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writes: What is the treatment and the causes of psychological impotence? I'm 47, and few years ago I lost my sex drive and my erections. Suddenly. Went to doctors,but they have no idea,what is going on, as Im not sick. All tests are normal.. My marriage is falling apart, and I have no idea what to do. Please help!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 Here is a post where Troubletoomuch gives out a lot of advice about testerone issues. He's no longer on the site, so his advice comes up as anonymous. Please read it, and investigate more.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-ed-how-common-is-this-over.html
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reader, Miamine +, writes (16 April 2010):
Normal hormones and no desire at all...
Do you have no sexual desire, pornography, masterbation, nothing.
Wish Troubletoomuch was still here, he was an expert in testosterone problems in men. He said there are two test to take, and sometimes they don't show problems which are there.
Please search the internet and look for self-help groups which give advice for men with testosterone problems. The can give you advice about all the tests and what you need to look for. Then go back to your doctor, you'll have more information and will know exactly what to ask for. Other than that, it can only be a mental block. This whole issue is distressing, please book into a counsellor to discuss this, it will help you and your wife know that at least your seeking treatment and trying to fix things.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 A huge question for you: Do you masturbate still? Do you watch or look at porn? That's a drawback of porn - you get so used to masturbation and the porn imagery that conventional sex doesn't do it for you.
Otherwise, if the answer is "no", I'm thinking some protracted counseling might be good for you, because only YOU can answer the psychological questions, and you need a professional to help you figure out what it is.
There's the possibility that it may be physical as well, and that's for an MD to determine as well.
I can understand a wife being worried that it's her. A man's body never lies, even if he does. It may not be her, and then again, it may very well be. When communication problems (or a secret porn habit) or past infidelity is in play, sometimes it can show up in the sex life. You could be upset that she doesn't look like she did when you married too. That's up to you to figure out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010): Yes my hormones are normal.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 April 2010):
 Your testorone levels were normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010): Yes ,I m married,, and my wife thinks,its her. And ,well I don't know. Because I never think of sex. So ,I can't just take a pill,because,you need to have desire..That is why Im frustrated,and looking for help.
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reader, Polaroid93 +, writes (16 April 2010):
Sorry missed the end of the question. But yeah, lack of desire I would go for?
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reader, Polaroid93 +, writes (16 April 2010):
I would say it could be no desire, and I wouldn't assume you lost it just that there is no one you truely desire at the moment? Are you married? A Bachelor?
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