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I feel like I'm the ultimate "generic" girl

Q.   I'm feeling sad because I'm starting to wonder if the reason I've had nothing but back luck (with guys) in my 29 years is because there is something wrong with me. Other girls have boyfriends who love them, and I wish and wish I could know what ...

A.   22 March 2009: I'll be honest and tell you I didn't read the entire of your message but it seems fairly obvious to me why you haven't found someone you love just yet. If you don't love and value yourself then how can you expect somebody else to? You claim you are ... (read in full...)

How does he feel about me after our date?

Q.   I went cinema with this guy. We had a good time. He sent me a text saying how great it was and we should go out again and gave some suggestions. I text back argeeing. Its been a week since, and he seems pretty different. Doesnt speak online fir...

A.   22 February 2009: Maybe he's just not that into you? OR you're just totally over-thinking things because you like him and are worried that he might not feel the same and so are nitpicking at tiny details. Just relax and take it easy yeah? The guy seems to lik... (read in full...)

Can you name some fun places to have sex?

Q.   me and my gf have been together since Decemember and she wants to know where are the best places to have sex besides inside the house or the car? cause she likes doing it in different places... name a few places would help us!! thank ...

A.   21 February 2009: In a house tree.... (read in full...)

Can you name some fun places to have sex?

Q.   me and my gf have been together since Decemember and she wants to know where are the best places to have sex besides inside the house or the car? cause she likes doing it in different places... name a few places would help us!! thank ...

A.   21 February 2009: Helicopter.... (read in full...)

Did I just had an orgasm?

Q.   Soooo my gf and me were having fun she was giving me a handjob and i was getting close to finishing i started shaking and when i did it looked like a hose had gone off in my pants..... after i was freezing and the light killed my eyes and it almost ...

A.   21 February 2009: Are you sure whilst you were not looking your girlfriend didn't put a hose in your pants? To me that would make more sense. :)... (read in full...)

I'm sure permanent lovesickness can cause damage - and I need some motivational tips.

Q.   Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY liked this guy that was 4 y...

A.   19 January 2009: Sorry if I came off as cruel but I just don't see why anybody would twist the truth on an anonymous forum? I just read through the answers on the other questions you posted, you will learn nothing new unless you try to move the situation forwar... (read in full...)

I'm sure permanent lovesickness can cause damage - and I need some motivational tips.

Q.   Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY liked this guy that was 4 y...

A.   19 January 2009: Was wondering if you could clear something else up for me too please. - Profile says you are 15-17. You claim you are 18. You say you are a barrister? You're lying about something because that is simply impossible. Care to straighten up yo... (read in full...)

I'm sure permanent lovesickness can cause damage - and I need some motivational tips.

Q.   Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY liked this guy that was 4 y...

A.   19 January 2009: I saw you wrote this question before on the 2nd of January and said you would write him a letter. Whatever happened to that letter I wonder? I think it would be a good idea to try and get it off your chest, you never know, it could help! I kno... (read in full...)

Would I ever find love?

Q.   What am I doing wrong.....? How many times did you get your heart broken before you found the right guy your with? I've been hurt by 4 guys now and dont think I can take it any more.. I am a nice girl.. am not clingy or needy.. I give guys their sp...

A.   15 January 2009: You're choosing the wrong guys. ... (read in full...)

Why is my boyfriend doing this? Please help me!

Q.   Me and my BF got into an argument.. he got really angry and started saying horrible things to me.. he said I am always whining and..(f*king about with other guys).. he said I am not having sex with him so someone else must be getting since he ain't ...

A.   15 January 2009: I don't get it. How could you possibly fall for a guy like that? Wipe him off your shoe. ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong that I like to "tease" guys?

Q.   I don't really like to hook up with boys any more but I like to have fun and the attention they give me. At parties, I dance and flirt with guys all the time and they think they will have sex with me but I don't even give them a kiss. Is it wrong to ...

A.   14 January 2009: If you don't have any intention of getting with them then please don't bother. It's a really bad quality to have, you don't know how much you could be hurting somebody. It's not just a joke to everyone else. ... (read in full...)

I've read that my first love is in a relationship. We broke up a year and a half ago... Why am I so upset??

Q.   Hi, I was feeling a little curious just now about the first girl I loved. I took a look at her myspace just to see if there was anything new about her. It says she's in a relationship now and, even though it's been a year and a half since we br...

A.   13 January 2009: Hey, I read your question and felt really sad for you buddy. Then I realised that I have actually spoken to you in the past over DearCupid and I'm sorry to hear that you still haven't recovered from your ex. I guess I don't really have any advi... (read in full...)

Do guys like girls who go horseriding?

