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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years but about three days ago I met a guy on a chat line, he has been very nice to me and I started to get feelings for him. I love my boyfriend very much and don't believe in cheating but I really like this guy but don't wanna loose my boyfriend what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 You mutually parted and good for you . You can throw away all his baggage and fly again. Good Luck and enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Hi HunIm sorry to here of your breakup sweetheart its early days at this moment so you are going to feel really upset , But as time goes on you will get better and move on and you wont be alone forever, take care love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, unsure heart +, writes (23 February 2008):
unsure heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi everyone, I just wanted to thank you for all your advice, I have decided to leave my boyfriend because this week he told me that he's not inlove with me anymore and that he doesn't care as well, so I'm going to be on my own.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (12 February 2008):
You could bring a friend along to accompany you .Remember not to accept any lift from him .Be careful your drinks is not spiked.
Type this address in your search window to go to Google.
http://www.google.com/
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): HUNNY
NO!NO!NO!
DONT DO IT!
You just dont no who this person is, Plus you could go to the mall and he may want to go somewere else and you could be taken in by him, Just dont go its not worth it!
I could have googled my ex husbands name and lots of nasty stuff would have come up, But not now its gone. Hunny think properly about what your doing before it may be to late. TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, unsure heart +, writes (12 February 2008):
unsure heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe will meet a the mall, how do I google his name?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (12 February 2008):
You should not feel guilty to meet another man. You have done nothing wrong.You are just checking out some facts and you have not committed anything yet.
If you don't meet him, you will never know if he is real or not.
Get his real name and address. Then you can either Google his name or check out his place. Do not commit or promise him anything.
Meet him in a public place and try not to accept any lift from him. It could be dangerous.
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reader, unsure heart +, writes (12 February 2008):
unsure heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi laura he asked me when we could meet so we made a date for the end of februarie on the weekend because he's a truck driver so I know he's busy in the week and I have a wedding to go to the end of the month and I told him that and he said it was fine we could meet right after the wedding, this is not the first time he asked me to meet him, but I can't get away from home so I said no the first time. I really want to meet him but on the other hand I feel guilty, what do you think? I also have a history where guys messed with my heart the first one was worse cause I gave him my virginity because he pushed me into it, I wanto make sure this guy is really for real how do I do it?
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (11 February 2008):
 I REPEAT....DO NOT DO IT. I was emotionally scammed by a woman online. Everytime we were to meet something came up. Like a significant other. There are all sorts of predators and manipulative people on the net. Please be true to yourself. This forum helped me tremendously when I had my online trouble. I was emotionally devastated, and embarrassed because I let my guard down and was feeling inadequate. Along comes a gorgeous stripper who sought me out after looking at my website. Long story short.....I was blind to about every red flag that was thrown my way. In the end it got so bad that I basically curled up in a ball. In a short period of time we went from making small talk to saying the three little words that screwed my life up. I was a weaking and stupid to assume that this woman had any real feelings for me. It has taken me almost two months of punishing myself for being so stupid to get me out of my rut. I allowed myself to be manipulated at every turn. Everyone always seems so nice at first. One thing I will tell you though. If you do decide to have a go at it with your online suitor, demand a meeting asap. That will tell you many things. My girl put me off 3 times, with such tried and tested excuses as "I have a lot going on" or "Eventually, when the time is right". I bought it all hook line and sinker. We never met, and she dropped off the face of the earth only to reappear with the text message "I know what we have is real". This pattern wentin two to three week cycles, when she was obviously bored by her surroundings, she decides that she's gonna put some emotional hurt in me. I'm sorry I'm being long and blunt, but the pain of all of this is very fresh still. I hate to see someone potentially travel down this same path. Please find out as much as you can about this guy. In the long run, it's your heart that needs to be protected
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reader, unsure heart +, writes (11 February 2008):
unsure heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionToday the guy online told me that he's getting feelings for me and that in the end he will be the one getting hurt because he doesn't stand a chance with me because I'm already in a relationship, do you think his feelings may be for real and what should I do because I'm starting to get feelings for him too?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (11 February 2008):
Be careful of online friends. You don't know who they really are until you meet them in real life.They could be married or conman on the prowl.
Do some background checking first.
