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writes:Ok, so there's this guy I've been talking to a lot lately- we share core interests, enjoy talking, have some mutual friends, etc. We definitely flirt w/ each other, but whether or not he likes me as more than friends puzzles me-now more than ever.The other night he texts me and said how I've likely noticed him acting strangely(he really hasn't been acting strange AT ALL to me :\ ). He continued on w/ how he heard I like him and he's "doubtful"(whatever that's supposed to me in this context?) because I'm one of the only people he can discuss writing with and he doesn't want to lose me because relationships ruin things...Um so is this him wanting to stay friends simply because he doesn't return the feelings? But wouldn't he say so if that was the case? If for some reason he does return any feelings, does he really not think it's worth the risk?(By the way, later in the conversation when I said I've heard he likes me too, he didn't deny it...he avoided it)
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1  +, writes (27 November 2010):
He was letting you down nicely, and that was a good thing to do. Now, what you must do is never ever ever bring it up again. And be completely okay with him not feeling the same. Do not be mean, or rude, do not flirt, just continue being nice to him and move on.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 November 2010):
 Basically he's not into you like you are him, hence why he avoided the topic altogether. He let you down nicely, gave you the old "relationships ruin things" spiel. In other words, he wants to be friends but didn't come right out and say it. No guy is going to come right out and say "No, I don't like you. I'd rather keep it as friends."
So no he doesn't like you, otherwise he would say he's interested and not knock the idea of a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Him saying he is doubtful is probably just a sign that something is going on in his life right now and he just needs sometime. Also saying he doubtful is NOT a sign that he does not like you. He just needs some time. Talk to him it might help.
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