Q.   do guys like girls who do horseriding or they think girls who horserifing are posh and snobby...

A.   11 January 2009: Guys like girls who are interesting and have interesting hobbies. Horse riding is an interesting hobby, you cant go wrong. ... (read in full...)

I'm the myserious texter! Did he figure it out?

Q.   hello for a month i have been texting my crush and he keeps asking who i am. as i feel its better and more mysterious he doesnt know who i am the other day he text me saying "i know who this is " he then straight after text back saying " i hav...

A.   11 January 2009: He could easily have got the number off your mate Tom? Or anyone else who has your number and compared it to his phone? I don't think there is anything wrong in letting him know who you are. ... (read in full...)

What can be done about my big breasts? Some of my friends are poking fun at me.

Q.   Hi everyone i have big breast please help me i dn't no what to do about it. Some of my friends are making a jest of me. If i wear some of my clothes i don't fill comfortable about my dress and myself. Is there any medication for it. Please help me ...

A.   20 November 2008: Go hang out with some boys. They wont mind, promise. ... (read in full...)

Ladies, would you be ok with "showing a guy the ropes" if its his first time?

Q.   Experience over viridity? I am a very unsure of what is expected of me, in terms of sex, by females. I was brought up with the idea that when you have sex, it should be with someone whom you love, or at the very least, like quite a lot, but am be...

A.   17 November 2008: I would really like to hear some more answers!... (read in full...)

He says I'm being silly, but am I?

Q.   I dont know my man anymore... Last night he really embarressed me infront of friends. we went to our friends and i cooked dinner. while at table my friend got up and asked if my man wanted a drink, he was talking and talkin to the guy ne...

A.   13 November 2008: If you've been with him for 9 years and hes never acted like this before then he may be unhappy with something in his life, not neccesarily you but maybe he is stressed because of work or something. Ask him if there is something on his mind maybe? ... (read in full...)

How do I prove myself?

Q.   I have been in a relationship with this guy I met online. Every phase of this relationship was so rushed and unexpected. It was after about 4 months of serious long distance relationship did we meet. First meeting and we ended up in bed. He thinks I ...

A.   13 November 2008: Cheated twice?! A cheetah never changes his stripes. (I think that's how it goes?!) It's not important! What's important is the fact he is a cheat, always will be and you are much better off without him. Don't think it over any more,... (read in full...)

DON'T SECOND GUESS YOURSELF...

Q.   Many years ago Indian braves would go away in solitude to prepare for manhood. One hiked into a beautiful valley, green with trees and bright with flowers. There as he looked up at the surrounding mountains, he noticed a rugged peak capped with ...

A.   13 November 2008: Can all snakes really be judged as equals? There may be a snake out there that really would have appreciated being rescued! Although I do try and listen to my gut instincts I think everyone deserves a chance. Lets just hope the snake gets ... (read in full...)

Sex For the First Time

Q.   Having sex for the first time in a relationship can be a scary, and even stressful thing. Especially if you are a virgin, like I was. I am 18 years old, and my boyfriend is 19. We have been dating for almost two months and we had discussed the idea ...

A.   13 November 2008: I'm happy that you waited until you felt passionately about somebody before making a move on it. Your boyfriend sounds like a really decent guy too! I'm glad you found each other and waited until it was right. Good article with good advice! ... (read in full...)

My husband has had sexual thoughts about my little sister...

Q.   hi i have been married now for five years and been with my partner for seven years. we have two lovely children. i myself made some mistakes at the very beginning of our relationship which we overcame. everything was wonderful and we were happy ...

A.   4 November 2008: I completely misread your question it seems. You never mentioned dreams at all. Disregard what I wrote before! Sorry. The other posters seem to have the right idea though. Feel free to rate me down! Best of luck! x... (read in full...)

How can I justify my coldness towards her without revealing that I love her?

Q.   I'm in a bit of a situation. Last week I told my unrequited love that I really liked her and that I'm going to need some space so that I can get over her. She disagreed and thought that cutting me off was a bad idea, saying that we should just carry ...

A.   3 November 2008: Thanks for being so prompt. Sent.... (read in full...)

My husband has had sexual thoughts about my little sister...

Q.   hi i have been married now for five years and been with my partner for seven years. we have two lovely children. i myself made some mistakes at the very beginning of our relationship which we overcame. everything was wonderful and we were happy ...

A.   3 November 2008: I think you are missing the concept of dreams. That's exactly what they are! He hasn't actually slept with your sister and just because he dreamt about it doesn't mean that he wants to either. Dreams can be very confusing and rarely make sense. ... (read in full...)

Unrequited love - what to do?

Q.   Well, how to start... I've fallen in love with this one guy (we'll refer to him as Joe). Now, Joe (to me) is perfect. He's an amazing musician, he's funny, and he's extremely intelligent. I'm one of those people who is quiet, shy, overweight and ...

