Hey it's so-and-so from such and such place. How was the rest of your night?" If she responds...then you can go into how it was nice meeting her etc. etc. Then after a few exchanges and if she is also expressing an interest, then ask her out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): I think your text sounds pretty good!Nice and casual.
Y'know I don't think she was totally serious 'bout the whole thing.
She was clubbing-- night w/ the girls in LA, looking for funnn. Be calm around her, and realise that you might not be the only guy she met.
ANNIE33
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reader, Dataluke  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 No reason to be nervous, you are just asking to see her again, its like asking an old friend if they want to see you again.
At the moment there is nothing between you two so there is nothing for you too mess up, just be cool and be yourself and get to know her better. If she doesn't accept your invitation or doesn't respond then oh well, nothing lost.
Don't go sending the text thinking you might be getting yourself a girlfriend, she might only want to be friends, even after kissing you in the club.
All the best, Dataluke
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 A nightclub is not a place I would expect a relationship to happen. She probably ground a few more guys that night and gave her number to them. Maybe the last guy she met jumped her already. You are already worrying that you are going to mess it up. Just play it cool and say you are going to do this and this at a certain time and she is welcome to join you.
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