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writes:Hi,im 16 and im really really self conscious of my breasts. basically ever since i was about 13 they have been really uneven, one at least a cupsize smaller than the other.it never used to bother me, but now ive started getting into more serious relationships im getting more worked up and paranoid about it. i have also started to notice a difference when im wearing tighter tops too. its just making me so unhappy.my boyfriend and i have talked about having sex, and taking our relationship to the next level and i just feel so unhappy about it that i just cant.is there a way of making one of them bigger without surgery? or hiding it? hes a really good guy and i dont think he would say anything but im just worried of what he might think.i know it just sounds like im wallowing in self pity but it really does make me feel this bad.id be really greatful for any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): i have the samething and i hate i as well.
but there is really nothing you can do about it.
wait a couple years maybe they will even out.
and im pretty sure ur boyfriend wont care i've had lost of guys see my mine and none of them cared at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice guys :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): One side of mine is bigger than the other - maybe about a cup size. Last time I got a bra professionally fitted / measured up the woman said that most women are uneven so you fit your bra according to the cup of the bigger side. I have found that a slightly padded bra helps with this too. No man I have ever been with has ever noticed.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 I say leave them as they are. The only option is surgery. Have you tried the birth control pill? If you are considering sex that would be good in either case, but sometimes they make your boobs grow. Not saying they will grow to be of equal size, but you never know. This is just genetics though! You have one breast naturally growing larger than the other, and many many women experience having breasts of different size. I have different sixes breats too and I know how upsetting it can be. I particulary hate looking at them when trying on clothes in stores because of all the mirrors just making it more obvioius how different they are. The best comfort I have: find proper bras! Try getting a person who works in a store to help you find the right bra for you. If you go to a good store there should be some personal help to get. It help a lot with your boob self-esteem, plus with a good bra on you can't tell much of a difference.If this continues to bother you later on in life I would suggest that you instead of enlarging the one boob, have an operation to make the larger boob smaller. That way you will still have natural boobs that both look and feel natural, instead of having silicone in one or both breasts.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 My honest advice is, "leave them as they are". I bet they are fine and you're just concerned about his seeing you naked.
I have one ear higher than the other. You see, when my head was crowning, the doctor grabbed me by the ears and he pulled as hard as he could. The good doctor didn't notice he was leaning more to one side than to the other, and he pulled like crazy (I've always been stubborn), so now my ears are not level. I like to think he "earmarked" me.
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reader, Polaroid93 +, writes (18 April 2010):
You just have to learn to not mind it, I have a similar issue but "down there" and I have learned to ignore it and I'm fine, just remebrr you have your health!
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reader, ***__***  +, writes (18 April 2010):
I have the same exact problem you do.
I've always had one at least a cup size bigger than the other, and to make matter worse I had premature sagging to go along with it.
So be sorta happy you've only got a little bit of a problem.
If you and your boyfriend are at the point of getting serious, you should have no problem being able to talk to him about your problem.
If he cares so much about it that he would break up with you, then hes not worth your time.
Though, I've been dating a guy for a while and even with him knowing I'm still insecure about it.
If it helps, you could wear a bra during sex. also, to help with the whole hiding it while wearing shirts.
there are special bras made that have extra padding in one cup, i think you can find it by just going to google.
or they have blob things you can fill your bra with that makes everything look normal, and there are also bras to keep them in place so you dont have to worry about it poping out or anything.
i hope this helped you.
and remember, no matter what flaws you have, you are beautiful.
eventually, you'll learn to accept the body you have.
I've had the problem since I started growing boobs, I'm now 23 and just recently began realizing that I'm me and my boobs shouldn't affect the way I feel about myself.
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