A.   2 November 2008: I am going through something very similar and have thought about it a lot. Unrequited love sucks more than anything and I genuinely feel for you. I'd tell him how you feel. I found it much too difficult to say it to them in person so I sent her an... (read in full...)

When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!

Q.   My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...

A.   31 October 2008: This is an old question I know but I thought I'd update it. Friend 1 asked her out, she said no. Friend 2 asked her out, she said no. I asked her out yesterday, she said no. Life sucks.... (read in full...)

How can I stop her from keeping baking me cookies?

Q.   Hi, I'm 13, my mum keeps baking cookies for me and I don't like them. I've spoken to her about this but she insists on baking them. The other day I opened up my lunch box at school and there they were, her home made cookies. I can't stand the taste ...

A.   22 October 2008: Can I have them? ... (read in full...)

Best friend trust or love for the boy we both loved as kids. Truth or lie now?

Q.   I need advice asap! Okay, there this boy we'll call him Tom and there's my best friend in the world Kim. We tell each other everything and are super close for so many years now she is also my blood cousin.Well here's my problem when I first met Tom ...

A.   18 October 2008: Just tell your friend that you really like Tom. There is absolutely nothing either of you can do about it and she would have absolutely no reason to be mad at you. Having a kid crush on somebody does not make them your property! On top of this if ... (read in full...)

Am I just causing myself a headache to believe in the stars?

Q.   Oh, this is kinda like an astrology question. I'm a Virgo and my boyfriend is Libra. I've had a lot of readings everywhere and people saying that the two are not a match made in heaven. But what me and my boyfriend have seems to be totally real and ...

A.   22 September 2008: Why would the time of year that you and your boyfriend are born affect your personality in any way? Doesn't that seem silly? Surely star signs are completely and totally irrelevant to anything. Just my two cents.... (read in full...)

I got drunk and broke most of the windoes at my school, why is my friend offering to help me?

Q.   hate my life .All the teachers hate at my school my guts. My family is poor (we don't have a lot of nice things). One night I got so drunk that I broke most of the windows at my school with baseball bat. I can barely remember it. When told one ...

A.   21 September 2008: I think it is cute that she is offering to help you to pay for the windows. She is just being kind towards you. However I am unsympathetic towards your situation. You should not accept any money off anybody to pay for the windows and instead should ... (read in full...)

How do shy girls like to be asked out?

Q.   This may have been asked a million times but I still haven't found the proper advice, even after searching the web. I'm thinking of asking someone out but I have absolutely no idea how to (without her thinking it's going out just as friends). I know ...

A.   7 September 2008: There is no right of wrong way to ask her out. A simple text is usually good. Its unintrusive, direct and she has time to figure out an excuse if she wants to. It cant fail! :) As for the wording I think you can figure that part out for yourself. ... (read in full...)

Any suggestions on how to approach her outside facebook?

Q.   Hello, Regarding the girl I started talking to on facebook, started flirting with, came up with an instrumental piece of music for (who thought it was really sweet when I told her and she liked the piece as well) and am meeting Fresher's week i...

A.   6 September 2008: An interesting situation, one which vaguely resembles a situation I am in too. I have noticed you have posted other questions similar to this one but you have remained anonymous on all of them so I can't go back and recollect any other information ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin in the classical sense, and I would like my 'initiation' to be done by someone who knows what they're doing.

Q.   Fifteen, sexually charged, and without a viable outlet. Okay so I'm not the type of girl to deny the fact that I do indeed have needs, I like to explore myself, and there isn't anything wrong with that. Now to my problem. I've never had a boyfrien...

A.   4 August 2008: I dont really want to either encourage you nor inhibit your ambitions so will do my best to keep this vague. Im afraid I dont think I possess enough knowledge or experience to answer your question but just wanted to add this snippit. When I was 15... (read in full...)

I just want her to leave him alone and get on with her life and let him with his. How can I make this happen?

Q.   hello everybody. just wondering if you could help me with something. i recently got together with this guy after alot of grief. he basically wouldnt get together with me as he wasnt ready to let go of his ex yet. he was more than willing to get phyi...

A.   4 August 2008: Can you hear that horrible noise? Its the sound of your boyfriend choking because his leash is too tight. Getting him to show you his texts and listen in on his calls? Come on woman, youre not his mother! Infact, even his mother would be far over... (read in full...)

He lied to his ex-girlfriend. He lied to me about having an orgasm. Now the trust is gone.

Q.   I have just had a very honest discussion regarding sex, with my boyfriend. He once had a threesome (MMF)although claims it did not involve full blown sex. He was in a long term relationship with another girl at the time (5 years) and claimed he ...