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reader, unsure heart +, writes (11 February 2008):
unsure heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi mady your right I don't know which way to turn right now, we just talked and he said that he is getting feelings for me but he's the one that will get hurt in the end because he doesn't stand a chance with me because i'm in a relationship already I'm so confused and don't know what to say to him, he is really sweet and I would want to meet him first but he lives a bit far from me. What's your advise on this one,plz help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): Hunny,
You have one person putting you down your b/f of three yrs this makes you feel horrible yea!
This man you have met on the internet, I will give you an explanation on how far some people will go, A friend of a friend was talking to this man on the dating sites he was due to come out and visit, She had told him she was 5"5 blond and of slim build and even managed to find a picture of a girl that met the desciption, She was 5"2 dark and rather bigger than she had stated the picture was a fake and he was on the boat inlove and on his way to visit with the hope of settling down and being happy, As they had been talking for over 6months along with all the othr men she was also taking the piss out of, This made me angry and its so dangerous to take anyones word in a week hunny, Please think whats going on here he is being nice your b/f is being a tit at the moment, First why are you on dating sites when you have a b/f and why do you need this mans promices so much so soon. I feel you have deep insecuritys at this moment and you dont no which way to turn, People do meet on the net and things can be good but not this quickly he is telling you he loves you he doesnt know you,
http://www.refresharticles.com/articles/dating/the_dangers_of_online_dating.txt
http://health.discovery.com/centers/teen/mentalhealth/esteem.html
Hunny ive sent you two links please have a read and be very carefull WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (11 February 2008):
 If your relationship with your boyfriend isn't working, you should end things with him based on that, not because some other guy of three days is a sweet talker.Jumping out of a three year relationship right into another one? Not a good move.You've never met the online guy, you don't know if the information he has given you is honest, you don't know if you will have any chemistry in real life.If he is already using the word love, I highly doubt he really knows the meaning.
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reader, unsure heart +, writes (11 February 2008):
unsure heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand but the thing is my boyfriend keeps putting me down and believe me i have tried talking to him over and over. The guy fron the chatline has send me many photo's of him and we have been chatting for bout a week now and about two days ago he already said he loved me what do I do about that?
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (11 February 2008):
It is EASY to make someone feel loved and wanted and gorgeous on the internet within three days of meeting them. What's difficult is maintaining a relationship of three years.I'm going to make an assumption here and guess that the online guy is full of beautiful words and flattery that your boyfriend no longer does so frequently?If you are considering throwing away three years for a guy on the internet you should be questioning your relationship anyway.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (9 February 2008):
Do Not Do It. I myself was in a situation online with someone who told me everything I wanted to hear. This woman proved to be nothing more than a manipulative liar. Tread Lightly. Think about what you are saying....3 days? I would try to search within yourself as to why a 3 year relationship could even be questioned after speaking to someone online for three days. What is wrong with YOUR Relationship that you would even consider it?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (7 February 2008):
Just enjoy the attentions and the flirting. Don't take it serious because it could be a girl or a married man or a machine..LOL! There is a Russian Casanova unleashed online and it is a program .
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reader, Jovial +, writes (7 February 2008):
 The chat site charmer might be really charming but the question you need to ask yourself is 'Is it worth it to build something for 3nhalf years and destroy it with a 3 days fling?
You dont know this guy but you do know your bofriend if you aint happy in your relationship with him then leave him. But dont jump to a relationship with some one you hardly know, what you read does not necessarly mean its gonna be what you will see or have.
Becareful honey the world might end up not being a better place for you if you dont open your eyes wide.
Jovial
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reader, red1982  +, writes (7 February 2008):
Please don't meet up with someone you've only known three days through a chat site. You really don't know who they are - I mean like now I say that im a 26 year old married woman, but I could be anyone right?? You wouldn't know if I was male, female, young or old unless I chose to tell you.
I think maybe things have got a bit stale with your b/f that's why you are interested in someone else so quickly. Either try to put a bit of spark into your relationship or break up with him and find someone new (not over chat sites.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
You only no what you have read, You canot no this person and my advise is be very carefull, Stick with your b/f and stop talking to the guy online, You could loose your b/f for someone that is not how they appear. If you have a problem with your b/f then talk to him sweetheart is this really worth the heartache it could cause, Anyone can say wonderful and lovely words via online messaging and you can get drawn into it say because you havent heard those words from your partner in awhile I dont think its worth it love not at all TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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