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writes:I'm going on a date with a 23 year old I met online tomorrow afternoon. Now, at 19, this is my first date. I havn't even told him that because I find it so embarrassing. We've planned on meeting at a mall. I'd like some ideas on fun, flirty, interesting things we can do. I was thinking maybe telling him I'm looking for a pair of things then window shop around with him and try on some things. Maybe pick out stuff that I think would look great on him too, make it a game of sorts. Would this be acceptable for a first date? Or do we just walk around aimlessly while eating icecream? I don't mind sitting down and simply talking to him, in fact, I can't wait! But I can be shy and I don't want that to be the only thing we do. I want it to be fun and unique from the other dates he had. There's no bowling or video game area nor photo booth at this particular place, so I don't know what to do. Could you please help with some suggestions?Oh, and also, if the chemistry is right and I might want to steal a quick kiss, how do I go about it without being rude to observers in public?
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reader, Roboaxe  +, writes (30 July 2014):
 Yep, just like everyone has said, he's the guy it's his job to make it fun.
And the venue doesn't matter. All you're doing it seeing if you connect with one another.
Have fun!
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (30 July 2014):
 I think you shouldn't worry about it too much. When the date arrives you two will find something to do. It will all happen in the moment. Just remember to have fun and make sure (as another aunt mentioned) that you notify someone of your whereabouts as you never know how dangerous this person could turn out to be. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014): I agree with Chi girl, he is the man he should take lead. So I wouldn't worry. As long as you've got chemistry you should have a laugh what ever you do :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 July 2014):
 For Heaven's sake just be careful, make sure friends and family know where you are going to be, have a "safe word" you can use if you need to call them for help. Preferably you will have a friend with you or planted at the mall to watch over you. And no kissing on this first meeting/date.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (30 July 2014):
 I like walking aimlessly at the mall and obviously you are not like that. Maybe you can just tell him to go bowling instead and afterwards catch a drink at the mall. It is not rude in public to steal a quick kiss. You can find a place in the mall that's not so crowded.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 July 2014):
 I would go and just follow his lead. He is the man, he's supposed to take charge and you just follow his lead. Maybe have a few options in case he doesn't have any ideas, but I would play it cool and let him decide. Men love it when they feel like they are in charge. Buying an ice cream and just walking around talking sounds perfect also. Doesn't need to be complicated, and the entire point is to talk and get to know one another.
Don't make it a shopping trip unless he suggests it. Men rarely want to come along with women shopping, and most men I know about find it completely boring. Besides, not knowing one another you wouldn't be comfortable expressing your opinion on clothes etc. Maybe he likes something you don't, and you wouldn't be able to say it because you don't want to offend him. I was recently on a shopping date, picking out a suit/shirt/tie for him. He chose a horrible tie, and I didn't tell him how horrible I thought it was because it wasn't in my place. I haven't known him long enough to tell the truth, lol. So I don't recommend it. I carefully just hinted at a different tie, but he didn't pick up on the hint, so I had to just let it pass.
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