A.   25 July 2008: Give him this, although he hasnt always been honest with you in the past it does seem hes doing his best to rectify his mistakes and is being brutally honest with you on some points. Has he told you the whole story? Who knows, by the sounds of the ... (read in full...)

Are men programmed to lose interest in a woman after they've had sex?

Q.   I,ve been flirting with a friend of mine for months and yesterday we finally had sex. Today I feel that i really could be in love with him, but i have this feelin that now hes finally got his shag i'll hardly see him - and before u say it the sex ...

A.   25 July 2008: You used the word "programmed" which is interesting. I presume by this you mean it is subconsious and there is nothing that you can really do about it, and not the cliche that "all men are after is sex". The answer to your first question is no, a... (read in full...)

He's having an arranged marriage - I felt so hurt and betrayed. Then someone told his bride-to-be and I feel like I've ruined their marriage...

Q.   My boyfriend that I am in love with told me he is going to spend a couple of months in his country. He has been dropping subtle hints to me that he might get an arranged marriage but he NEVER told me directly. He has to respect his family and go ...

A.   16 July 2008: Oh dear. It really would have been wise to approach this situation a lot more delicately. Infact it would have been a good move to come to this website to get advice BEFORE you go through with your actions and then ask if you made the right choice. ... (read in full...)

Should I delete my troubled Ex/first love as a facebook friend to help get over her?

Q.   It's been 14 days since I stopped talking with my Ex/first love. We were together 9 months broke up twice and then were friends. We had sex back in June, then after I found out she had sex with someone else decided to cut her out of my life. I loved ...

A.   14 July 2008: I'll keep this short, delete her. ... (read in full...)

We've been together for about a year now and I always get confused about whether I like him or not...

Q.   i've been with my boyfriend for about a year.. i always get confused if i love him or not but when im around him i always cant help but smile .. and get butterflies and always can't stop thinking about him .. i don't know its really werid but i ...

A.   14 July 2008: You're right, that is incredibly confusing! Sometimes I feel the same. I could be very wrong (I usually am!) but this is how I look at it. Consider a word, any word at all, lets say the word "glass". If you think about that word over and over again ... (read in full...)

I feel like we have a connection, but she's got a boyfriend. Do I tell her how I feel?

Q.   Apologies for the long question, but I feel I need to enter details. Quick introduction. I'm having confused feelings over a female friend. I'm 18 she is 17 just over a year younger than me. She started in sixth form college (UK) the year below...

A.   14 July 2008: Hey. I'll start by saying I am the same age as you and have also just finished 6th form and hope to be going to university this September. As far as I know absolutely every single one of my friends who is in a relationship plans to break up when ... (read in full...)

Are all of my positive qualities "outweighed" by the way I look?

Q.   I am 6 foot 18 years old dark haired. Unfortunately I am very overweight. My looks aren't bad for my weight, and I have good posture and can generally hold in my stomach. But it doesn't hide my weight. I have been told that I am a really sweet guy...

A.   13 July 2008: Actually I'd say your situation right now is looking very good. If your weight is your biggest "negative" then youre on a good track simply because it is a problem that is very easy to rectify. Exercise and the weight will fall off you. It ca... (read in full...)

When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!

Q.   My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...

A.   9 June 2008: Ok. Another huge turn of events. I think this is it this time. Although Jack has been giving me advice on the situation I dont think he has my interests at heart at all. I found out that he kissed her again - or "she kissed him" or some bullshit. ... (read in full...)

When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!

Q.   My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...

A.   6 June 2008: Ok heres the current situation. My first best friend has backed right off - I think he must know how much I like her. My second best friend has shown very little interest in comparison with myself and I think I actually have a shot at this. Ive k... (read in full...)

When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!

Q.   My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...

A.   1 June 2008: q1605! I appreciate you are trying to help but do you really think thats a good path to take?!! You want me to take him down an alleyway and as far as I can tell, either try and beat him up whilst hes drunk or make him think hes playing a game of ... (read in full...)

When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!

Q.   My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...

A.   1 June 2008: Heres what happened, my best friend has bascally completely backed off. Yay right? No. My OTHER best friend met her seperately on the same night as I did and fancies her too. We have alot more in common with each other than my other best friend. He ... (read in full...)

When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!

Q.   My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...

A.   31 May 2008: Hahahaha this gets sooooo much worse it's untrue. I shall update you as soon as I get back home from going out.... (read in full...)

When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!

Q.   My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...

A.   30 May 2008: Thanks for what youve all said so far - I read all your advice carefully and tried to put it into practice as best I could. This has been very helpful so far! Well back to the situation at hand, I didnt write this in before as I thought it would... (read in full...)

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